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Down on your luck? Omit positive energy!

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At one time I used to always look for girls, and as usual, to little to no avail. I had a a mostly negative mindset about everything. "I won't find a girlfriend", "I'm probably that all that attractive" and so on. Down on my luck, I just decided to say "To heck with it", and turned things around. I stopped thinking negative thoughts and became happy with myself and started thinking positively. I started smiling more, making more jokes and just having fun in general. Somehow, this feel is magnetically charged feeling made other people around me feel it too. I met and talked to 3 girls in one week because of my inner self confidence and positive attitude. And I was not even looking for them. It just sort of, "happened". Even a girl I used to like(in which I still kind of do, just not as much) has started to "relike" me again.

 

So I guess in a sense, what I want to say is that I know we're all a little self conscious at times, but if we put that aside and start thinking positively for our future, chances are that you'll find more people to date and that will be attracted to you. I personally don't believe anyone wants to date or even be bothered with someone that's always sad, depressed and miserable because he or she chooses to be. When I was "miserable", I was going nowhere, and I saw guys with cute girls all the time. But now that I've become more positive and blocked out all the negative thoughts, I talk to girls more often, look at them, compliment them, etc. And I go about it be just being myself. Not too nice. Not being a jerk. Just being me.

 

I really didn't want to make an advice thread, I just wanted to let the people who are having a hard time finding someone to just take it easy, think positively, and just be patient. It'll come to you when you're not looking as long as you remain in the optimistic outlook on things.

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Congrats!

But if being positive and happy isn't working?

 

You may think it's not, but it may well be. Girls can be shy towards you because they may think that you're too good for them. If you talk to them(if they don't come to you), just politely talk to them, crack some jokes, etc.

 

Once you've established your positive energy, find a girl you want to share it with. The key is that not only do you want to be positive, you want to show girls/guys that you want to share that with them. Positive energy always ensures that person will have a fun time with you, no matter how bad things are.

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You may think it's not, but it may well be. Girls can be shy towards you because they may think that you're too good for them. If you talk to them(if they don't come to you), just politely talk to them, crack some jokes, etc.

 

Once you've established your positive energy, find a girl you want to share it with. The key is that not only do you want to be positive, you want to show girls/guys that you want to share that with them. Positive energy always ensures that person will have a fun time with you, no matter how bad things are.

 

 

I don't date girls.

Even though maybe I should if I want to get any experience.

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