some insperation

[blondie100]

hey, I'm new here. I dont wana bore u with my story but me and my bf broke up a little while ago. Everytime I wanted to contact him I looked at this page of little sayings i had found. If u feel the urge to text/call try reading these before u go to bed or whenever you need to, it helped me. It might not be of any help but you never know...

 

not call, write to, and least of all stalk the dumper. It is absolutely of no use. Stay out of their way as much as possible. Emailing is permitted for urgent messages (such as, you have run over their cat), but try to keep it simple. Avoid lengthy lamentations on how they broke your poor little heart (chances are they already know as much). In short, be dignified.

 

It's important to grieve and then make a clean break of it - let go! It's the only way to maintain your dignity (do not fall prey to being petty and vindictive - exercise maturity and restraint), and at the same time prove to yourself that you have the strength to exist independently. Not easy, but very important.

 

When you've been dumped and your heart is breaking, imagine him in a tutu. And ballet shoes.

 

The feelings lose strength over time and you start to get over it (they honestly will!) Love isn't an emotion that can be switched off, but it does fade after a time.

 

It’s just a matter of time, so be patient with yourself – you’ll get there.

 

Think of a break up this way: you're one step closer to the one you're meant to be with.

 

It's very common to overly romanticise the good parts of a relationship, convincing yourself that maybe the bad parts weren't so bad after all,

 

Remind yourself that the only thing worse than the pain of a breakup is continuing a relationship that was not right for one or both of you.

 

Sometimes the best thing to do is to set each other free.

 

think about whose fault it was - everyone makes mistakes. Don't worry about it.

 

go. See that there is no sense in still being heartbroken, regretful, and harboring hatred towards that person. You can congratulate yourself for being brave enough to take a risk and fall in love, and encourage your heart that even though love didn't work out this time, there will be a next time.

 

xx

[ad-mortem]

Good post

Also,

When you've been dumped and your heart is breaking, imagine him in a tutu. And ballet shoes.

XD

[franfran]

When you've been dumped and your heart is breaking, imagine him in a tutu. And ballet shoes.

 

Ahahahahaha.

I had to quote the same thing because I actually laughed out loud.

 

Nice post!!

[julioiglesia]

This post is sexist lol what if the dumper is a she? how should I picture her in?

 

sorry for stomping on your parade.

 

but you wrote very short and sweet very good

[SighSob]

Yeah what if the dumper is a she? Cause a hot girl tends to look hot no matter what dresses you picture her in....

[julioiglesia]

But seriously, being here at ENA daily, i see a lot of people who are heartbroken and in need for answer. and this post is powerful since it addresses to everybody who are in need of answers.

 

 

"Think of a break up this way: you're one step closer to the one you're meant to be with.

 

Remind yourself that the only thing worse than the pain of a breakup is continuing a relationship that was not right for one or both of you."

 

these two points are the key to emotional emancipation. That this pain that we all go through due to the break up will be beneficial in hindsight.

[metrogirl]

Yeah what if the dumper is a she? Cause a hot girl tends to look hot no matter what dresses you picture her in....

 

Then shall we picture a female dumper in army boots and a potato sack? LOL

[blondie100]

lol tbh i didnt think of the dumper being a girl-that is a very good point!lol glad some ppl liked the post, if i feel down or whatever i read thru them, usually makes me feel a bit better, spesh before i go to bed xx