Need help I'm a high schooler

[infinitism]

I'm high schooler and I like this girl. We had a date but the second time I texted her to go with me to watch a movie but she gave me the "maybe later answer. I told her I would call her sometime but I think it's pretty clear she isn't interested (one reason is she never calls or texts me). I honestly think I was being "too available". Is moving on my only option? If I don't call her until winter break ends, what will happen? What would you do if you reaaaaally wanted to be with this girl?

[homeagain]

if you really like her, it seems like telling her or making it crystal clear you are putting yourself out there for a real date might be a good idea. that is the only way you can really know how she feels.

 

you can pull back if you think you are too available, but that might just make things more unclear because she could think you have moved on or lost interest.

 

high school sucks. stay strong and be willing to put yourself out there, it's the only way you ever find anything really good. good luck!

[rbr85]

Don't treat her like a friend. Don't wait for her approval. Jump in and get what you want, and if she rejects you or isn't interested then move on. Don't tell her you like her, she's pretty, etc... at this early stage it will come off as needy. You expressed interest by offering to make plans with her, that right there shows her you are interested. Now, if she wants you she'll take the wheel. You can't force anyone to feel attraction. Be busy doing things to improve your life, instead of making yourself too available. It shows you are a person who is worthwhile.

[infinitism]

high school sucks. stay strong and be willing to put yourself out there, it's the only way you ever find anything really good. good luck!

 

Lol that is so true!

[hmdreamer7]

high school does suck, lol!!! She could be playing games with you though, which could mean she's still interested. And she probably already knows how you feel about her after your first date. But if you don't call her until after winter break, I don't see any harm in that... this is a time to spend with family, a lot of people lose touch at this time and then get back together after the holidays, esp with people you aren't yet close with yet.

[Mguy92]

The constant games between people trying to get in relationships is what's currently turning me off from wanting to date anyone. I am a high schooler, and I'm starting to grow apathetic toward the concept of teenage dating. It seems like a waste of time if it doesn't last long at all.

[infinitism]

Here is more detail: she said that she was sorry and she had plans, and then she said "but maybe later so I'm not quite sure if she really did blow me off.

 

But in any case if she is into me, what would she think when she sees me in school again (in a week)? Thanks for the support you guys

[Mguy92]

Here is more detail: she said that she was sorry and she had plans, and then she said "but maybe later so I'm not quite sure if she really did blow me off.

 

But in any case if she is into me, what would she think when she sees me in school again (in a week)? Thanks for the support you guys

 

"maybe later" isn't specific enough, and is vague as hell. She would've given you a specific date. She did blow you off, unless she brings the matter up again.

[riley123]

Did you text her back to find out what time 'later?'

[highinthesky]

Did you text her back to find out what time 'later?'

 

that is a great response!!