What happens after the honeymoon stage of a relationship

[damage3907]

What happens after the honeymoon stage in a relationship and how long does this satge typically last?

[babii doll]

1-2yrs im guessing. this is my first serious LTR but i would think after you settle in a bit, we'll hit our 1 year mark next month and we seem to be getting past that stage, we dont call eachother a thousand times a day like in the beginning of the R, we give eachother alot more space, we're definitely more open and honest with eachother about our habits, even the not so good habits like his ability to burp the alphabet lol.. i dont think its a bad thing though when that phase ends though..

[Cuppedia]

Yes it usually lasts about a year. What happens after depends on what went on during that initial time, did you have the chance to create a bond?.

 

If one side (or both) are not mature enough or if it simply wasn't what you were looking for then either the relationship ends or it continues for the wrong reasons creating a lot of vicious circles.

 

If a healthy bond was created then it may continue as a more solid or stable kind of relationship, like one you would have with a close friend or even a relative.

[Cognitive_Canine]

I was always confused about the honeymoon and not honeymoon transition.

 

It's been about a year and a half for me and I notice no change. But, does an LDR change that time frame?

[Cuppedia]

I was always confused about the honeymoon and not honeymoon transition.

 

It's been about a year and a half for me and I notice no change. But, does an LDR change that time frame?

 

A long Distance Relationship has a very different dynamic I think. I was in one and years passed without really... passing because we didn't see each other often and the goal wasn't to remain together but to "be" together one day. Depends on the distance and how much you see each other of course, but say a "Europe/USA meetings every 3 months" kind of thing won't have the chance to change as much as it would if you do spent a lot of time with the other person, which is why a lot of people recommend not doing the LD thing for very long.

[Cognitive_Canine]

A long Distance Relationship has a very different dynamic I think. I was in one and years passed without really... passing because we didn't see each other often and the goal wasn't to remain together but to "be" together one day. Depends on the distance and how much you see each other of course, but say a "Europe/USA meetings every 3 months" kind of thing won't have the chance to change as much as it would if you do spent a lot of time with the other person, which is why a lot of people recommend not doing the LD thing for very long.

 

We'll, we see each other about every 3 months due to college. But, I see him for a full month now because of Christmas break and I'll see him for three months straight in summer. We dated for 4 months before I left for college.

[JeckyllNHyde]

I've just hit the 1 yr mark and did a post about the honeymoon fse ending/excitement wearing off.

After reading different articles and opinions, I expected us not to be so excited to see each other after a few months or a year. But actually, I'm still as excited as I can be 1 yr in. I hope it won't end in 2 yrs or so.

 

And always thought the honeymoon fase ended 3-6 months in? When everything's new, etc.

 

I remember some time back, when I kept telling myself: oh no.. the honeymoon fase is ending. So I think the transition is kind of when you start being yourselves more, not treading on eggshells and the so called masks come off.

I think after we got past those small hurdles, and began realising the others flaws and "bad" characteristics, we accepted it and became closer.

[Cuppedia]

Ehm, apologies to the OP because I don't mean to hijack the thread

 

We'll, we see each other about every 3 months due to college. But, I see him for a full month now because of Christmas break and I'll see him for three months straight in summer. We dated for 4 months before I left for college.

 

So yes, it's not the same to not be able to see each other regularly or even having to wait for certain dates (like Christmas season or summer) to meet.

And instead of wondering what you're going to do next weekend you worry if you'll ever see each other again. At least from personal experience, the patterns change a lot, the honeymoon phase becomes permanent and interchanges with moments of "Am I even in a relationship?!".