How long to wait?

[Ariel85]

OK so this guy has been texting me for the last two hours.

 

He admitted that he is very jaded about dating.

 

I told him that he should take 6 months off and clean out the cobwebs. Because until he does no one stands a chance.

 

Well at least I give him credit for being honest.

[Batya33]

Definitely do phone calls next time with a stranger in setting up a plan - texting just isn't effective or productive.

 

Ammy - I think it depends on the individual situation - if both people understood that the meeting would be that evening around 8 or so, and that it might not be confirmed till last minute that's one thing, but meeting at 9 instead of 6 can be a big difference.

[Ariel85]

Definitely do phone calls next time with a stranger in setting up a plan - texting just isn't effective or productive.

 

Ammy - I think it depends on the individual situation - if both people understood that the meeting would be that evening around 8 or so, and that it might not be confirmed till last minute that's one thing, but meeting at 9 instead of 6 can be a big difference.

 

Well we didnt even have a plan to meet at 6! Thats just when he contacted me to say we should meet at 9.

 

Would have been different if we had a plan and he had to change the time.

[sweetharmony]

I think you did the right thing. Ammy's situation was different as they had a time and place. I don't care if it's a first date. the guy should have given you time and place earlier in the day-it shows lack of respect. I had a guy do this to me, BUt I gave him the benefit of the doubt. I was right on my first hunch. His lack of planning future dates proved once again and I ended it.

 

Him going online doesn't mean anything though. He could have been reviewing your profile (like Ammy said). I do that before a date just to remember some details.

 

We can't know what this guy did, maybe he was busy or whatnot, but in my experience, a first date (although not an interview), first impressions count. Yes, people are human and run late, etc. but his lack of planning (didn't need to be glamorous planning)-just a "lets meet at 7 at starbucks or X lounge, is that cool" is impt.

 

and I don't usually go ona first date unless we've spoken and it seems we might be a good match. No I don't have any notions about how we'd connect, but a first date is a first impression and a show of character. There are many men out there, even when dating many people who can show respect.