Sex with the ex

[Busto]

Long story extremely short: she cheats, I leave her. We're in the same class, so I do the best NC/LC I can for like two months. She sends me a Christmas gift, I send her an e-mail, we end up sleeping together for a few days. I break it off and go home to my parents for Christmas.

 

I just talked to her on the phone. This is killing me all over again, just when I thought I was doing better. I thought I was over this * * * * . I feel like there's no way out of this mess.

 

Kids, don't follow my example. I'm like a * * * * ing junkie. This is such bull * * * * .

[Crazyaboutdogs]

No more sex with the ex...it just leads to the feelings you have now...confusion, frustration etc. You need to completely cut the ties with her if there is no chance for proper reconciliation.

[Sir Tristan CA]

Question: do you care about her? I mean, when she cheated did it really hurt you a helluva lot? I ask because it might mean you should give her a second chance. I dunno, it's really up to you, but the fact that you two slept together means something is still there, and you should at least explore it to see if it is love or just lust.

[Busto]

I hurt like you wouldn't believe. I really, really care about her, she's the only girl I've ever loved.

 

I think it's my pride that's stopping me from getting back together with her. Is that a stupid reason for not being with someone?

[Sir Tristan CA]

Not at all, but I think that you should at least find out if she's sorry for cheating.

 

If she is, I think you should try and find some way to forgive her. Maybe get a written promise, or some sort of proof that she will never cheat again, no matter what. Tell her you'd rather she break up with you than cheat on you again, I dunno. But if you love this girl then don't let pride get in the way of a relationship with her.

[Busto]

She's told me numerous times that she's sorry, stuff like, "It's the first thing I thing about when I wake up, and what I think about when I go to sleep". But you know, some people say, talk is cheap... so how am I to know she's really sorry?

 

I guess I need to have a deep talk with this girl. Thanks for taking the time, I appreciate it so much!