just a question about love

[john4321]

just a question, the saying is it is better to have love and lost, than never to have loved at all.

 

i think no way, i would have gone for never having loved at all, the loss is too great. what do people think?

[Crazyaboutdogs]

I only buy that if you lost your love because they died. If you lost a love because the relationship disintegrated then I don't buy that trite expression either either. What good is having loved someone if it ends with anger, hostility and bitterness...you are really no better off than someone who has never loved...in fact, you are worse off because now there is baggage.

[Sir Tristan CA]

Agreed. But, I am still fighting to be with the girl I love. We broke up two years ago and I've made a real effort to fix myself and be her friend and confidante, all in the hopes that I could get a second chance with her that would last this time.

 

But, I must say, there have been times when I wanted very much to NOT love her, so that I could move on and not experience that daily pain of not being with the girl I care so much about.

 

Yeah, I'd say it's better to have loved though. I think if anything will save my sinning ass from the daily backwards pineapple in hell, it'll be the fact that I was capable of true selfless love.

[john4321]

well my relation ship ended and had all that, bit now we have actually forgiven one another, no more anger, hostility or bitterness. but it is still lost. and the saddness left from the loss sucks. and yes i do think lossing something so special just is rotten. the hole it leaves no matter where you go in life, will never be filled.

[john4321]

my wife and i split 2 year ago, and it is tough, tough to lose the most important person in your life, the love of your life. but life does go on.

[Sir Tristan CA]

Definitely. It can be very hard. I lived with that hole for 2 years, and I've finally begun to pick up the pieces and begin a new relationship with her. Unfortunately I know that will not be possible for you, since a divorce is much more serious than a break-up in the eyes of most people. I feel for you though, I know it's rough to go through every day feeling like you could get another woman, but then choosing not to because you know you could never offer them all of yourself. The hole lasts forever, but you may be able to find a way to patch it.

[Honore]

I was thinking of this just this week. I wholeheartedly agree with this saying. First, because the experience of love is wonderful. Second, even if there's bad blood at the end of the love relationship, I've learned important lessons about others, about myself, and about people in relationships. Some of the lessons I wish I didn't learn, but such is life. I still agree with the saying.

[laisla]

just a question, the saying is it is better to have love and lost, than never to have loved at all.

 

i think no way, i would have gone for never having loved at all, the loss is too great. what do people think?

 

i used to always think it's better to have NEVER loved, than to have to lose it. i still believe it. i agree with you.

i would rather be as innocent as i was before. losing a love is torturous.

[john4321]

yes to me marraige is forever, but mistakes were made, i lost what meant most. and i understand what you say about dating, could i ever give myself to another person when it would not be all of me, when i know mt sould has with another. does not seem fair to that person.

 

but again maybe i will get lucky and find love again, her is to being hope ful and a good new year.

[hmdreamer7]

You can't miss what you never had... !

 

... but love is so great, I think it's worth risking the loss.

[waveseer]

Even bad love isn't bad ALL the time. I wouldn't change a thing because today I am happy.

[hiphop3]

i would have rather loved. it has taught me so much about myself, has made me a better person, and i have grown. i have never had a connection like this before with some one and have never felt so loved. even when i lose it, i'll be glad i had it and could experience something that humans are so blessed to have the capacity to feel. people come and go in our lives and i know that i'll be able to love some one else again.

[veneratio]

I think it's worth the risk. So you get hurt..that's part of life, falling just to pick yourself back up again. And once you're up, you remember not to trip over what you did before.