saturnreturn Posted December 27, 2008 Share Posted December 27, 2008 We are not really NC but I did send him a little message on facebook. He replied. That was that. We survived Christmas. Link to comment
zedtech Posted December 27, 2008 Share Posted December 27, 2008 4 months NC and the ex texted me on Christmas Eve to wish me a Merry Christmas. I texted her back the next day with, "Thanks. Hope u have a Merry Christmas too." Short, to the point and of equal value. Went back to NC immediately. I wasn't expecting it at all but in the back of my mind I was hoping to hear something from her. Link to comment
SighSob Posted December 28, 2008 Share Posted December 28, 2008 Christmas is a joke...the real pain will come with New Year's Eve... Link to comment
cruzer Posted December 28, 2008 Share Posted December 28, 2008 Im confused as to why someone breaks up with someone, decides they dont want to be with that person any longer, but keeps their phone number ? I can see why the person that got dumped might keep the ex's number, but the dumper decided they didnt want to be with that person, so why keep their #? Link to comment
crab62 Posted December 28, 2008 Share Posted December 28, 2008 and then she proceeds to say hope you have a merry christmas, happy new year, and "this finds you well". I was tempted to say "better then you think" LOL!! I like that... "better then you think". When I stupidly called my exbf on Thanksgiving, thinking he had a heart](*,) and would call back, instead he wrote a dreadful emailing me telling me I wasn't respecting his feelings to heal and to give him "time to get back a normal life"... whatever that means. I was waiting for the phone calls where he says "you want to talk?, I'm feeling better"... and I said "yeah I'm feeling better too bye"!! and I would hang-up, LOL. but that phone call never came but who cares. Today is day 29 NC, and I think that rocks for me! Link to comment
crab62 Posted December 28, 2008 Share Posted December 28, 2008 convoluted... I'm listening to the mp3... it's pretty good. Link to comment
Phoenix_girl Posted December 28, 2008 Share Posted December 28, 2008 I started NC this Christmas with 2 ex's and a friend Link to comment
PJPaul Posted December 28, 2008 Share Posted December 28, 2008 My ex text me on Christmas. I was livid but ignored her Link to comment
jennamajig Posted December 28, 2008 Share Posted December 28, 2008 I heard nothing and sent nothing in return. I made it, but it's been hard. I will not contact him (don't even have or remember his number to be honest), but sometimes I wish he'd reach out. But he won't and life goes on. Now, I just need to get through New Year's Eve, do that and the major holidays are done. Link to comment
hurtandused Posted December 28, 2008 Share Posted December 28, 2008 i broke it sent txt ,sent gifts, PIG never replyed, sent drunk txt tilling him i missed him, and wanted sex, omg the evils of drink, now am hoping i have got him out of the system, but if not i hope hes changed his number then i will have no choice but to do NC LOL Link to comment
PJPaul Posted December 28, 2008 Share Posted December 28, 2008 i broke it sent txt ,sent gifts, PIG never replyed, sent drunk txt tilling him i missed him, and wanted sex, omg the evils of drink, now am hoping i have got him out of the system, but if not i hope hes changed his number then i will have no choice but to do NC LOL Yep if i drink i leave my phone in the car! lol Link to comment
Me and myself Posted December 28, 2008 Share Posted December 28, 2008 Im confused as to why someone breaks up with someone, decides they dont want to be with that person any longer, but keeps their phone number ? I can see why the person that got dumped might keep the ex's number, but the dumper decided they didnt want to be with that person, so why keep their #? I can't understand that too. Link to comment
ladybug726 Posted December 28, 2008 Share Posted December 28, 2008 My ex did. I won't bore you with everything he said but "My bad times with you were better than my good times without you" was a highlight. Also: -I miss you -I'm sorry -I love you and I always will Link to comment
OrangeMoon Posted December 28, 2008 Share Posted December 28, 2008 You know what.. It was my birthday the 25th, turned 35 years old. Last Christmas i spent Christmas at his parents and celebrated my birthday together with them and my ex's brother and family. It was really cosy and nice and full of fun memories.. Now.. he has not send me a card or somekind of happy birthday,merry christmas greeting. At first it felt a bit upsetting,but later i realised..his feelings about me are still there if he is trying so hard to ignore me. Never did him wrong in any way, he knew i loved him to death and that he expressed his undying love to me last christmas. The guilt was probably eating away at him. Because eventhough i know he is with someone else now... the memory of me...of us there must have been really strong. Even if none of them mentioned my name... They know what they did last Christmas and who was there being the life of the party.. and she's gone now.. So no i am not upset anymore. However i would have felt a little bit respected if i would have received a polite but friendly acknowledgement of my birthday. His birthday is the 9th. Before, i would have been respectful and sent a friendly card.But now i cant do this anymore. So he will not hear from me at his birthday either. But dont get me wrong...i have forgiven him. My time will come. If i ever decide to make contact it will come at a time best suited for me.. Link to comment
julioiglesia Posted December 28, 2008 Share Posted December 28, 2008 I love this kind of threads. It reminds me good old school days when teacher used to use corporal punishment before asking "who didn't do their homework!!" Thank God for United States. I am saved. Well I didn't break NC. I feel dignified. That I am survivior. agains all odds and temptation, I broke through the barrier and killed the beast. Analytically it doesn't make any sense to go back and say hello to the ex. as if my hello will make a dent in her holiday spirit. she has enough friends that can make the house warm. I cannot be a beggar who after being kicked out wants to go back to his old master. "stockholm syndrom" where the victim starts puting the abuser into a pedestal. F dat. I aint no beggar, I am King Leonidas and THIS IS SPARTAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA ( as i kick you into the bottomless pit) Link to comment
peace_lily Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 I am at 31 days NC (one month today) and really proud of myself! It's been about 3 months since we broke up. He contacted me on Christmas eve (day 25) to say he was sorry for his bad timing in breaking up with me, that he thought I was a good person and deserved to live a happy life. As far as I'm concerned this e-mail was a guilt induced cop out and he had a lot more to be sorry for than just his timing (like say, flirting with his new girlfriend while we were still together). But it really really hurt to hear from him. Though I have no intention of breaking NC (I'm in it for at least another 31 days), I wonder if it is just masking the pain. Even his 3 sentence e-mail hurts so much. Does anyone else who's been through NC feel like the hurt is still there simmering and waiting to boil? Link to comment
johnnyp Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 I got an email and a Christmas card from her, and both had lots of kisses in them and she even said she thinks of me all the time. Needless to say it's thrown me off track quite a bit and left me very confused I emailed a quick response back to just say thanks, happy birthday and have a great christmas, but left it at that. Link to comment
exploding head Posted December 30, 2008 Share Posted December 30, 2008 My ex emailed me to say happy holidays and then commented on me going back to school (seen on my myspace page). This is after she needed "space". I have not responded at all. She gets all the space she wants. Link to comment
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