Landon7 Posted December 26, 2008 Posted December 26, 2008 There is a person that I am very interested in. I feel that she is interested in me as well but is holding back because i am leaving to go back home in a month. I took her to dinner at her favorite place and it went well. I even heard from a friend that she told her room mate that she enjoyed the date. We text almost everyday and i finally asked her why she wasn't willing to give me a chance. She basically said that it was unfair of me to expect her to be with me when i am leaving in a month. I figured thats what it was but i really like this girl. So my question is this. How can I win her over in the little time i have left? I know she likes me. I would love to start a relationship with her. I understand the circumstances behind her reasoning but there has to be something that i can do to gain her interest. Have any suggestions?
waveseer Posted December 26, 2008 Posted December 26, 2008 If she thinks it's unfair, why would you want to change her mind?
catfeeder Posted December 26, 2008 Posted December 26, 2008 How far away will you be after you leave? Lot's of people would be cautious about positioning themselves for a LDR. So the question becomes, how workable would this one be? In your corner.
EmotionalCreature Posted December 26, 2008 Posted December 26, 2008 Other than telling her you want a relationship and will be back there or ask her to go live with you then I don't see any other points other than that you will appear like you just want to have sex with her and leave in a month.
Landon7 Posted December 26, 2008 Author Posted December 26, 2008 If she thinks it's unfair, why would you want to change her mind? There is something really special about this girl. I guess I would be wrong for wanting her to change her mind. So I should just let her go just like that?
Landon7 Posted December 26, 2008 Author Posted December 26, 2008 How far away will you be after you leave? Lot's of people would be cautious about positioning themselves for a LDR. So the question becomes, how workable would this one be? In your corner. i will be about 400 miles away. yea it is a long shot. the only way it would work is if i moved her with me. i highly doubt someone is just going to pack up and go like that. so i suppose it wouldnt be very workable. oh well...
Landon7 Posted December 26, 2008 Author Posted December 26, 2008 Other than telling her you want a relationship and will be back there or ask her to go live with you then I don't see any other points other than that you will appear like you just want to have sex with her and leave in a month. i see your point. i know i should just drop it. i just hate knowing that i had to give up on someone just because i was moving away. there is a particular person that i do well with in a relationship and she fits it perfectly. i guess thats why i want to be with her so bad. i guess i will just let it go.
ghost69 Posted December 26, 2008 Posted December 26, 2008 so, she won't hang out with you or go on dates with you because of this? nothing you can really do. i would not tell her you want her to move or anything crazy like that. that would be too much.
waveseer Posted December 26, 2008 Posted December 26, 2008 There is something really special about this girl. I guess I would be wrong for wanting her to change her mind. So I should just let her go just like that? Keep in touch with her and maybe when you are next in the same place at the same time you can pick things up where you left off. Only by respecting her feelings can you have any hope of getting the final outcome you desire.
Landon7 Posted December 26, 2008 Author Posted December 26, 2008 so, she won't hang out with you or go on dates with you because of this? nothing you can really do. i would not tell her you want her to move or anything crazy like that. that would be too much. i wouldnt say she wont hang out or go on dates but i wont ask. i took her on one date and it went well so if she wants to hang out again i will leave it up to her to ask. i guess i will see...
ghost69 Posted December 26, 2008 Posted December 26, 2008 i wouldnt say she wont hang out or go on dates but i wont ask. i took her on one date and it went well so if she wants to hang out again i will leave it up to her to ask. i guess i will see... why u gonna wait on her to ask for another date?
Truth317 Posted December 26, 2008 Posted December 26, 2008 Sounds like she's trying to keep her feelings contained. She doesn't want to get "in over her head" when she knows you'll be leaving soon.
Landon7 Posted December 26, 2008 Author Posted December 26, 2008 why u gonna wait on her to ask for another date? i just figure if she wanted to hang out again she would show me in some way. if she brings up the idea of hanging out again before i leave then that would mean she cared enough to hint around it.
Landon7 Posted December 26, 2008 Author Posted December 26, 2008 Sounds like she's trying to keep her feelings contained. She doesn't want to get "in over her head" when she knows you'll be leaving soon. thats exactly what i think is going on!
ghost69 Posted December 26, 2008 Posted December 26, 2008 i just figure if she wanted to hang out again she would show me in some way. if she brings up the idea of hanging out again before i leave then that would mean she cared enough to hint around it. did you tell her anything after the first meeting? 'we should do this again' or 'i'll call you' or anything like that? what did she say.
Landon7 Posted December 26, 2008 Author Posted December 26, 2008 did you tell her anything after the first meeting? 'we should do this again' or 'i'll call you' or anything like that? what did she say. we text everyday. she doesnt seem to like to talk on the phone though. yea i mentioned that we should hang out again and she said ok. basically it is what it is. she likes me but will not take it any further than that because i am leaving. it sucks but it is something i will have to deal with. so i guess i am just going to back off a bit and let her come to me when she is ready. ill wait until she texts me from now on but ill try to keep it even. i dont want her to think im blowing her off but at the same time she needs to realize that i will not be available always. the games we play to keep someone interested...... wish it were just simple cut and dry....
ghost69 Posted December 31, 2008 Posted December 31, 2008 we text everyday. she doesnt seem to like to talk on the phone though. yea i mentioned that we should hang out again and she said ok. basically it is what it is. she likes me but will not take it any further than that because i am leaving. it sucks but it is something i will have to deal with. so i guess i am just going to back off a bit and let her come to me when she is ready. ill wait until she texts me from now on but ill try to keep it even. i dont want her to think im blowing her off but at the same time she needs to realize that i will not be available always. the games we play to keep someone interested...... wish it were just simple cut and dry.... why not live in the moment? enjoy your time with this person. maybe she will want to be with you while you are away. maybe you will run into each other down the road. by then, you will have some experience together. r u looking for a gf or something before you leave? highly unlikely and a little desperate man.
Landon7 Posted January 5, 2009 Author Posted January 5, 2009 why not live in the moment? enjoy your time with this person. maybe she will want to be with you while you are away. maybe you will run into each other down the road. by then, you will have some experience together. r u looking for a gf or something before you leave? highly unlikely and a little desperate man. i will enjoy my time with her while im here. your right about maybe bumping into each other down the road. now is just not the time..... its not that im looking for a gf before i leave. this girl just blows me away! she is exactly what i am looking for! : )
ghost69 Posted January 5, 2009 Posted January 5, 2009 i will enjoy my time with her while im here. your right about maybe bumping into each other down the road. now is just not the time..... its not that im looking for a gf before i leave. this girl just blows me away! she is exactly what i am looking for! : ) enjoy it then.
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