Kissing on a first date

[cassiana]

I was told that you shouldn't kiss on a first date, that it sends out the wrong message.

How about if the guy is someone you have known for years so alot of the stuff you feel and say on a first date has already been taken care of.

[shikashika]

If the date went well, I'd be more pissed off about NOT getting a kiss, because then I'd think he wasn't interested.

 

It's just a kiss, so I'd go for it if you are interested.

[Casey13]

Who ever told you that must be a degenerate when it comes to dating. Dating is not about rules, including the above mentioned, but about going with the flow and if attraction and connection is there then as shikashika mentioned if no kiss happened then it would send out the message clearly and loudly: "not interested".

[Honey Pumpkin]

Well, generally I kiss on dates - but not online dates when you are meeting for the first time. I usually see that more as a seeing if you fancy each other to date,, than a real date, and I don't kiss then. But yeah, I am a tart - would usually snog someone on a date...;-)

[cassiana]

If I fancy a guy and the first date is going well then I would kiss. But then when i heard this I wondered was that why I was still single and I really want it to work with this new guy. We have worked together for years and often have lunch or coffee together so our date should be less stressful then usual first dates.

[Crazyaboutdogs]

Who ever told you that must be a degenerate when it comes to dating. Dating is not about rules, including the above mentioned, but about going with the flow and if attraction and connection is there then as shikashika mentioned if no kiss happened then it would send out the message clearly and loudly: "not interested".

 

 

You are putting down some rules while creating new "rules". This new rule you are creating states that if there is no kiss on the first date there is no interest". Isn't that being just as rigid as saying that you should never kiss on a first date. It is just the opposite extreme but still an artificial rule. People can indeed be interested in going on more dates...words can be just as effective...even more so. How many people kiss and make out with someone when they have absolutely no interest in pursuing anything further...they just felt like taking care of some physical needs and felt lust but had no interest in really seeing the person again. However, if someone says "yes, I would like to see you again please call me, I am free on these evenings" I think that says much more about interest than kissing a stranger.

 

However, to answer the OP, you have already known this guy for a while so he is not a stranger. If you feel like kissing him then go for it.

[waveseer]

If you know the man well and know you like him do you even have to be on a date to kiss for the first time?

[ghost69]

i've almost always gotten a kiss on a first date. i make the move when i feel it. if i'm not vibing with the person, i might not even want to kiss them. kiss when you are okay with it. there is not rule.

[Truth317]

I try not to make any moves until about the 3rd date when I get a better idea of where I want things to go. Cause I don't want to send out the wrong message or anything like that.

[Cognitive_Canine]

If the date is good, I kiss on the first date.

 

Kissing is harmless fun. But, I only kiss the guys I want to see for a second date. Kissing a guy you aren't all that interested in after the first date definitely sends the wrong signals.

[In Limbo]

I have kissed women , even before dating them!...& now we have Tyler101..kissing anyone he fancies...lol.

[D_Lish]

I'd kiss if I liked them, if I didn't there would be no kiss...but then if I didn't like them, I wouldn't be dating them in the first place.

 

I'm unsure what kind of message a kiss on a first date would be giving. That one is easy??? LOL...A kiss is a sign of affection, a sign that you like someone.....doesn't mean that one is 'easy' or that they would put out at the first opportunity. And if a guy thinks you are 'easy' because he gets a kiss....says a lot for the guys way of thinking.

 

Honestly....these so called rules remind me of Victorian England, where the guy had to ask the parents permission to date, kiss and marry the mans daughter LMAO.

It's 2009 nearly, not 1809

[JeckyllNHyde]

I was told that you shouldn't kiss on a first date, that it sends out the wrong message.

How about if the guy is someone you have known for years so alot of the stuff you feel and say on a first date has already been taken care of.

 

i think there is no answer for this.

when i was in my teens and actually till last year too haha, i used to kiss on the first date. somehow i used to think it had to be done as quick as possible, so the guy and me didn't end up friends, or so he knew i liked him.

 

when i kissed the last guy (my bf) we waited for so many dates. we'd just go out and get to know each other. by the 5th or 4th date i was DYING to kiss him and vice versa, so when we finally kissed it was electric.

 

i think it really depends on the guy and what he thinks/feels about first kisses.

 

i have noticed though that as long as the guy and you connect, and there is some interest/attraction, if you wait till the next date to kiss, it builds anticipation and more desire on both parts. plus some guys do tend to take such women/girls "more seriously". not that it goes for ALL guys of course.

 

there are no rules IMO when it comes to dating. only things you can do which MAYBE will increase your chances of things lasting longer.

[LW4E]

It all depends on the people involed really.

 

I'm not the type to kiss on a first date, I'd like to get to know the person I'm about to kiss better before I actually kiss them. I think a first kiss is so much more exciting when you have to wait for it.

[epsilon2x]

Hell I usually kiss the girl within the first 30-45 minutes of meeting her. I'm sure as hell gonna get it on the first date.

 

If you kiss her when you first meet her than you go to hang out with her for a second time. You know she's into you. In the first 10 minutes stop everything you do and give her a kiss to bring back the old vibe and also to remind her why she is going out with you.

[hmdreamer7]

Kissing is great If you like him and are comfortable enough... esp if it's someone you've known for awhile now... then a kiss is totally acceptable! You're only sending out the wrong message if you don't want to kiss someone, yet do it anyway. Just stay true to how you feel.