mags_7531 Posted December 25, 2008 Share Posted December 25, 2008 Just wondering if theres anyone out there thats going through a break up and thought by now (xmas eve) that they would have heard from there ex? I thought for some strange reason that xmas would make him miss me and want to spend it with me. I really truly thought i would be with him right now, but i havent heard from.... Link to comment
redhearts Posted December 25, 2008 Share Posted December 25, 2008 If someone dumps their SO I doubt the dumper would try to get in contact because they may have a good reason for doing so, or had moved on. Link to comment
jenna981 Posted December 25, 2008 Share Posted December 25, 2008 I think a decent dumpee would not contact you, because what is them contacting you going to do? Give you false hope they do miss you, are thinking of you, want to get back... if they don't contact you consider it being thoughtful that they are giving you an extra nudge to move on. If they do contact you it might be out of feeling guilty, and who wants pity? My ex made contact on my b-day a few months back, sent an e-card, and it was just starting back at square one healing finding out he was just trying to be friends(ly) and not really because he missed me, he was already with someone else. Link to comment
franfran Posted December 25, 2008 Share Posted December 25, 2008 Don't let this put a damper on your Christmas, mags. It's not worth it...you know this. Chin up! Link to comment
Captain Cool Posted December 25, 2008 Share Posted December 25, 2008 My ex put up a facebook message that said "Merry Christmas, everybody!" "Everybody" includes me, right? Right? Link to comment
thejigsup Posted December 25, 2008 Share Posted December 25, 2008 Why would someone who didn't want to be with you anymore contact you at Christmas? None of my exes ever did and when I was the dumper, neither did I. This doesn't mean you can't have a great Christmas! Enjoy being with the people who do want you in their lives. Link to comment
doyathink Posted December 25, 2008 Share Posted December 25, 2008 My ex put up a facebook message that said "Merry Christmas, everybody!" "Everybody" includes me, right? Right? hahaaa..yeah...you too. Hell no. He knows better. He did well by disappearing like mist! Try to focus your thoughts to better things...like your future with a new, wonderful partner. Link to comment
BrokenDuc Posted December 25, 2008 Share Posted December 25, 2008 hello everyone well get this... i was dumped a month ago (from a new 3 month relationship after being dumped from a long term one in July) and in self imposed NC and so far doing fine and today on Christmas day she leaves some xmas presents on my doorstep. i have neither said thank you yet nor opened them as well to be honest this 'act of giving' from her has quite frankly annoyed the F out of me and ruined any good feelings I had for this holidays. i just want to be left alone FFS...so annoyed... Link to comment
tina-rocks Posted December 25, 2008 Share Posted December 25, 2008 I knew I would not speak with my ex today. He went to his parents for Christmas and could not even look at me when he left as he collected the girl he left me for on the way. Link to comment
john4321 Posted December 25, 2008 Share Posted December 25, 2008 i am sorry i did not hear from my ex, but that is life, and we live on Link to comment
deff808 Posted December 25, 2008 Share Posted December 25, 2008 my ex texted twice merry christmas! did not reply back! Link to comment
metalawag Posted December 25, 2008 Share Posted December 25, 2008 my ex texted twice merry christmas! did not reply back! Way to be strong! Wish I could say the same. Only sent my ex one text today but didnt hear back. It sucks cause she asked me out last week, we did dinner, had a great time, and now nothing. Hurts a lot. Link to comment
dreamwarrior Posted December 26, 2008 Share Posted December 26, 2008 Since I was the one to end things over a month ago, I am sure he won't be contacting me to say Merry Christmas...and for sure since he stole back all the most recent gifts he gave me over the past year...I seriously doubt he will come give them back or buy me anything. Heck everything he ever gave me had some crack, chip, or defect on it.....even on new things he gave me I found some type of nick or scratch...hahaha...good thing he never had kids. I think he was born defective....anyway...no calls, letters or any other correspondence and that is okay with me...I just want to be left alone to prepare myself for the upcoming year and all the plans I made for myself...and far as dating again...that will be on the list too ! Link to comment
islandj Posted December 26, 2008 Share Posted December 26, 2008 my ex and I broke-up 8 months ago, we spoke yesterday for about an hour, nothing special just like friends. Even though they dont want to spend their life w you doesnt mean they dont miss the time you had w them, it is normal during the holiday season to feel a bit sad, especially if its the first one.. Im pretty sure that if they havent called is because they arent completely over it! I dont have a problem contacting my ex cuz I no longer have the need to be w him and i have no agendas.. Link to comment
littlestar Posted December 26, 2008 Share Posted December 26, 2008 My ex didnt contact me for Xmas and i didnt contact him either. I feel like absolute sh!t. Link to comment
homeagain Posted December 26, 2008 Share Posted December 26, 2008 anyone not hear from someone that they are supposed to be reconciling with/who has expressed desire and intent to reconcile with you? "losers" line forms after me, apparently. Link to comment
doyathink Posted December 26, 2008 Share Posted December 26, 2008 anyone not hear from someone that they are supposed to be reconciling with/who has expressed desire and intent to reconcile with you? "losers" line forms after me, apparently. LOL....not funny, I know...just the way you said 'loser line' and I posted next. Repeat after me...I AM NOT A LOSER! haha anyway, yes, I heard from a friend. That was good enough. Link to comment
homeagain Posted December 26, 2008 Share Posted December 26, 2008 LOL....not funny, I know...just the way you said 'loser line' and I posted next. Repeat after me...I AM NOT A LOSER! haha anyway, yes, I heard from a friend. That was good enough. aww, i didn't mean you are a loser... i think you got what i meant.... hearing from good friends is better than hearing from exes, i think. hooray for good friends!! Link to comment
John Bendix Posted December 26, 2008 Share Posted December 26, 2008 Funny I ran into this thread. I just posted the following on "Relationship with X" under Divorce. I was just dozing on the couch when my cell rings and I just pick it up and say hello w/o looking to see who it was. It was my X. Have not spoken to her in over a month, when I answered that by mistake, and at least a month before that, as I do not answer her calls. She started a conversation about the kids as if we were in a talking mode. Like we were still together and everything was fine between us. She calmly explained how the kids were supposed to go over there today (N0, there was never planned by them and her) and she waited all day for them to come. Done in a way that denotes that she thinks that the kids and me never talk and she can say anything untrue and get away with it. There's a history of that. The last two X-mas they went over for a couple of hours several days later. She continued as if the way they do not interact with her is something new and out of the blue. "What was wrong with the kids today? They acted like they were just ignoring me". She went on and on about it. They have limited their contact with her for almost three years. But now, this was something new??? I did not even respond to any of it and just let her talk. Even remained silent when she paused. She was venting irrationally to me like we were still a couple. To someone that does not even want to talk with her and she has been told so on too many occasions. I did not say 5 words. She ended it with this, "Well, I'm pretty tired so I am going to bed. Good night and Merry Christmas". It is too difficult to fathom. Irrationality cannot be understood. Link to comment
doyathink Posted December 26, 2008 Share Posted December 26, 2008 aww, i didn't mean you are a loser... i think you got what i meant.... hearing from good friends is better than hearing from exes, i think. hooray for good friends!! Yeah, I got what you meant..but it still made me laugh. Are you trying to reconcile with the ex? Link to comment
homeagain Posted December 26, 2008 Share Posted December 26, 2008 Yeah, I got what you meant..but it still made me laugh. Are you trying to reconcile with the ex? well, he didn't call for christmas... so things look pretty grim even if i wanted that! Link to comment
doyathink Posted December 26, 2008 Share Posted December 26, 2008 well, he didn't call for christmas... so things look pretty grim even if i wanted that! Eek! Well ya know...he probably did you a favor you're unaware of right now. I wish I wouldn't have tried the three times I did. that can turn a person way too jaded. Link to comment
homeagain Posted December 26, 2008 Share Posted December 26, 2008 Eek! Well ya know...he probably did you a favor you're unaware of right now. I wish I wouldn't have tried the three times I did. that can turn a person way too jaded. do you still feel like he gets a ton of your emotional energy? it isn't rational, but i let my ex get a ton of it. it's exhausting. it makes me feel like nothing. i know i shouldn't give it to him, but.... i do. Link to comment
doyathink Posted December 26, 2008 Share Posted December 26, 2008 Not anymore...really. He gets a passing thought every now and then..but more when I'm on here then in my life. This place keeps me thinking about him more then I would like. But in reality, he doesn't rent up any space in my head anymore. I cried myself off of him. do you still feel like he gets a ton of your emotional energy? it isn't rational, but i let my ex get a ton of it. it's exhausting. it makes me feel like nothing. i know i shouldn't give it to him, but.... i do. Link to comment
deff808 Posted December 26, 2008 Share Posted December 26, 2008 Seen my ex at work, said merry xmas! I did not say one word back Link to comment
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