How do you attract women even if your short and skinny?

[SoMuchLove]

I'm 5'3, 80 pounds, and I'm 23 but I look like a kid. I'm also attractive yet I have soft boy-ish features. Also, I'm proud of all these traits and it doesn't bother me(uniqueness) one bit.

 

As for my personality it is manly/mature, but its not congruent with how I look(I suppose). So I'm wondering if I can't and will never look like a "Man" does that mean I have to over compensate by being charming, flirty and charasmatic?

[Cognitive_Canine]

Only 80 pounds?

 

That seems really unhealthy.

 

I mean, I'm that height and I weigh about 35 more pounds than you.

[waveseer]

80 pounds is anorexically light for 5'3", do you have a medical condition?

[Sn0man]

Trying to overcompensate for anything won't do you any favors. Just be yourself. People tend to know when you're trying to overcompensate for something and most often they don't like it - usually because this overcompensation comes off as either sleazy or rude.

[SoMuchLove]

Thanks. I feel the same way about overcompensation. However, I feel I'm at then end of my rope at times because I'm as rounded as a person I'll ever be.

 

I have a very high metabolism and I was premature which makes up for my small frame. I also have a small stomache so I can't eat as much to be able to put the weight on(I was told I'd have to eat much more than the average person in a day)

[waveseer]

The doctors don't make you drink shakes between meals?

[redhearts]

Your tiny I could fit you in my pocket! That is what you can say but vice versa. "I'm so small I can fit in your pocket!" I've heard that one a lot. You are really small most females tend to like guys taller than them. Strong guys as well to feel protected.

[kaoticbaby]

being with a guy being who's a little on the short side doesn't bother me, but being with a guy who weighs less than me would! i'm 5"3, and i weigh 25-30 more lbs then you...and people sometimes tell ME that i'm too skinny!

 

regardless of the excuses, i really think your focus should be on gaining weight. 80 lbs isn't healthy for anyone who isn't 12 years old or less....

[Raistlin]

being with a guy being who's a little on the short side doesn't bother me, but being with a guy who weighs less than me would! i'm 5"3, and i weigh 25-30 more lbs then you...and people sometimes tell ME that i'm too skinny!

 

regardless of the excuses, i really think your focus should be on gaining weight. 80 lbs isn't healthy for anyone who isn't 12 years old or less....

 

I'm 5'10" and I''ve never weighed more than 120lbs. I currently weigh about 115. I just CANNOT gain weight.

[kaoticbaby]

I'm 5'10" and I''ve never weighed more than 120lbs. I currently weigh about 115. I just CANNOT gain weight.

i get that. but there's still a difference between 120 lbs and 80 lbs.

 

i'm not blaming the OP or saying it is his fault, only that he should really be concerned about his health.

[LightbulbSun]

80 pounds is not only skinny, it's dangerously unhealthy. You need to put on weight ASAP.

[Raistlin]

I agree. A nutritionist should be able to set the OP on a dietary plan to help gain weight.

 

However, being 7 inches taller and still weighing as little as I do.. maybe I should follow my own advice on this one.

[Sn0man]

Also, I'm proud of all these traits and it doesn't bother me(uniqueness) one bit.

 

As for my personality it is manly/mature, but its not congruent with how I look(I suppose). So I'm wondering if I can't and will never look like a "Man" does that mean I have to over compensate by being charming, flirty and charasmatic?

I think this is going off topic. The OP wasn't looking for health advice.

[redhearts]

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You should be at least 130.

[ladylol1234]

Find a chick who's short and skinny!

[cruzer]

You cant gain weight, u cant get taller, what do u expect us to be able to tell you?

 

I dont mean to be rude or anything, but honestly the only thing i can suggest is lift weights. u will look nice, u will gain weight, but i bet u dont do it.

[iwishiknew]

I'm also 5'3, 125 lbs and I am toned and athletic. For me being short is a disadvantage in attracting women. I have tried many times before and I never have attracted any women yet.

[ladylol1234]

^^that's not only rude, but that's very insensitive...

[ladylol1234]

Have you spoke to your doctor about what you can do to gain weight?

[epsilon2x]

Get on a work out plan and get on a high protein diet.

 

Also see if HGH (Human Growth Hormone) is legal where you live. I have friends that have taken it to build muscle faster but it also in some cases causes you to grow a few inches.

[Truth317]

You can attract any woman on this earth you want. If you know how to generate that chemistry and that attraction, anything is possible. It doesn't matter if you're 5'3 80lbs or 6'2 215lbs. None of that matters. And as long as you can be strong and gain confidence in yourself, you can achieve. It might be difficult, but it certainly can be done.

[ghost69]

i used to be really skinny and over 6'0. i decided to eat everything in sight and hit the gym hard. that is how i gained some size.

 

but like the above says, someone out there would find you attractive. will it be most women, more than likely not. but this is just based on a physical level. that doesn't mean mentally you couldn't charm a lot of women.

[Nutz]

Your tiny I could fit you in my pocket! That is what you can say but vice versa. "I'm so small I can fit in your pocket!" I've heard that one a lot. You are really small most females tend to like guys taller than them. Strong guys as well to feel protected.

 

And there it is. That's exactly why I do well with tall women. I'm ~5'6" and click well with women 5'10" or better. They're tall so they naturally feel weird being taller than guys and guys feel weird being around taller women. I'm so comfortable around virtually EVERYONE being taller that my being unaffected is a very attractive quality. Couple that with making her feel safe and secure and you're golden. You do this through storytelling, physical contact, etc.

 

The point here is that women aren't attracted to tall men per se. What women are attracted to are the emotions tall men naturally inspire in them, namely safety & security. Do that and you're well on your way regardless of your own or the woman's height.

[laisla]

one of my best friends is short (5'4") and skinny (about 90-99 lbs, don't know for sure). he can get SO many girls. he is the life of the party, very fun, sociable, sweet. your body isn't what really stops you from attracting women, it's your attitude. do try to gain weight, make sure you look good, but above all have a good attitude. that is what attracts women.

 

meh, i'm skinny too, i'm working on getting bigger myself, but i used to be able to attract enough guys....it's not only the body that counts.

[SoMuchLove]

Thanks for the advice everyone!

 

I haven't spoken with a doctor yet because I'm honestly just realizing how unhealty it is(aside from my origional reason for posting here about how to attract the opposite sex despite my size). Working out is also gonna become top priority once I see a nutritionist. I haven't work out as much because I found myself loosing weight instead of gaing which only says I'm still not getting all the calories/protein I need.

 

That is really good advice Nutz. I never thought about it that way. And I also feel I need to change my attitude and focus on my personality traits rather than the physical. I think I'm putting too much empasis on it. I'm definetly going to get out there and give this all a shot. I will keep you guys updated in the future ad let you know how it turns out

 

SML