Clementine orange Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 I grew a holiday beard. I love it, it looks awesome and I feel good - virile, manly and hairy. My g/f hates it (I cannot use that word strongly enough). When I told I was going to grow it she got mad and was against it but I grew it anyway under the theory that I own my face. I am stubborn and will not shave it until Spring I think. The more she complains the more I don't want to shave it. I don't want her to think she can tell me what to do or nag me into doing it. Am I a jerk? ps: where is that poll option - I was going to do a poll. It was going to be witty (for you) and informative (for me). Crap.
lady00 Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 So you have no real attachment to it but are growing it out to piss her off? Sounds kinda jerky. Hey, you asked. I mean you say you love it then you say you are keeping it to anger her? What is your true motivation? Therein lies your answer.
Cognitive_Canine Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 I hate beards. They really hurt to kiss. Thank god my bf's facial hair isn't a good look for him and he shaves every day. He missed a spot yesterday and I have a red spot on my face from it. ouch....
Sketch Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 Ask her to grow a beard with you. Maybe then she will feel more involved and appreciate yours. Compare after 60 days and declare a winner. I hope you win...
lila... Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 My boyfriend grew one during exams...I wasn't too fond of it, but didn't hate it. It was alright. But yeah I prefer him with no beard! I think you are being somewhat of a jerk seeing that she hates it...yes you own your face, but I'd at least trim it a bit. I'd be hurt if my boyfriend went and did it anyways without taking my feelings into account.
Lionel Hutz Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 Well considering the ladies are always telling us to love them no matter if they gain weight, grow their own beard, or get stretch marks, your hair is your hair. Besides Ill bet when you shave it she'll jump the bone quicker than ever. Welcome to the beard club, not only am I member, but i'm the president.
livinginsbi Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 mm I LOVE facial hair! My guy will grow a goatee when we are planning a get together... he looks so hot with it and I love the feel!
lady00 Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 The more she complains the more I don't want to shave it. Why are you relating these two things? If it's just independently super important to you then keep it. If you are doing it in part to push her buttons, then I don't see the value in that. I don't want her to think she can tell me what to do or nag me into doing it. Fair enough, I guess. Maybe she is being unreasonable. I don't know. It's up to you what your priorities are when it comes to the beard.
agent1607307371 Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 I am stubborn and will not shave it until Spring I think. The more she complains the more I don't want to shave it. I don't want her to think she can tell me what to do or nag me into doing it. Do you have other issues of her trying to nag or control you? Or are you just using the beard as a lesson for her? You shouldn't lose the beard unless you want to. Just bear in mind that she may use the same thought process to kissing you.
meagzt Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 I love guys with facial hair. My new guy did have a soul patch, which is unbelievably hot, and he's letting it grow into a goatee.... which is also unbelievably hot. Anyway, you are right you do own your own face, but why keep it just because she hates it? I could see keeping it if you felt it was a good look for you, but at least trim it down so it's not as uncomfortable. Because after a while of kissing, the facial hair tends to hurt. But, like you said, it's your face and you can do what you want with it, but it does seem like your being a jerk by saying the more she complains the more you don't want to shave it.
lady00 Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 Whoops! apparently what I am writing is a curse word even though I am simply describing a beard. and how it can be painful to kiss. How about this word: spikey. OK that works. Damn auto edit. Wish ENA would sort that out. It's annoying.
jettison Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 Yeah, beards are manly. Strong like bear. But the right mustache is even better... image removed
GoldenHillGuy Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 Yeah, beards are manly. Strong like bear. But the right mustache is even better... image removed That's gross.
jcrisph Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 i dont even think i can grow a full beard =(
lady00 Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 If the beard is really important to you then keep it and simply tell her that you do not like being told what to do and that's that. If she gets upset and refuses to kiss you, well that's the risk you've decided to take because it's something important to you that you do not want to give up and that is your right. You should probably weigh the pros and cons and then decide.
Mythical_Suicide Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 LOL as much as I hate facial hair and give my fiance a hard time about growing his out it's a personal decision in my opinion and isn't really my place to get mad about him doing it. Just like my fiance hates me cutting my hair but I do it because it is what I like, same thing if he started actually getting mad at me doing it i'd start worrying about the relationship and him trying to control things I do.
ghost69 Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 Yeah, beards are manly. Strong like bear. But the right mustache is even better... image removed for some reason it looks like a weiner.
Cognitive_Canine Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 Yeah, beards are manly. Strong like bear. But the right mustache is even better... image removed Caption - "you should see the downstairs"
Clementine orange Posted December 23, 2008 Author Posted December 23, 2008 ^^^^^ OK, just for the record, I, nor my beard, look like this guy.
lady00 Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 Deep down, is this about the beard or is it about the principle of not wanting her to tell you what to do? Or both? You really need to pick your battles. If this is really that important to you then by all means, pick this one.
Clementine orange Posted December 23, 2008 Author Posted December 23, 2008 Deep down, is this about the beard or is it about the principle of not wanting her to tell you what to do? Or both? You really need to pick your battles. If this is really that important to you then by all means, pick this one. You make a good point. I need to do some self-investigation on this. Thank you
laisla Posted December 23, 2008 Posted December 23, 2008 beard's don't hurt when you kiss. moustaches hurt.
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