How do you know for sure?

[a_lifters_life]

Whether or not your SO's parents/family like you ? In my case, only been together like 7.5 months now... but I've seen her parents quite a lot over the summer. Just saw them for the first time this past week, for the whole week.

 

I just get the feeling they don't like me. It could just be all in my head, but I dono, I think that her brothers like me and def. respect me. I just get the vibe from the parents they either do not like me or are just wary of me and my intentions.

 

Keep in mind, she's the third born, and has two older brothers ... she's the baby .... does this have anything to do with it?

 

Anyway of knowing for sure or any signs to try to pick up on next time I see them ?

 

Thanks !!

[Sn0man]

If she's the baby of the family, of course the parents are going to be a little leery of you for the first little while, until they get to know you well. It's nothing to take personally, they're just looking out for their little girl!

[Pink Wings]

Most likely they are just trying to protect their little girl. Mine is only 6, but you can be sure when she starts dating I'm going to be wary of anyone she dates. I would just give it time. If you are treating her well and show her parents that you are good intentioned, I'm sure they'll come around (if they don't already like you, like you said, it could be all in your head). Good Luck

[lady00]

Keep in mind, she's the third born, and has two older brothers ... she's the baby .... does this have anything to do with it?

 

Very likely. If there is any sort of apprehension and you can't think of any other reason, I'd say it is this. And by the way, she will always be the baby in their eyes...no matter if she is 3 or 30. Trust me!

[shemo]

I think the fact that she's a girl is a big part of the reason. You should be able to tell if they like you by how they treat you. But they will always look out for their baby girl.

[a_lifters_life]

I feel by the other posts that it is probably the reason.

 

I mean, keep in mind I was up there practically like every other weekend for the whole summer. I hope they like me. Her mother's sister said that "Im a keeper !" and the mom agreed according to my gf. That's what she said about last week like two days ago. I havent given them a reason not to. Her dad even asked when I was coming up next to see them

[Lionel Hutz]

I feel by the other posts that it is probably the reason.

 

I mean, keep in mind I was up there practically like every other weekend for the whole summer. I hope they like me. Her mother's sister said that "Im a keeper !" and the mom agreed according to my gf. That's what she said about last week like two days ago. I havent given them a reason not to. Her dad even asked when I was coming up next to see them

 

From my experience, when it comes to dating the youngest, the parents are pretty protective. That does not mean that they dont like you, and it doesnt mean that they do. They accept you. Knowing this, kiss a little ass, but not obvious ass kissing.

 

You will have to give them reasons to like you. Because they can easily make up reasons not to like you. My g/fs dad was idle for a long time, I could not read his poker face. So I asserted myself, talked about music, the 60s, and some other things he could relate to. What really helped was just listening to his old stories. When you seem interested it can be flattering to them, its considerate, and then you may relate. It goes a long way with parents of the youngest, since you are "taking their baby." Now me and my g/fs dad have an excellent relationship, as I did with her mom before she passed. Be cool is what some would say. 7.5 months with no flack sounds good though.

[ghost69]

just be yourself. it's all you can give them.

[a_lifters_life]

just be yourself. it's all you can give them.

 

Oh, trust me - I know that man. Lol. I just am asking if there is anything that can really show if they do give two * * * * s about me ? Like ... I just dono .... people can bs and lie all day to your face ya know ?

[ghost69]

Oh, trust me - I know that man. Lol. I just am asking if there is anything that can really show if they do give two * * * * s about me ? Like ... I just dono .... people can bs and lie all day to your face ya know ?

 

who cares if they are lying. if they seem nice and homely towards you, feel good about it. what they say behind your back if they do, that's their own dam problem. your gf is all that matters.

[a_lifters_life]

who cares if they are lying. if they seem nice and homely towards you, feel good about it. what they say behind your back if they do, that's their own dam problem. your gf is all that matters.

 

Yeah, well see that's the problem. My gf and her family loves to bs behind people's backs. I do not care about it, as it is not under my control. But, on the same token, they talked crap apparently to my gf and her brother's gf who is only of like 4 or 5 months ...

[ghost69]

Yeah, well see that's the problem. My gf and her family loves to bs behind people's backs. I do not care about it, as it is not under my control. But, on the same token, they talked crap apparently to my gf and her brother's gf who is only of like 4 or 5 months ...

 

you worry waaaay too much man. to be honest, i don't like your relationship at all. too much going on. you need less drama. and this has nothing to do with the parents.

[a_lifters_life]

you worry waaaay too much man. to be honest, i don't like your relationship at all. too much going on. you need less drama. and this has nothing to do with the parents.

 

Lol alright ? This is about her parents though and how they act. Im not creating drama. But I do not want to be around her family if their going to keep staring and treating me different when im around them.

[babii doll]

i think they may just be a little protective over her and so they havent fully accepted you yet.

 

i base this on personal experience, as i am the baby in the family as well and it took some time for my family to accept my BF recently and we've been together for a year now. i would just give it some time and in the meanwhile focus on your relationship, dont worry so much about what they think. (easier said than done i know)

[ghost69]

Lol alright ? This is about her parents though and how they act. Im not creating drama. But I do not want to be around her family if their going to keep staring and treating me different when im around them.

 

i didn't say YOU were creating drama. but she gives you so much drama. every one of your posts used to be how this girl jerks you around. now you have questions about the parents too. in actuality, what they say or how they act towards you has nothing to do with you and her. as long as she is into you, it doesn't matter.