ghost69 Posted December 23, 2008 Share Posted December 23, 2008 do people really not know their SO enough? i just keep seeing these threads pop up that ask us that. just seems a little bit odd. especially by people that have been with their SO for over 4-5 months. you should know what they like. at least give us a hint as to what they are into. not just the question: what should i get my bf/gf? huh? come on seriously. Link to comment
hockeyboy Posted December 23, 2008 Share Posted December 23, 2008 Agreed. if some random person from ENA can pick a better gift for the person you are dating then yourself...I'd be concerned. I had no problems picking out gifts, my only problem was going to the mall. Man do I hate the mall. Link to comment
ImThatGirl Posted December 23, 2008 Share Posted December 23, 2008 You guys are funny. I never thought of that.... Some people have a hard time buying gifts. I had a handful of people to buy for that have been in our lives for 8+ years... that I had more than one panic thought of "OMG what should we get for them!" Link to comment
lady00 Posted December 23, 2008 Share Posted December 23, 2008 Well, no, it's not obvious or straightforward for everyone. I am one of those who is clueless. Have known him for years, have dated him for a few months so far and I still had no idea what to get. So, it's not that easy for everyone even if you do know the person well. I still have a hard time finding stuff for family members whom I've known way longer. Good for you that it's so easy when shopping for an SO. Everyone's different. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted December 23, 2008 Author Share Posted December 23, 2008 Well, no, it's not obvious or straightforward for everyone. I am one of those who is clueless. Have known him for years, have dated him for a few months so far and I still had no idea what to get. So, it's not that easy for everyone even if you do know the person well. I still have a hard time finding stuff for family members whom I've known way longer. Good for you that it's so easy when shopping for an SO. Everyone's different. but you could at least include, 'he's really into baseball.' not just the question, 'he's a guy...what do i get?' Link to comment
lady00 Posted December 23, 2008 Share Posted December 23, 2008 but you could at least include, 'he's really into baseball.' not just the question, 'he's a guy...what do i get?' I don't even know what type of stuff my bf is into that would relate to gift-giving. I guess that makes me sound crazy but eh, I just don't. We don't really discuss anything like sports and he doesn't have any obvious hobbies that I could have gotten him a gift for. Link to comment
Mythical_Suicide Posted December 23, 2008 Share Posted December 23, 2008 but you could at least include, 'he's really into baseball.' not just the question, 'he's a guy...what do i get?' Yea those are the ones that bother me.. "We've been dating for 4 years, what should I get him for Christmas" and then the responses to "what is he into" type questions is usually "I don't know" That is a lot different than posting and asking this per-sey "We've been dating for 4 years, He's really into video games or basketball and has nearly everything known to man, men any ideas what I should get" Link to comment
ghost69 Posted December 23, 2008 Author Share Posted December 23, 2008 I don't even know what type of stuff my bf is into that would relate to gift-giving. I guess that makes me sound crazy but eh, I just don't. We don't really discuss anything like sports and he doesn't have any obvious hobbies that I could have gotten him a gift for. how do you not know? Yea those are the ones that bother me.. "We've been dating for 4 years, what should I get him for Christmas" and then the responses to "what is he into" type questions is usually "I don't know" That is a lot different than posting and asking this per-sey "We've been dating for 4 years, He's really into video games or basketball and has nearly everything known to man, men any ideas what I should get" i totally agree. how do people NOT know the one they are dating? i'm still over this. i just don't get it. i understand if people are out of ideas because one year they got them a jersey and another the game ball or something, but seriously. give us a clue. give yourself a clue actually. if you don't know, i'd say you do not know who you are dating. Link to comment
lady00 Posted December 23, 2008 Share Posted December 23, 2008 how do you not know? I just don't. Just putting another perspective out there. No need to be all incredulous about it. Link to comment
ImThatGirl Posted December 23, 2008 Share Posted December 23, 2008 Maybe it has more to do with fear of getting the wrong thing. We all want the gift to be so perfect and for the receiver to really be excited to get it. Link to comment
hockeyboy Posted December 23, 2008 Share Posted December 23, 2008 I just don't. Just putting another perspective out there. No need to be all incredulous about it. Just to be clear, you don't know what kind of things he is into? His hobbies? What he does with his free time? Or do you know and just can't think of a gift to associate with any of them? If that's the case, what are some examples of his hobbies/free time activities? Link to comment
lady00 Posted December 23, 2008 Share Posted December 23, 2008 Just to be clear, you don't know what kind of things he is into? His hobbies? What he does with his free time? Or do you know and just can't think of a gift to associate with any of them? If that's the case, what are some examples of his hobbies/free time activities? Well, the first set of things my mind goes to: I do know that he is not into sports and does not play any sports (except maybe soccer, but he's not a huge fan of that, just watches very casually and he does play it on occasion), he wouldn't go to a play/musical show, he does not collect anything, he is not into video games at all, he does not watch television, not sure what his tastes are in music or movies. I know more about what he does not like than what he does like. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted December 23, 2008 Author Share Posted December 23, 2008 Well, the first set of things my mind goes to: I do know that he is not into sports and does not play any sports (except maybe soccer, but he's not a huge fan of that, just watches very casually and he does play it on occasion), he wouldn't go to a play/musical show, he does not collect anything, he is not into video games at all, he does not watch television, not sure what his tastes are in music or movies. I know more about what he does not like than what he does like. what does he do with all of this time? sleep? Link to comment
hockeyboy Posted December 23, 2008 Share Posted December 23, 2008 Well, the first set of things my mind goes to: I do know that he is not into sports and does not play any sports (except maybe soccer, but he's not a huge fan of that, just watches very casually and he does play it on occasion), he wouldn't go to a play/musical show, he does not collect anything, he is not into video games at all, he does not watch television, not sure what his tastes are in music or movies. I know more about what he does not like than what he does like. Don't you think that's maybe a problem? You listed all the things he doesn't like which is fine...but do you know nothing that he does like? Link to comment
Mythical_Suicide Posted December 23, 2008 Share Posted December 23, 2008 I know more about what he does not like than what he does like. That is when you take the initiative to change that are start finding out what he DOES like. Link to comment
lady00 Posted December 23, 2008 Share Posted December 23, 2008 what does he do with all of this time? sleep? No. He is a student. He studies. He goes out to parties, bars, clubs. He plays soccer. He spends most of his free time hanging out with friends and coming up with new business ideas. Link to comment
Mythical_Suicide Posted December 23, 2008 Share Posted December 23, 2008 No. He is a student. He studies. He goes out to parties, bars, clubs. He plays soccer. He spends most of his free time hanging out with friends and coming up with new business ideas. But you don't even know what type of music or movies he is into? Maybe it's just me but that just doesn't seem right. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted December 23, 2008 Author Share Posted December 23, 2008 No. He is a student. He studies. He goes out to parties, bars, clubs. He plays soccer. He spends most of his free time hanging out with friends and coming up with new business ideas. he studies? get him some pens, paper, pencils, books, etc. he likes to drink? get him some bottle of jack daniels, some shot glasses, rocks glasses, etc. he plays soccer? get him some new shorts, shoes, a ball, etc. hmmm, i'm out of ideas now. but you gave some clues. not that hard to figure out with this information. not trying to bash you, but seriously, you need to find out more about the guy you are seeing. i've hung out with a girl this one weekend and i know more about her than you do about your bf thus far. Link to comment
lady00 Posted December 23, 2008 Share Posted December 23, 2008 But you don't even know what type of music or movies he is into? Maybe it's just me but that just doesn't seem right. Geeze. Why is everyone so hyper critical over this? Yes, I have an idea genre of music he prefers as in what genre, but it's really general and I don't know what other types he might like. I don't know what specific artists he likes. I don't listen to music with him when I'm with him and we don't spend time talking about his tastes in music. He does not know my tastes in music either. Link to comment
hockeyboy Posted December 23, 2008 Share Posted December 23, 2008 Maybe it's just me but that just doesn't seem right. It's not just you. There are so many gifts you can buy for anyone. Does he have an ipod? Everyone needs an ipod? How bout clothes...you must know his clothing style...or a nice watch... Link to comment
ghost69 Posted December 23, 2008 Author Share Posted December 23, 2008 Geeze. Why is everyone so hyper critical over this? Yes, I have an idea genre of music he prefers as in what genre, but it's really general and I don't know what other types he might like. I don't know what specific artists he likes. I don't listen to music with him when I'm with him and we don't spend time talking about his tastes in music. He does not know my tastes in music either. okay, that's just music. what in the crap do you guys do or talk about then? you must know something about him besides the aforementioned. come on lady. not trying to be critical, but i find it very very odd you know basically nothing about your bf. Link to comment
ImThatGirl Posted December 23, 2008 Share Posted December 23, 2008 Lady - Just wanna say I can relate. As I said before, I've stressed about what to get my sons family.... stressed about what to get my family, my kids, etc. etc. etc. Some people have a more difficult time with this. What do the two of you do together? What kind of activities? Link to comment
ghost69 Posted December 23, 2008 Author Share Posted December 23, 2008 Lady - Just wanna say I can relate. As I said before, I've was stressed about what to get my sons family.... stressed about what to get my family, my kids, etc. etc. etc. Some people have a more difficult time with this. What do the two of you do together? What kind of activities? i understand running out of ideas or haven't a clue because you haven't bought for someone before, but not knowing what they are into....that's extreme. Link to comment
ImThatGirl Posted December 23, 2008 Share Posted December 23, 2008 Sidenote: Kudos to you Lady for stepping into this thread. Thinkin.... give the girl a break! aye! Link to comment
lady00 Posted December 23, 2008 Share Posted December 23, 2008 Does he have an ipod? Everyone needs an ipod? How bout clothes...you must know his clothing style...or a nice watch... Well, to answer your specific Q, he has an MP3 player. Anyway, I decided to get him something cooking related. I noticed that he does not have enough of that stuff. He told me he didn't want me to spend much money on him as he is not into gifts or gift-giving. Link to comment
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