Threesomes

[rosephase]

I have no real idea how many people have done, or would be interested in a three way. I have a very odd group of friends and I don’t really know anyone who hasn’t had one but most of my friends are polyamorous, not to mention the swingers so I don’t know how common or uncommon that is.

 

Have you had one? Would you have one? If you would do you have a preference of the gender of the other partners?

[Taomagicdragon]

No and No.

[rosephase]

No and No.

 

Can you explain why?

[Taomagicdragon]

Can you explain why?

Not part of your original question, but to answer you, it takes me a long time with a person to open up to them in any physical way and I require love, commitment, and a connection on an emotional and mental level before I will consent to physical intimacies with a person (that's not to say I'm not romantic, I am emotionally intimate during this time).

 

I am not polyamourous so, for me, sex with someone I do not love will not happen, this cancels out threesomes (happily) and the entire idea is of no interest to me.

[rosephase]

Not part of your original question, but to answer you, it takes me a long time with a person to open up to them in any physical way and I require love, commitment, and a connection on an emotional and mental level before I will consent to physical intimacies with a person (that's not to say I'm not romantic, I am emotionally intimate during this time).

 

I am not polyamourous so, for me, sex with someone I do not love will not happen, this cancels out threesomes (happily) and the entire idea is of no interest to me.

 

thanks for the answer.

 

On a side note since I have been poly I have not had sex with anyone I don't love. Not that that is true for everyone who is poly, but it has been for me at least so far.

[BellaDonna]

Not part of your original question, but to answer you, it takes me a long time with a person to open up to them in any physical way and I require love, commitment, and a connection on an emotional and mental level before I will consent to physical intimacies with a person (that's not to say I'm not romantic, I am emotionally intimate during this time).

 

I am not polyamourous so, for me, sex with someone I do not love will not happen, this cancels out threesomes (happily) and the entire idea is of no interest to me.

 

I agree with the poster above 100%. My bed only has room for a total of 2 and there has to be love, trust, and full commitment under traditional 1on1 monogamy. MFF would turn me off since I am not remotely attracted to women at all and MMF (or what I also refer to as being in the middle of a swordfight) would seem rather degrading in my eyes- which is a turnoff.

[JadedStar]

I agree with the poster above 100%. My bed only has room for a total of 2 and there has to be love, trust, and full commitment under traditional 1on1 monogamy. MFF would turn me off since because I am not attracted to women at all and MMF (or what I also refer to as being in the middle of a swordfight) would seem rather degrading in my eyes- which is a turnoff.

 

Chiming in as number 'three' who agrees with the above.

[kenshinkitten]

You're polyamourous?

I studied Polyamoury in a sexual identification class I took two quarters ago in college.

It's fascinating to me. I am not Poly but I respect people that are.

I don't understand how jealousy works out if at all.

 

OMG you're in Seattle! Me too! (awesome!)

[babii doll]

this topic has been done to death here recently, yes i've had threesomes, one before i met the bf (mfm) and one early into our relationship(mff)

 

dont consider ourselves to be swingers and there is no third person in the relationship. we're still just as commited to eachother as any other relationship, not all relationships end due to a threesome, although some ppl will lead you to believe that is the case.

 

i have worked in swingers clubs in the past and i noticed a growing trend among younger couples active in the lifestyle, it used to be mostly longterm older married cpls. i say whatever works for them.

 

i think its fairly common nowadays, they're just not outspoken about it in fear of judgement from todays mainstream society that tells you what they do behind closed doors isn't 'normal'

[Taomagicdragon]

I feel popular on this thread. Not to knock people involved with the swinging, threesome, etc lifestyle, it's just of no interest to me.

[Mythical_Suicide]

Not part of your original question, but to answer you, it takes me a long time with a person to open up to them in any physical way and I require love, commitment, and a connection on an emotional and mental level before I will consent to physical intimacies with a person (that's not to say I'm not romantic, I am emotionally intimate during this time).

 

I am not polyamourous so, for me, sex with someone I do not love will not happen, this cancels out threesomes (happily) and the entire idea is of no interest to me.

 

 

Can't believe i'm saying it but I agree 100% !!

[looking_up]

Have you had one? Would you have one? If you would do you have a preference of the gender of the other partners?

 

Haven't had one and wouldn't have one, and am absolutely not sexually attracted to the same sex at all, and would be crushed on so many levels if the man I loved proposed that.

 

I think I can understand the polyamorism, it does seem possible to care for and be intimate with more than one person, as long as everyone involved knows and is on the same page, I guess its like multiple FWB's?

 

But being intimate with multiple people at the exact same time seems really unnatural. For me intimacy is very personal and a special connection between two people. Its more than just physical, the emotional connection you have with that person is so unique and makes the physical aspect of sex that much greater.

[Mythical_Suicide]

this topic has been done to death here recently,

 

Yea what I was thinking as well.. I've seen atleast 2 other posts asking the same exact thing here recently.

[Nutz]

I have no real idea how many people have done, or would be interested in a three way. I have a very odd group of friends and I don’t really know anyone who hasn’t had one but most of my friends are polyamorous, not to mention the swingers so I don’t know how common or uncommon that is.

 

Have you had one? Would you have one? If you would do you have a preference of the gender of the other partners?

 

My friend and I split 3 girls before, so I guess you could say it was a 5-way. He and I didn't do anything more than a high-five. Would I do that sort of thing again? Absolutely, would only I'd hope for more women in the mix. Fun stuff.

[rosephase]

Yea what I was thinking as well.. I've seen atleast 2 other posts asking the same exact thing here recently.

 

sorry I didn't see them. Should have searched first.

[Taomagicdragon]

Don't be sorry, people like me on this one

[rosephase]

Haven't had one and wouldn't have one, and am absolutely not sexually attracted to the same sex at all, and would be crushed on so many levels if the man I loved proposed that.

 

I think I can understand the polyamorism, it does seem possible to care for and be intimate with more than one person, as long as everyone involved knows and is on the same page, I guess its like multiple FWB's?

 

But being intimate with multiple people at the exact same time seems really unnatural. For me intimacy is very personal and a special connection between two people. Its more than just physical, the emotional connection you have with that person is so unique and makes the physical aspect of sex that much greater.

 

You know threesomes do always feel a bit off to me. It is hard to connect with two people sexually at the same time. I would say most of the threeways I have had haven't been that great. I do hold out hope. Having sex with another couple seems to work better. maybe 3 is just a hard number.

[kaoticbaby]

i think i would be open too it, as long as i wasn't in a relationship with one of the 2 participants. i don't think i could get past seeing someone i'm in a relationship with doing stuff with another woman. call me crazy.

 

however i wouldn't exactly be opposed to it if it were just 2 other acquaintances.

[kaoticbaby]

My friend and I split 3 girls before, so I guess you could say it was a 5-way. He and I didn't do anything more than a high-five. Would I do that sort of thing again? Absolutely, would only I'd hope for more women in the mix. Fun stuff.

ahahahh, that made me laugh.

[looking_up]

Maybe with another couple would be different if you were all friends, so there was some connection, but that actually sounds like it would be worse and more awkward. It seems like its got to be all physical and you would have to detach yourself emotionally as well as from social norms to fully enjoy yourself.

[kaoticbaby]

Maybe with another couple would be different if you were all friends, so there was some connection, but that actually sounds like it would be worse and more awkward. It seems like its got to be all physical and you would have to detach yourself emotionally as well as from social norms to fully enjoy yourself.

actually, 2 of my best friends and their boyfriends did something like this a while ago. they didn't seem to think it was awkward at all, so it depends on the people.

 

personally, i don't think i could go through with that.

[Snoopy24]

I've had a 3some a couple of times with the same two people a few summers ago. MFF Even though none of us were dating, there was still jealousy issues on the other females part who is close friend, so I stopped so it wouldn't jeopardize our friendship.

 

it was a fun experience, but I wouldn't do it again.

[Penny_Lane]

Yes I've had them and its been all girls each time (fff), really turns me on, so yeah, doing it with females is my preference

[blue69]

Yes I (and my wife) have had them. Both with a female and male. Enjoyed them very much. Didn't love the other person but we did like them. Hadn't hurt our relationship. We love each other very much. I don't think less of her. I was exteremly excited watching her open herself up sexually. The sexually energy was awesome!

 

We learned a lot about each other, and it opened up a whole new perspective on things. We communicate a lot about sexuality and our likes and dislikes.

 

But, it is certainly not for everyone.

[ghost69]

i would love to have one. i never have. i've been close several times. if i did have one, it would be with someone i have little to no emotional anything with.