Not sure where to go from here..

[Band_Nerd]

I got my heart broken again, by the same person. Some of you guys probably know my story, how I was with a guy for 1 year and a half and things just weren't going well and he broke up with me. It was a very bad breakup. After 8 months of being broken up, he comes back to me, saying he was sorry for everything that had happened and that he wanted to try again. At that time, he was also in the process of breaking up with his current girlfriend, who he said was a mistake to go with. I was uncertain at first, but I decided to give him another chance.

 

As you can probably guess, things didn't work out, and he told me that he had finally moved on and that he was back with his other girlfriend. ](*,) He also had admitted that even when he was with me, he had wanted to be with this girl sometimes. I didn't understand how he could come back into my life, wanting me back, I fall back in love with him, and then he says that he's moved on.

 

I'm not sure where to go from here...I've gotten my heart broken twice for the same stupid reasons.

[lisa1126]

I think you answered your own question, and I think you know what you should do.

 

He's not mature enough to carry on a relationship. He is unsure of his own feelings about who he wants to be.

 

You don't really need to give your heart to a man who doesn't even know what his feelings are!

 

His not worth your love, time, and energy.

 

Please, for sake of your own integrity, let him go, once and for all.

 

Hope you get back on your feet.

[Band_Nerd]

Thank you very much. I needed that.

[franfran]

He's not mature enough to carry on a relationship. He is unsure of his own feelings about who he wants to be.

 

I think this hit the nail on the head. He has a lot of growing up to do.

[Band_Nerd]

I think this hit the nail on the head. He has a lot of growing up to do.

 

I kinda agree as well

[Convoluted]

Wow. I know I haven't talked to you in a while. In fact, I've barely been on here since I was talking to you. I'm sorry to hear that you had to go through the same thing all over again and now you're in the same place you were 8 months ago and have to try to find a way to heal.

 

My ex contacted me yesterday and it felt weird. I think she half expected me to say I want her back or something since it was done on Christmas eve and all. Hah, good luck to her on that. People want what they can't have, which explains your x's desire for you one minute and not so much the next.

[Band_Nerd]

Wow. I know I haven't talked to you in a while. In fact, I've barely been on here since I was talking to you. I'm sorry to hear that you had to go through the same thing all over again and now you're in the same place you were 8 months ago and have to try to find a way to heal.

 

My ex contacted me yesterday and it felt weird. I think she half expected me to say I want her back or something since it was done on Christmas eve and all. Hah, good luck to her on that. People want what they can't have, which explains your x's desire for you one minute and not so much the next.

 

Thanks Convoluted.

[Hannah13]

This sounds exactly like me. Im not sure why i let my ex waltz back in and give him another chance. He's now with someone else, he got with her 5 days after we broke up again. Its crazy how these guys are. We deserve better...i got this quote from my sister, she got itf rom a show she watches:

 

Sometimes it's easier to feel like you're the only one in the world who's struggling, who's frustrated, unsatisfied or barely getting by but that feelings a lie and if you just hold on. Just find the courage to face it all another day, someone or something will find you and make it all ok because we all need a little help sometimes. Someone to help us hear their music in the world. To remind us it won't always be this way. That someone is out there and that someone will find you.

 

there out there, and we'll find them. i know it

[homeagain]

band_nerd, you're not alone. a lot of us are on the board for the same reason. a lot of us are here on christmas because this has just happened to us again, and we feel the same sorts of feelings you do. it's not easy, but we have strength in numbers and in our words. we also have something most of our exes will never have: the ability to grow from the situation to be bigger people. we're learning from our mistakes and sharing our hurtful experiences... they're perpetually dating random people five days after and dooming themselves to shallow relationships.

[Band_Nerd]

Thank you guys. I like that quote Hannah13, it's something that everyone should live by.