It's tough to have complete NO CONTACT even if you try

[Flames213]

Well today is officially Day 34 of NO CONTACT from me.

 

The question is, Is it really NO CONTACT when as hard as one tries to go NO CONTACT, that sometimes information gets back to you that you wish didn't?

 

Well it has been over a month and things were going pretty well having not heard hide nor hair of the ex.

 

That was until last Friday when I went to my brothers place only to have my sister in law inform me she was now in a new relationship.(darn facebook) Apparently with this "new friend" she met when things started going sour in our relationship.

 

Now this has set me back. The whole ordeal at the end wondering is now a reality and to say it doesn't sting would be wrong. It's just hard knowing now that everything she every said to me at the end was nothing more than a lie. Funny thing is ended up guilting me into breaking up with her.

 

Well I am sure I will push through fine, perhaps being alone at x-mas is adding to the sinking feeling I am having. Believe me when I say that I have 0% intentions of ever talking with her or pursuing her. I guess just like most others, regarless of how things went down, it tends to knock you down a notch.

 

I hope not to hear about her anymore as I kindly asked the sister in law to not update me on her as I don't want to know.

 

Well here's to Day 35

[keefy1972]

Thats tough to hear, I'm sure. Good for you about staying strong. The value of no contact reveals itself the longer you maintain it.

[Clementine orange]

Gee thanks sis-in-law?!?!?

 

Minor set back only. Try not to dwell on it. It will get better.

[Robert013]

Yeah that does suck. News like that is a hard blow to the ego. You will be fine if you don't have to hear anything about your ex again. My ex met a guy at the bar a few nights after we split and has been with him since then. It hurt me but NC is working.

[SighSob]

That's why I hate facebook. And I even know my ex's password...

[keith515]

Just a bit of advice you may heed at your own discretion. I think keeping a counter of how long of NC keeps you reminding of the ex. It may be good in the beginning when the urges to contact are so strong, but the ultimate goal is to live every day like a normal day. And a normal day is not one in which you think about day 40 or whatever. It will be Friday, January 6th. Nothing special.

[franfran]

Just a bit of advice you may heed at your own discretion. I think keeping a counter of how long of NC keeps you reminding of the ex. It may be good in the beginning when the urges to contact are so strong, but the ultimate goal is to live every day like a normal day. And a normal day is not one in which you think about day 40 or whatever. It will be Friday, January 6th. Nothing special.

 

Completely agree. It helps.

[Flames213]

Yeah I agree with the day count, and to be honest I had to look back at the calendar and count. But true enough I did count.

 

I can't truly move on unless I chose to.

 

Thanks for all the helpful tips