Am I just friendly or flirting?

[Kinetics]

I’m having trouble whether I am throwing the wrong vibe at people, whether it's just being friendly or being flirty.

 

So there was a case I had last night with this girl friend of mine which caught me off guard. I had no interest in dating her but I like being friends with her because she’s just fun and social person to hang out with.

 

There was no indication of flirting, neither us really made advancements like subtle touching or throwing sexual innuendos. Last night, it just ended up in this awkward ‘romantic’ situation and it all was a misunderstanding. Not sure if I was misleading her, or her just reading my signals all wrongly, or she was actually interested in me.

 

I’m generally a friendly person, but I guess to some people, may be it looks too friendly? I dunno, but I thought being interested in a girl (i.e. dating) required a lot of flirting, touching and sexual suggestions.

 

I thought that I’ve always been clear cut when it comes to who I make friends with, and who I am interested in dating, but now I am questioning myself if I am indeed doing it all wrong.

 

I mean, it was nice to know someone found me attractive for a change, but I want to harness this energy and use it to the intended person.

 

I know its sort of vague, but what should I look into?

[Truth317]

If you're not interested in someone, I don't think it's a good idea to flirt with them or play mind games.

[nutbrownhare]

If you're not interested in someone, I don't think it's a good idea to flirt with them or play mind games.

 

Unless they know it's a game, and aren't interested in you romantically either. Then it's a lot of fun.

 

Otherwise, gauge people carefully before being flirtatious with them. There ARE going to be people who would read all sorts into it if you said 'Hi!', but if you often find yourself in this situation then it might be an idea to rein in a bit.

 

As to how to direct your energy towards the intended person ... there are all sorts of tips about this online (think there are even some on this site), but it's important that you stay true to yourself or it's totally cringemaking!

[Kinetics]

Unless they know it's a game, and aren't interested in you romantically either. Then it's a lot of fun.

 

Otherwise, gauge people carefully before being flirtatious with them. There ARE going to be people who would read all sorts into it if you said 'Hi!', but if you often find yourself in this situation then it might be an idea to rein in a bit.

 

As to how to direct your energy towards the intended person ... there are all sorts of tips about this online (think there are even some on this site), but it's important that you stay true to yourself or it's totally cringemaking!

 

I was true to myself...usually, if I was interested in someone I would flirt with them, but in the case of this girl, I just threw jokes at her, not flirting. Maybe that did spark an unintended interest in her perhaps...who knows.

[hope of ray]

difference between harmones

male thinks that if he is physical with a female then only its a relationship but female thinks if she is emotionaly involved then its a relationship. winking of eyes, locking eyes, saying sweet words in her ears and doing such jestures without even touching her may be just friendly thing for male but for female it can be a relationship or flirting sort of thing.