Dont Know What To Do....Please

[Maverick212]

My ex is the most stubbron person alive. Since the break up she has changed, evryone but her sees it, her friends have such issues with her, because she is so immature acting. She is 19, i'm 22, her room mates have issues with her, and today all her friends told her how immature she's acting, always wanting to do things her self and that she's an individual. Someone told her, a guy, that she should go back to me, and that she is second guessing herself. Her friends are telling her she made a mistake, and will realize it. And the other day she told her friend that me and her would have gotten married and could have, but she said i hurt her, and i realize that i did, many times. She also said that she tried to fix it during the summer when it started to go bad. We've been apart for 3 months, we leave accross the hall from each other at school. And i have confessed my feelings to her several times with zero results. Winter break is approaching, she's going to Spain for 3weeks, her birthday is the 30th. What do I do?? I love her and i want nothing more but to be with her. Should i keep my mouth shut and let it play out and she what happens next semester?? Or act?? I just dont know??

[Maverick212]

she said she has no regrets. but what do i make of all this??

[High5girl]

Well, let's see....you have told her your feeling on several occasions and haven't gotten any results? I'd leave it be.

She's probably going thru some changes and needs to discover a few things about herself.

She's an ex...why worry about what she has become after you two broke up?

Let her go to Spain. Maybe she will have time to think about what she wants while she's there. She's only going to be gone for 3 weeks. It's not a lifetime.

[gee]

Well, let's see....you have told her your feeling on several occasions and haven't gotten any results? I'd leave it be.

She's probably going thru some changes and needs to discover a few things about herself.

She's an ex...why worry about what she has become after you two broke up?

Let her go to Spain. Maybe she will have time to think about what she wants while she's there. She's only going to be gone for 3 weeks. It's not a lifetime.

 

High5girl, is right! She is 19yrs of age and she might be going through some changes in her life.

 

Let her be and don't smother her. Give her some room to breathe so she can gather her thoughts. Let her go to Espana and let her do all the thinking. Enjoy the holidays with the ones that love you the most, your family!

 

We are not perfect we make mistakes all the time. Keep your head up! Best wishes!

 

gee

[Maverick212]

Okay, so my ex has been in my suite for the past two nights in a row. Not to see me, but to help one of our suitemates with a girl issue he's having. However,last night i was able to maintain my composure around and be myself although it was extremely hard. Then tonight she came back in the suite for the same reason to help our suitemate again. And i was in the kitchen with my other suitemate talking, and she was talking to both of us, civily and i gave her some food that we had cooked earler. And after she left, i just freaked out because she talks about guy friends and * * * * , how she played spin the bottle and * * * * , and it pissed me off. And i dunno to take it as a good sign she's even there or a bad one. And the semester is over in 2 days. Should i do something or not do something?????

[Lights]

First, I'm not sure how you see it as immature that she is wanting to do things herself and be an individual. I think that's a really healthy part of growing up.

 

Second, her friends are not her. Just because THEY think she made a mistake, it doesn't make it fact. If she says she's not interested, then that's how she feels right now. She's entitled to that, no matter what you or her friends think.

 

Third, pushing and pushing by telling her your feelings "several times", isn't going to help. I don't think that one day she'll just say "oh, snap, changed my mind, just like that!"... I think that you need to give her some space. Pursuing her the way you are when she isn't interested is going to push her away because she'll view you in a different light than if you just let her be and let her feel what she feels.

 

Sorry if I seemed harsh, because I'm usually not... but that's how I see it.