dreamwarrior Posted December 21, 2008 Share Posted December 21, 2008 Hope this might help....going to try some of these myself. Ice cream, alcohol, meaningless hookups: the go-to antidotes for a bad breakup are often about distraction rather than relief. What's more, they tend to injure more than assuage, as if the breakup itself didn't cause enough pain. Here, we've identified 10 healthy ways to deal with getting dumped that don't include booze, food or flings: 1. Buy the Dumped! Fun and Games Activity Book, which offers such whimsical games as “I Cried to Smell Few (I Tried to Tell You).” Help broken-hearted “Sam” decipher what his friends have been telling him about his now ex-girlfriend in lines such as “Why stink clue fan screw fetter.” Translation: “I think you can do better.” 2. Surround yourself with happy people. Recent link removed from Harvard and the University of California, San Diego shows happiness is “infectious,” so take up with a group of friends or organization that you know is high on life. 3. Log on to link removed and submit your breakup e-mails or IM conversations. The names are changed, so it's an anonymous way to have complete strangers tell you what a jerk he was. Your friends need a break anyway. 4. Listen to these top 10 link removed of the year. From Pink to Kanye, these tunes are all about getting back on your feet. 5. Learn boxing. link removed lists location around the country. Get angry—then get ripped. 6. Give your home a makeover. Following link removed principles can help you clear out the emotional and physical clutter from your previously shared space. 7. Get even without getting a restraining order: practice your frustrations on a link removed instead. 8. Write. Whether on a blog, in a journal or in a letter you may decide never to send, getting the words from brain to paper or screen can link removed. 9. Volunteer for a cause you feel passionate about or to help those whose plight might give you a new perspective on your own. link removed can help you find the right place and the right time. 10. Fall in love with a new scent. Learn to associate the smell of a new link removed, candle, flower or detergent—even—with your new, improved and single self. Take a sniff everytime the breakup blues arise. Of course, sometimes a glass (ok, or a botttle) of wine, meeting someone new or buying a hot new dress is the just what the doctor ordered. Ultimately, do what feels right to you. Good luck everyone...your friend...~dream~ Link to comment
auburnslp Posted December 21, 2008 Share Posted December 21, 2008 Truly, good stuff...not trying to diminish the excellent advice aboce...but I have to say-some of us just need to curl up with a bottle of wine or a bunch of beers and howl at the moon...the pain is all different, for all of us, and what works is all different as well... Link to comment
dreamwarrior Posted December 21, 2008 Author Share Posted December 21, 2008 Truly, good stuff...not trying to diminish the excellent advice aboce...but I have to say-some of us just need to curl up with a bottle of wine or a bunch of beers and howl at the moon...the pain is all different, for all of us, and what works is all different as well... Hi auburn, Even if it can help a few people that would be great! Link to comment
auburnslp Posted December 21, 2008 Share Posted December 21, 2008 I agree! I think everyone should avoid my way of dealing with heartbreak-luckily I've only had my heart broken a couple times... Link to comment
dreamwarrior Posted December 21, 2008 Author Share Posted December 21, 2008 I agree! I think everyone should avoid my way of dealing with heartbreak-luckily I've only had my heart broken a couple times... I just had a great thought for myself..hehehe..I know where to find a voodoo doll....haha You know through all the heartache and stress, and even during the holiday season so far I have not even had one drink? I think perhaps I may have one on New Years Day to celebrate my new beginning. Guess I am afraid of drinking because it leads to more depression (it intensifies the already depressed feeling)...and actually these days I am feeling better and better day by day and don't want to cause myself any back sliding. Gotta keep moving forward, but I think one drink will be okay...yay! Take care...~dream~ Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted December 21, 2008 Share Posted December 21, 2008 There's nothing wrong with a nice bowl of ice cream while writing in a blog or journal....or a nice bowl of ice cream while working on the activity book....or volunteering at a children's group home and taking them for ice cream!! Can you tell I like ice cream (chocolate)! Link to comment
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