GF leaves for the Army soon, how to cope..

[Jgregoire108]

Hey everyone.

 

My GF signed up for the Army Reserves, and she leaves on Feb. 9th. We have been together for 2 years, and live together. She will be gone for 5 months before coming back home. Her reserve station is in our Hometown, and as reserves, she wont be moving anywhere else.

 

I love this woman with all my heart, and we have talked about a future together. Mainly this will be a difficult time for the both of us, and just wanted to know how best I can cope. Its not that I am scared of losing her, I am scared that I may get too lonely that I may stray, or seek that attention elsewhere while she is gone.

 

I have School full-time, as well as with my Full-time job, and I hope that it will keep me busy enough to get through this time.

 

Its just going to be hard going from having that Beautiful, Wonderful person that I fall asleep with every night, to being alone.

 

Any ideas on how to get make the best of this?:sad:

[Snoopy24]

If you loved her with all of your heart...i think youd be scared of losing her instead of worrying about cheating on her.

[kaoticbaby]

If you loved her with all of your heart...i think youd be scared of losing her instead of worrying about cheating on her.

^ good point.

 

if you wan't to keep from cheating on her then it's pretty simple: just don't. it's not like you can't control yourself.

 

five months isn't that long. there are troops who are deployed for way longer.

[jengh]

^^ agreed x2

[Jgregoire108]

True. And I have in a way made my decision ahead of time that I wont do anything to compromise that (i.e. cheating), and not put myself into those situations

 

Its not that I scared of her leaving me (though it can happen), Im just scared of who she will be when she comes back.

 

I was in the Army 7 years ago, and I know how much of a Life changing experience it did for me. I worry that when she comes back, she wont be that person I fell in love with

[alli]

My bf & I were in exactly the same situation. I had to leave for 5 months of army training. Basically we texted all the time & got webcams. I'm going to bet that she is enlisted since it seems like this was a recent decision (as opposed to officer side, which takes some time to get into before leaving for training).

 

I'm guessing she's going to Basic Training, then AIT. During Basic she will not be able to call you pretty much at all, although you can send letters to each other. I think she would be able to text you during AIT. At the very least you can usually talk on weekends.

 

I don't think the training will change her much. My soldiers come home from training basically the same people they were when they left, except they are knowledgeable of their job & in decent shape. It's just training. If she were deploying oconus- maybe a different story. You were in 7 years? Active Duty? 5 months of training will probably not change her much.

 

As for your concern about staying faithful.. I see a person who cheats as an inherent flaw in their character, not the responsibility of the person they cheated on. If you know you have a strong enough character to do the right thing, you have nothing to worry about. As long as you accept that you are solely responsible for your own actions.

[Jgregoire108]

As for your concern about staying faithful.. I see a person who cheats as an inherent flaw in their character, not the responsibility of the person they cheated on. If you know you have a strong enough character to do the right thing, you have nothing to worry about. As long as you accept that you are solely responsible for your own actions.

 

I do accept them, and know that I would be the one to blame completely, not her. Its not that I plan on doing any of that, mainly its just that I can get lonely, and have made plans ahead of time not to act on that loneliness, if any situation comes along.

 

To nip it in the bud so to speak.

 

My biggest concern is what to do while she is away, other than school or work. I plan on hanging out with friends and family when I have time (if and when I get that time LOL)