Internet dating?

[MyheartorHis]

I've never done anything like internet dating. I know a lot of you guys have. I just had a few questions.

 

1. Is there any good free internet dating websites? If so, what are they?

 

2. Has anyone had any luck on them? I'm afraid I'll get emotionally involved and find out they are nothing like they made themselves seem. It's apart of the game, I guess.

 

3. Is there anything I should know about internet dating since I'm a new comer with it all?

 

Thanks for reading everyone. I'm really hesitant to do it without you guys advice.

[waveseer]

I can totally understand why you ask ena before doing things like embarking on internet dating for the first time.

 

My only advice is to spend as little time as possible before you meet for coffee or a quick lunch. That way nobody's expectations can get out of control. And don't be sexually explicit unless that's all your looking for.

[MyheartorHis]

I can totally understand why you ask ena before doing things like embarking on internet dating for the first time.

 

My only advice is to spend as little time as possible before you meet for coffee or a quick lunch. That way nobody's expectations can get out of control. And don't be sexually explicit unless that's all your looking for.

 

I'm glad you said that because I would definitely wait a long time before meeting them. I also know not to go back to their place or something like that. I know some people are there are creeps and would act like they are genuine but could have further plans. So the safety part of it I understand... but other than that I'm clueless!!

[waveseer]

I'm glad you said that because I would definitely wait a long time before meeting them. I also know not to go back to their place or something like that. I know some people are there are creeps and would act like they are genuine but could have further plans. So the safety part of it I understand... but other than that I'm clueless!!

 

If they show interest, exchange a few emails, and then if you're still interested ask them to call you (or vice versa). I like to see that they have initiative so I have them call me. Once we talk on the phone I can tell a whole lot more about them. Talk a few times and then meet. Any more than that is pen pals or phone pals.

[redhearts]

Safest is to talk on-line through messaging to see if they come off stalkerish first. Don't give your number out so damn quick though. First few calls just call yourself blocked number. I mean you can say your phone automatically does it or you like to keep it private for now.

[spearntime]

Also, remember it's all fair game, they're all picking the best one... out of A LOT! Oh, and beware of the long distance ones. I've heard those can end in total disaster! (Some are fine...but it's rare).

[waveseer]

Safest is to talk on-line through messaging to see if they come off stalkerish first. Don't give your number out so damn quick though. First few calls just call yourself blocked number. I mean you can say your phone automatically does it or you like to keep it private for now.

 

I have never had anyone strange call me, nor has anyone called too much or after I wanted them to stop.

[redhearts]

I have never had anyone strange call me, nor has anyone called too much or after I wanted them to stop.

 

LOL I'm just saying that you can never be too careful.

[spearntime]

The good thing about online dating is the stalkerish types can always jump back on immediately to find someone new. They don't fixate so much on one person because there are so many!

[xxNPxx]

I'm a pretty big online dater. I have to say that you should memorize what ready2heal says. Going in for long conversation has killed a few possible chances with some really good matches for me.

 

Just be sure to be careful what you say. I've said somethings that have pissed a girl off pretty badly. And all they were was, "Why do you like to camp? It seems boring to me." (Almost got cussed out for that one.) "I have to look at your profile each time I log on because it simply iritates. It's just one THOSE profiles you know? Something about it stands out. Like a sigh that says 'I do not belong' or something." (A girl told me to NEVER say that to any woman who is not attracted to me. I couldn't even figure out what I did wrong.)

 

Oh, and be sure to type in: Free Online dating

 

I've found Mingle2, OkCupid, and Plenty of fish.

[MyheartorHis]

Eh, I'm not worried about saying something wrong. I am a big joker and I need someone who has the same kind of humor I do.. or at least get that I'm joking.. If not... NEXT! (Does anyone watch the MTV dating show Next? That's what I just reminded myself of! Haha!)

[xxNPxx]

Eh, I'm not worried about saying something wrong. I am a big joker and I need someone who has the same kind of humor I do.. or at least get that I'm joking.. If not... NEXT! (Does anyone watch the MTV dating show Next? That's what I just reminded myself of! Haha!)

 

Yeah, I'm a bit of a joker myself. But not everyone understands just playful banter. Seriously, your humor could possibly ruin it for a wide selection of people. I've probably ruined any chance of possible email with MANY girls guy being silly. It's all fun until you realize that you've emailed all the interesting people on the site and most won't respond, and the ones that do are slightly offended.

 

I'm just offering my advice here. I've done internet dating A LOT. For like a whole year. If you like to joke around, do it in person where people can KNOW your being goofy. Otherwise you might not even get a shot at meeting people in person.

[MyheartorHis]

Yeah, I'm a bit of a joker myself. But not everyone understands just playful banter. Seriously, your humor could possibly ruin it for a wide selection of people. I've probably ruined any chance of possible email with MANY girls guy being silly. It's all fun until you realize that you've emailed all the interesting people on the site and most won't respond, and the ones that do are slightly offended.

 

I'm just offering my advice here. I've done internet dating A LOT. For like a whole year. If you like to joke around, do it in person where people can KNOW your being goofy. Otherwise you might not even get a shot at meeting people in person.

 

But that's just crazy! I thought more people would have a sense of humor than that. I'm sorry for all the bad luck with people that have no sense.

 

I'll definitely hold off on the sarcasm and other things that I find funny...

[musicguy]

I "date" online quite a bit.

 

OkCupid and PlentyOfFish are some free ones that I know of.

 

For me it's been an off and on thing with luck online. My ex-fiance I met online way back in 1999. Even though I've had some bad luck, I'm still lookin online for love, even though a lot of my friends/co-workers are against me doing it

[jaysfan2000]

I get very bored with email discussions, and even phone conversations, so some times I try to expedite meeting in person. The first time I did it, the girl seemed to like it (she flaked out on me a month later though), but the 2nd time I did it the girl stopped conversation completely (she seemed really afraid of online dating so maybe I scared her off by being so quick). Just do whatever feels right. IMO, you could have great emails but then meet in person and find out you have no chemistry, which makes all the emails/phone conversations a big waste of time.

[Laura11111]

My only advice is to spend as little time as possible before you meet for coffee or a quick lunch. That way nobody's expectations can get out of control.

 

Haha...my first thought when I read the OP was to say, make sure you spend some time getting to know the person before you meet.

 

As a female, currently on an internet dating site, I get scared off when a guy suggests we meet too soon. I'm worried about safety in case the guy is a creep or a pervert or something.

[Laura11111]

Oh...don't send out a generic e-mail to all the girls you like. Either they won't be interested because they think you didn't read their profile or they'll get the same e-mail twice...or three time...or four! I block those men.

[xxNPxx]

Haha...my first thought when I read the OP was to say, make sure you spend some time getting to know the person before you meet.

 

As a female, currently on an internet dating site, I get scared off when a guy suggests we meet too soon. I'm worried about safety in case the guy is a creep or a pervert or something.

 

Some girls on ENA say they will not ever meet a guy if they talk too much during an email. Many of those same girls say that if they don't meet a guy after 2-3 emails then they just don't want to.

 

I guess everyone does things differently and it would probably be best to simply ask.

[Dubb]

Oh...don't send out a generic e-mail to all the girls you like. Either they won't be interested because they think you didn't read their profile or they'll get the same e-mail twice...or three time...or four! I block those men.

 

What do you mean by generic? Need an example.

[Laura11111]

What do you mean by generic? Need an example.

 

An e-mail the applies to everyone.

 

For example:

 

Hi Katy,

I had a look at you're profile and I liked what I saw. You seem very interesting. Please have a look at my profile and let me know if you are interested in talking.

 

Hi Amanda,

I had a look at you're profile and I liked what I saw. You seem very interesting. Please have a look at my profile and let me know if you are interested in talking.

 

Hi Jen,

I had a look at you're profile and I liked what I saw. You seem very interesting. Please have a look at my profile and let me know if you are interested in talking.

[Dubb]

Makes sense. I am still new to the online thing and feeling it out. I am much better in person. I guess that is why I was iffy on trying it.

[kuiks8]

I was an avid internet dater for a few years. I agree that you should meet sooner rather than later...and be aware that for all the good there are always a few bad...

be aware that there is fierce competition and women/men can be super picky b/c if they don't like one thing about you there is probably someone else who doesn't do that thing...

i kind of don't want to do it anymore...i want to meet people in real life situations and avoid the drama that is internet dating...

[MyheartorHis]

Just to update you guys, I started a profile on POF and I LOVE it! I talked with a number of guys, most either didn't have anything special to say or they were wayyyy to pushy. All the guys who gave me their number, I didn't even write them down nor did I give out my number AT ALL. I met this one guy and we kinda hit off really well. We were definitely both sarcastic and flirted a lot. One off his friends walked in the room and he showed him my picture and turns out I know his friend! HAHAHA!

 

I guess there are ups and downs to that. We still didn't give out our numbers, but at least I know he isn't some creepy guy. It did make it a little awkward but I feel so much better if we decide to meet!! Thanks EVERYONE for your help!