meaner boys being better at sex?

[idls]

I don't entirely mean that subject

I donot mean anything mean by this.. or categorizing men and the way they perform or anything, this is just from I guess expiriences

 

it seems like the guys that are kind of assholey and cocky maybe are always really good at sex, and the boys that are just nice have alll been REALLY fast to cum, and just not desirable. And my boyfriend right now is amazing, and he isn't one of those boys that will not kiss your ass 24/7, I love him.

 

thanks

 

edit: and also he DOES cum sometimes in 2 minutes!! noone's perfect...I just take it as a compliment other times he can go for long and hard. , but I've had nice guy relationships, and it bores me (the boys I have been with..nothing wrong with nice guys! just don't like the ones that kiss my butt.)

 

---Edit: he treats me right he is sooo sweet to me and loves me! he is just one of those assholey guys that has no problem being rude to anyone else!! and he is very good in bed to me btw ha

and no he isn't a "playa", I mean when he was younger he's had more sexual partners than I have..but so what he's clean and I don't care it's all in the past.

[waveseer]

There may be some truth to your observation, but for the long haul it's much easier to assist a nice guy into becoming a better lover than trying to teach an a*****e to be nice.

[laisla]

i don't know about that (haven't been with "enough" guys to say much). but i would GUESS that a lot of cocky (for no reason) guys are mainly selfish and not necessarily better at sex. i've kissed two guys who were very cocky and a-hole-ish, they were SO bad at kissing.

what makes sex good is not just ramming a stick in a hole, it's sooooooooooooooooo much more than that. both partners have to be fairly open, communicative, and try to please the other as well as themselves.

[laisla]

btw nice guys don't cum faster - speaking from personal experience.

[Mguy92]

God...that's such a load of * * * * .

 

I know I'd be experienced at sex in spite of being a virgin. Why? I've observed a lot of it via internet and late night cinemax. It all seems simple enough. Besides, I have a pretty active libido, and I know how to make myself last longer. Am I a "mean boy," hell no, I'm actually pretty damn shy and nice to people, but I'm also horny as hell and craving a girlfriend to have a physical and romantic relationship with. So no...mean and cocky men aren't the only people who know what they're doing during sex.

[Raistlin]

I'm a nice guy, and I've had girls literally beg me for sex after having it with me. Apparently, I'm quite good at what I do. And if lasting between 30-45 mins the first time and 2+ hours each time after that is cumming too fast.. then, well, you probably take a lot to get off.

[coldplay.]

ya thats prolly the most ridiculous statement. I know your young just by how you wrote it out, and 'nice guys' in your age group probably are virgins or close too, so yes maybe some truth, but very very limited.

 

This is a retarded thread. It insults the concept of basic intelligence.

 

GG.

[laisla]

many girls like to be dominated during sex, which gets them really turned on. maybe that's what the OP meant to say?

[ay0_x]

Guys, she was just wondering, she admits not knowing and not stating it as a fact, she was just curious. I can see a lot of you would be upset and/or offended but she meant well.

 

As for the OP, I agree with ForsakenLove. Nice guys don't get laid enough to be good at it.

[ay0_x]

I was referring to the fact they cum faster...at least initially of course. And sorry OP or anyone else, but I am just stating my opinion and I think it's ridiculous thinking.

 

I'm a nice guy, haven't slept with loads of women, but with each one I did they all got the best orgasms of their life. There goes the whole OP theory.

 

Yeah I know, and for most women, guy that cums too fast= not too good at bed.

[Mguy92]

Yeah I know, and for most women, guy that cums too fast= not too good at bed.

 

Actually, sometimes I find myself rushing to ejaculate because it takes me so long to get it out, but at the same time, I get more enjoyment out of that. Now, if only women were attracted to me...

[android]

Its not easy to get into a relationship with someone who is nice and caring. There's a lot out there... It may take a long time to feel right with someone, and a minute to lose him. You feeling is not right. Nice guys VS Cocky guys in sex, well its just a lot biological and yeah, experience... You dont want to be with a guy who F**** everyone in town do ya? If you go for the so called "bad Guys" odds are that you will only be satisfied in your sex life and not enjoy the relationship... Well, the choice is yours..

[ay0_x]

Not really, I will cum fast the first time I have actual sex in a while. Just the rush and thrill of adrenaline causing so. By the second, third time...

 

I meant a guy who chronically cums too quickly.

 

And Mguy92, I know a lot of women who would find that attractive, especially ones that take a long time cumming themselves.

[Mguy92]

Is this about the whole idea that women like to be dominated during sex? If it is, and women think shy/nice guys won't do much domination, then they are also mistaken. I am nice and shy, but when I think about sex, I picture myself to be an experienced animal who always comes back for more. Obviously I'm open to trading places. That's what women like, right? It's just a shame I'm not a jerk, since I probably won't get to experience any of my sexual desires with women... * * * * .

[ay0_x]

Is this about the whole idea that women like to be dominated during sex? If it is, and women think shy/nice guys won't do much domination, then they are also mistaken. I am nice and shy, but when I think about sex, I picture myself to be an experienced animal who always comes back for more. Obviously I'm open to trading places. That's what women like, right? It's just a shame I'm not a jerk, since I probably won't get to experience any of my sexual desires with women... * * * * .

 

Just go up to women and be like.. HEY, YOU. I'M A GENTLEMAN IN THE STREET BUT A FREAK IN THE BED. INTERESTED?

 

All kidding aside, you sound like a catch.

[laisla]

Just go up to women and be like.. HEY, YOU. I'M A GENTLEMAN IN THE STREET BUT A FREAK IN THE BED. INTERESTED?

 

All kidding aside, you sound like a catch.

 

hahah! .......

[doyathink]

I was married to a complete son of a witch!...and he was/is a 30 second man...every...time...for nine years. SO! No, it's not a personality trait for the nice guy.

 

I've dated several nice guys who knew exactly what they were doing in bed...because they WERE nice, and cared how they treated a woman. I would venture to say it's quite the opposite then what you are thinking, OP.

[dreamwarrior]

Yeah I know, and for most women, guy that cums too fast= not too good at bed.

 

yeh, I have to agree...my ex was the minute man and he was not a nice guy....and believe me in 44 years he had way to much sex...wasn't that good in bed...I like touching, caressing, and foreplay...but, I would get him so hot that he couldn't wait to get it in me...and when I finished with him, his legs would be like wet noodles...hahaha

 

I had good guys and bad guys before and to tell you the truth it just depends on the guy and his experiences or there lack of!

[Anna.]

Personal experience:

I caught mister a-hole cocky guy with the great sex. He matured, cleaned up, and low and behold, the man who could go for hours can't seem to perform sober.

 

Just my experience

[coldplay.]

As for the OP, I agree with ForsakenLove. Nice guys don't get laid enough to be good at it.

 

ridiculously stereotypical and ill prove it wrong.

 

I am a 'nice' guy. And i guarantee i am better in bed, and had more sex, have had better sexual experiences that most "bad guys" and i will stand FIRMLY behind that.

 

While the 'bad guys' were chasing girls every weekend and scoring once ina while, i was getting it done every night, more often than not multiple times, for the last 7 years of my life in 3 separate relationships. I think of myself as a person that has this down to a fine art.

 

The fact that women think bad guys are better in bed proves that they buy into that BS that 'bad guys' put forward to begin with, that they are more masculine in bed ect. But what happens, mid life crisis's happen and young girls which are the majority that agree with OP say omfg nobody loves me ive been played for 20 years.

 

I meant a guy who chronically cums too quickly.

 

Do you equate those guys as 'nice guys' maybe guys who are self conscious about their lack of staying power, dont have as much confidence and thereforee arnt cocky assholes?

[doyathink]

Oh thank you sweet chocolate baby jesus!

 

Ahahahaa.....man, you just made me hungry for chocolate. Thanks!

[doyathink]

I'm glad I could be of some "service" given that I am a nice guy stereotype. I hope that wasn't fast.

 

well, I was going to say you were a little fast to respond....lol

[ay0_x]

Okay, you prove it wrong. But it is a stereotype. Since when does every stereotype come out 100% correct? The majority of nice guys do NOT have a lot of sex, they do NOT get a lot of girls because, yes, stupid girls are out chasing guys who'll treat them like * * * * .

 

So.. the nice guy doesn't get laid. When he does eventually get laid, he's inexperienced. He probably cums too quickly. It probably happens more than once. Then he doesn't get laid anymore for a while and the cycle continues.

[Lecturer]

The only problem with the OP's theory is that it is a blanket statement, and if I've learned anything about sex in the last few years it's that blanket statement have no value whatsoever.

 

In the game of "reliable guy" vs "playa guy", the reliable guy that has been in a solid relationship, having sex nearly every day for years has practiced hundreds of times, presumably with the same partner. Chances are, he knows his stuff.. he knows what she likes and doesn't like, and he can please her the way no other guy could (in a one-off situation).

 

However, in the game of "boring, predictable, comfortable husband" vs "wild stranger", a woman that gets off on adventure and power games (like being dominated) may prefer the latter (the "bad boy"). But this is of course dependent on the woman. Some women get off on guys that respect them, give them exactly what they need, give them light kisses and soft carresses, etc. Other women want to feel dangerous and be spanked and hair pulled by a guy that is uninhibited and whom they don't feel entirely safe with. The question of 'which guy is better' really must be qualified by the woman he is having sex with.

 

Even the issue of cumming too fast depends on the woman... I prefer drawn out sex sessions, but often my wife wants quickies where I cum within a couple minutes (I suppose it makes her feel hot to make me cum rapidly even after 10 years of sex). The point is, nothing is absolute.

[DropToZero]

No... I'd considered myself to be an as*hole in the past probably,and now I'm a pretty good guy... but without saying much because I'm pretty modest... my girlfriend leaves the bed quite pleased.

 

Maybe you should just have better communication, and tell him you want the sex to last a little longer, or what else he could do for you?...or you for him for that matter? Or mention kegel exercises... it just seems quite over the top to dismiss someone you're in a relationship with if they're not doing so well on one part of your key aspects of your relationship.... how about HELPING your partner, instead of kicking him to the curb?...this is a relationship and a person, not a contract and a job.