Acting ridiculous with your ex?

[nada_es_fake]

As hard I tried to stay away, she called, we talked, it got ugly. I ended up crying like an idiot, and she told me to get over it and hung up. I feel pathetic and, as much I want it to be there, I feel like I have no dignity left. I know she will call later this weekend and ask whether i'm ok or not. I wish she didn't. I feel like a complete fool. No matter how much I talk to myself about not letting her see how much I still care, I always mess it up. It's like a scab I can't help picking.

 

How do I save face? I really want to do NC but she always calls, and i'm really weak. I need support because I realize how ridiculous i'm being, and i'm sick of myself already.

[waveseer]

Change your phone number.

[knightNshiningarmor]

next time she calls tell her..sorry im going out right now call me back later...actually...dont. and hang up the phone...take your dignity back with force lol. dontsay your going out on a date it looks to made up just saying your going out and let her wonder what that implies.

[Crazyaboutdogs]

Next time she calls simply tell her that since the relationship is over it is time to go your separate ways and that you don't want her to call you anymore. Wish her all the best in the future and if she tries to argue with you etc just tell her that it is over and done with and you are no longer interested in keeping in contact. Say it without emotion, just direct, to the point, in a very polite way and then say goodbye.

[alli]

Next time she calls simply tell her that since the relationship is over it is time to go your separate ways and that you don't want her to call you anymore. Wish her all the best in the future and if she tries to argue with you etc just tell her that it is over and done with and you are no longer interested in keeping in contact. Say it without emotion, just direct, to the point, in a very polite way and then say goodbye.

 

Agreed. Keep your composure. Cry after you hang up.

[littlestar]

Change your number or if u cant do that ask her to not call you anymore and put the phone down and keep doing this - she will get the message sooner or later.

[blackgnat]

Tell her that you are just fine. Tell her you over-reacted last time you spoke because it was a life change, but you have accepted and adapted the change....

 

Better yet, don't even respond-why put yourself thru the torture?

[goodkarma_1]

Been there.....SO many times. I know its hard to stay NC. I'm trying to myself. I feel so weak-minded sometimes and pathetic. But hey there will be someone one day that will be in our shoes doing what we are doing only to us this time.

 

My advice would be to change your number and if you are like me you can't just do it without feeling cold, when she calls simply tell her that I’m just letting you know that I’ll be changing my number because I don’t want to drag this on when we are hurting each other. I would do that but he owes me a lot of money unfortunately. I wish you luck my friend. Stay strong and come on here for support. There are amazing people on here that really care.

[islandj]

Act corteous and simply tell her that you can't talk at the minute and that you will call her some other time (when you are ready that is and if you want to call her again).

 

And then enter in NC, I dont believe in annoucing to your ex that you will be "entering" NC, thats none of their business what you decide to do.

 

You can show to people that you are strong without being an As!$%#

 

All the best

[HeartBrokn]

Been there.....SO many times. I know its hard to stay NC. I'm trying to myself. I feel so weak-minded sometimes and pathetic. But hey there will be someone one day that will be in our shoes doing what we are doing only to us this time.

 

My advice would be to change your number and if you are like me you can't just do it without feeling cold, when she calls simply tell her that I’m just letting you know that I’ll be changing my number because I don’t want to drag this on when we are hurting each other. I would do that but he owes me a lot of money unfortunately. I wish you luck my friend. Stay strong and come on here for support. There are amazing people on here that really care.

 

Very good advice, I was curious, are you still trying to make things work. It sounds like you might be trying to hang on to something there and you don't want to burn any bridges. One thing I noticed from being in the same shoes as you in my previous relationships. If you stay a bit more confident and have a casual conversation without going into an emotional (talk about stuff that doesn't invoke emotions) then you can show that you are just a normal guy that is not really affected by all this, she might find that more appeling then someone falling all over her.

[nada_es_fake]

Thanks for the advice guys; I definitely feel as i'm regaining my dignity again. Of course, she ended up calling me back a few hours after she hung up on me around 2:30 in the morning- she was probably drunk. I didn't answer. She called again 10 minutes later; again, I didn't answer.

 

She then left me a text message that said, "I can't be in love with you if there's no hope of us being together. Maybe if you moved back then things would be different." I didn't respond and just went to sleep.

 

I really hope this NC thing works because i'm sick and tired of caring about this. Thank you guys.