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[C6Z06]

My Ex just textd me today saying she just got her paycheck and was not happy and cried in front of her boss. She said that it makes her just want to leave work and go home to sleep and never wake up again. She said she just wants to run away and never comeback, she also said that she was crying.. I text'd her, "don't do that", "I want u to b ok and not cry", "Cheer up", and "I'll call you later today after I get back from the gym after work to make sure you're alright".

 

Was she saying this to get my attention and comfort?

or Was she saying this to test to see if I was really there for her??

Did I say the right things?

[mags_7531]

Whats your situation? Who broke up with who?

[Whiskers]

I don't know much about the situation but if she is your ex...and telling you these things then I would put some thought into her having alterior motives. Why would she tell you she's crying and all that stuff? Why is it your business?

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[savignon]

If she was trying to get your attention, it didn't work, did it? Why would call her "after gym after work" and not sooner? The same thing you texted you could have given her a quick call to say...same effort, same ammount of time and yet MUCH different response. Crying infront of boss is not good...but I'm assuming she's young and appropriately immature (for her young age).

[justletgo07]

She's probably used to going to you first when she has problems or things go badly in her life. You haven't shown her that you won't be now that you're broken up, so she probably assumes that she still can.

 

It is also possible that she is trying to gauge your level of interest and caring. I'm sure she likes that you are still willing to give her attention, etc.

 

Dumpees often think that it is mean or cruel to not be there for their dumper if they are upset, need help, etc. Truth is, your dumper will be fine without you, and excluding some serious emergency or illness, there's no reason for you to go out of your way to be there for them. You may think "well it was only a text" but if it delays your healing, you are putting them before you, and you shouldn't be doing that anymore.

[franfran]

She's saying that cause she's crazy.

I don't think you should reply to her anymore....I don't know your story, but it sounds like she is having a tough time and wants to bring you down with her. She's one of "those." She needs to figure herself out, and she needs to do it on her own!

[savignon]

Oh, sorry...I just re-read that she's your EX and not your girlfriend....ignore my whole response....YES, she was just trying to get your attention and you can decide for yourself if you want to give it to her or not. No responsibility on your part, there.

[Amasa]

I read your last two post and this is sounding kind of positive. I think you are doing great by not being too available and taking it slow. I don't want you to get too excited, but your about to start being able to post in the getting back together section.

[C6Z06]

Whats your situation? Who broke up with who?

 

she broke up with me

[Jelina]

I don't see what's wrong with the text. Maybe she just considers you as someone who could comfort her, maybe she trusts you enough to tell you that. What would be her true motives? If she really wanted to get you back or something why would she tell you that she was crying in front of her boss, isn't that a little embarrassing? It seems like she's just having alot of financial issues and is trying to find someone to confide in, obviously she thinks a recent ex boyfriend would be able to do that.

[littlestar]

My Ex just textd me today saying she just got her paycheck and was not happy and cried in front of her boss. She said that it makes her just want to leave work and go home to sleep and never wake up again. She said she just wants to run away and never comeback, she also said that she was crying.. I text'd her, "don't do that", "I want u to b ok and not cry", "Cheer up", and "I'll call you later today after I get back from the gym after work to make sure you're alright".

 

Was she saying this to get my attention and comfort?

or Was she saying this to test to see if I was really there for her??

Did I say the right things?

 

Seems to me like she is seeking your attention. When i broke up with my ex the very NEXT day he sent me a message that said "I am sorry to bother you but i lost my job today, the boss told me to never bother coming back again. Like i said I am sorry to bother you but i had no one else i could tell this to"

 

I reckon it was a load of rubbish but i responded with "I am sorry to hear that - I hope you find another one soon"

 

And i feel he wanted to keep messaging coz he responded again with "I hope so to. Like i said i am sorry to bother you but i had no one i could tell"

 

LOL he kept repeating himself and i didnt respond to that second message.

 

I think your ex is doing the same as mine, trying to get your attention and a reaction out of you.