Words, methods and ideas to inject positivity in our lives

[i_love_chocolate]

Hello everyone,

 

In the last few years, I have been feeling that my negative exaggeration and pessimism in life have been getting the best out of me. So, I am thinking of how I can change this negativity into positivity and happiness. I was thinking of inserting some messages in my cell phone that would pop up every few hours with positive and wise statements such as:

 

1. It's another day in your life, be positive.

2. Remember: things never turn out as bad as you have thought.

3. Laugh, laugh and laugh.

4. Happiness is a state of mind. It's under your control.

5. Don't give up on your goals, push yourself!

6. Always see the positive side of everything in life.

7. Never lose your temper coz you will regret it.

8. Don't make decisions on the spot. Sleep on it.

9. Hang around people who are happy and positive. Avoid negative and pessimistic people.

 

What other statements do you have? Also, what methods, other than the cell phone thing, do you suggest? I would be really interested to hear some ideas

[Timebandit]

I think it has been show that a "gratitude-log" or "gratitude-journal" can help.

 

Each night you write three things to be grateful for.

[nutbrownhare]

Another thing with affirmations is that they can be even more effective if they're totally positive. For example, rather than 'things never turn out as bad as you thought', think 'things always turn out better than you thought'. Messages like this are very powerful in that they feed into our subconscious minds, and the more positive - the more powerful!

 

Also, if you're in a situation where you can do this, write them on post-its and put them everywhere you can - on the fridge, in books you pick up regularly, inside cupboards etc.

[COtuner]

Kind of be careful too. Sometimes putting too much pressure on yourself to be positive can lead to anxiety also. I find it's easier to wear a rubber band on my wrist and snap it when I catch myself being negative.

[HealingHandsWarmHeart]

I would STRONGLY reccommend reading the book or watching the DVD by Louise Hay- You Can Heal Your Life...she is an amazing woman who speaks about being more positive and having a different outlook on life.

 

Has anyone else ever read or watched anything of hers?

[shes2smart]

I would STRONGLY reccommend reading the book or watching the DVD by Louise Hay- You Can Heal Your Life...she is an amazing woman who speaks about being more positive and having a different outlook on life.

 

Has anyone else ever read or watched anything of hers?

 

 

Ah, Louise Hay's "You Can Heal Your Life"

 

Picked it up out of the library....because I liked the rainbow heart that was on that edition's cover.

 

Read it, thought she was a complete crackpot.

 

Read it again, and thought, "well, what she's suggesting won't cost me anything to try. What the heck, I'll try it and prove her wrong."

 

My first affirmation was, "I am willing to change."

 

That was in 1988.

 

From that one affirmation, I watched the most amazing, transformative things happen -- first to my thoughts, then my beliefs, then my actions and through my actions, my outer reality. Been actively using affirmation/affirmative prayer to consciously create & shape my life (all areas of it) ever since.

 

Turns out she wasn't a crackpot and I was the one who was wrong.

 

I also like Peter McWilliams -- "Life 101" "You Can't Afford The Luxury Of A Negative Thought" "Love 101"....Many of his books are available to read online for free...kind of a "parting gift" to people prior to his death: link removed

[HealingHandsWarmHeart]

amazing.. and what i really like about Louise Hay is that she has BEEN THOUGHT IT ALL and has come out on top...so she practices what she preaches.

 

I'm willing to change was also my starting affirmation ...

 

my current:

 

I am safe and worth loving.

 

 

It's amazing that something soooo simple can create such a positive impact on your outlook.

[NowandZen]

Hmmmm. Seems to me that being negative is a habit. Like all habits, it can be approached with non-judgemental awareness. The technique is simple but powerful. Start with your intention to remove negativity. When you are negative, just note it. You can keep a journal, or write it down as done, or whatever, so long as you get into the practice of noting it. The key here is NON-judgemental. Don't try to fix it or get down on yourself for doing it. Just observe.

 

You will go through a progression that works something like this:

 

First you will notice it AFTER you have done it.

Then you will notice it WHILE you are doing it.

Next you will notice the factors that lead to it BEFORE you do it.

Eventually, you will see that you are rarely negative at all.

 

HTH

[shes2smart]

my current:

 

I am safe and worth loving.

 

All my current ones center around prosperity and creation of income. I got downsized last April so that area has taken center stage.

 

One of the things I learned with affirmation work back in, oh, the first 10 years I was doing it is that money is one of the easiest things to create. I have been getting a refresher/graduate course in those lessons this year. Mostly realizing that money doesn't have to come from one employer or one job or a job working for someone else at all....and that I am talented/smart/experienced enough to run my own business (freelance voiceover work) and people will actually pay me for this odd talent I have for reading things out loud.

 

To that end:

 

I am a financially independent and prosperous being.

 

The Ocean of Life is lavish with abundance. There is more than enough for everyone, including me.

 

I am aligning with the right people at the right time for our mutual financial benefit.

 

***********

 

And a couple of my general all-time faves:

 

Everything always works out for my higest good.

 

I am one of God's favorites.

 

If I can concieve it and believe it, I can achieve it.

[shes2smart]

Oh...another good one:

 

I am Divinely guided & Divinely guarded.

[kuiks8]

I tell myself i am happy, healthy and whole...

when i am in a difficult situation or feel anxious about something coming up I say will go with ease

and in regards to my finances when i start getting stressed i just remind myself that I am and always have been comfortable and everything will be fine...

 

 

I will add i am willing to change....sounds exciting!!!!

[McLovin oo7]

I would recommend a book called The Magic of Thinking Big by David Schwartz

 

Its amazing.

[waveseer]

I remain positive by accepting how I feel, realizing I will not always feel this way, figuring out what I need to do to feel better or maintain feeling good, and doing it.

[Siriana]

HA!

Louise L. Hays' book helped me to be able to avoid stress before exams on uni and not to panic will I pass during learning.

 

I recommend reading it too.

[CaptainPlanet]

Why do you need to be positive all the time ?

[shes2smart]

Why do you need to be positive all the time ?

 

Because life is difficult and challenging and it's not all sunshine and roses....

 

However, the ability to see the good and make the best of what is (which is how I define "being positive") eases the way considerably.

 

I did not enjoy getting downsized earlier this year. To have fallen into a cycle of negative thinking wouldn't have helped that situation one bit...it only would've made things worse and set up a self-perpetuating cycle of thinking everything was crap and having those thoughts create an outward reality of crap.

 

Instead, I choose (more often than not) to look at it as an opportunity that I wouldn't have taken if I hadn't been forced to (by getting laid off). Because I chose to look at it as an opportunity rather than this horrible awful thing that happened, the journey has been markedly easier and happier...and, I believe, will ultimately be more successful than if I was constantly peeing & moaning & b****ing about what is.

 

Now, several months later, I find myself building toward never having to answer to a single employer again. If I have issues with my boss, all I will have to do is go to a mirror and have a stern talk with the witch . Had I allowed myself to be paralyzed by negativty and fear, I never would've taken the risk in buying the equipment I needed to build a basic recording studio in my home at a time when my sole source of income had been unexpectedly halted.

 

My studio's been operational for about 3 months now....and I've done enough freelance voicework to have made back just about all I spent in building the studio. Doing that would've been much more difficult (if not impossible) if I'd allowed myself the unaffordable luxury of negative thinking.

[Anthropic]

Why do you need to be positive all the time ?

 

Because most people haven't figured out how to deal with negativity.

[kuiks8]

I don't think you have to be positive right away when bad things happen but like smartie (hope you don't mind the nickname) said no good can come from stewing in the negative...finding the lessons, the meanings and knowing it will get better helps a person to draw strength to get through the bad and to find hope...

[hmdreamer7]

Some phrases for your cell that have always helped me. Some of them might be kinda lengthy for a cell phone, but, here ya go anyway!

 

There comes a time when you must stand alone...

 

You must feel confident enough within yourself to follow your own dreams...

 

You must be willing to make sacrifices...

 

You must be capable of changing and rearranging your priorities so that your final goal can be achieved...

 

Sometimes, familiarity and comfort need to be challenged...

 

There are times when you must take a few extra chances and create your own realities...

 

Be confident enough that you won't settle for a compromise just to get by....

 

Appreciate yourself by allowing yourself the opportunities to grow, develop, and find your true sense of purpose in this life...

[i_love_chocolate]

Wow. So many good responses. Thanks for everyone who shared their view. What I would also like to hear is more positive statements to say to ourselves on a daily basis. I have mentioned a few and some of you also mentioned some and I really appreicate that. I understand that reading books is helpful too but the intention of this thread was to hear positive statements, ways and ideas to inject these statements and daily habits that have changed your life.

[CaptainPlanet]

Being positive is very silly. We need to evaluate our lives and make better decision.

 

Not to be all YAY ! I'm in a horrible environment but the walls are colorful and I'm POSITIVE !

 

Unless you're into that kind of thing. Which does suggest a low level of intelligence. Which is the type of person all that stuff is aimed at. Just saying.

 

I think people need to be optimistic and be positive in their efforts to change things. Not so much act positive when things are bad.

[Creative]

Wow. So many good responses.

 

I like where this thread is going too. Quite an elusive idea to be quite honest. I liked how some stresses on habits while others give their own personal statements. We're getting to the issue.

[Siriana]

Hm... I can't think of any positive statements at this moment.

I use them only when something bad is happening in my life.

I mentioned Louise L. hay book because in one of her books she has suggestions of positive statements. So I used those and in case of need I could use the ones she gave to make mine which fit the occasion.

I find it hard to invent them on my own because there is always a chance my doubt/fear will somehow be incorporated in the statement with only a single word so repeating my home-made statement would be working against me in that case.

[Siriana]

Being positive is very silly. We need to evaluate our lives and make better decision.

 

Not to be all YAY ! I'm in a horrible environment but the walls are colorful and I'm POSITIVE !

 

Unless you're into that kind of thing. Which does suggest a low level of intelligence. Which is the type of person all that stuff is aimed at. Just saying.

 

I think people need to be optimistic and be positive in their efforts to change things. Not so much act positive when things are bad.

 

 

You're reading it wrong CP.

Being postive has nothing to do with being delusional lol

 

For example if you get fired you can have two train of thoughts:

1. omg, I am worthless, such a looser, I'll end up hungry living in a box underneath the bridge, people are so niot fair, life is not fair, i never get what I want.

2. o.k. I got fired and that's not a comfortable position to be in. I will do my best to find a job as soon as i can. Something will come up for sure. I am a good worker and a good person.

[i_love_chocolate]

You're reading it wrong CP.

Being postive has nothing to do with being delusional lol

 

For example if you get fired you can have two train of thoughts:

1. omg, I am worthless, such a looser, I'll end up hungry living in a box underneath the bridge, people are so niot fair, life is not fair, i never get what I want.

2. o.k. I got fired and that's not a comfortable position to be in. I will do my best to find a job as soon as i can. Something will come up for sure. I am a good worker and a good person.

 

Well put Siriana. We can either cry and grief and lose everything, or brush it off and march ahead. I'm not saying that people shouldn't grief at all, sure they should, but we have to be positive in general. I know how this negativity is bad. I have seen positive people man! They are much more successful and happier than the negative ones. It's the power of your thoughts that changes things. Why do you think people's prayers of different religions, some are even the most evil people in the world, get answered? Yup, that's because these people believed in what they were praying for and hence they got it. Same goes with positive thinking. Think good and good will come.