20 year old virgin guy

[countyclub]

so im well on my way to being the next 40 year old virgin. Im a pretty good looking college guy with little experience. To begin with, I have no problem attracting chicks and with the intial flirting stage. Theres been a couple of times Ill meet a chick who is interested in me and there will be heavy flirting and obvious physical attraction. The problem seems to occur when she asks me to come back to her place or to hang out again. At this point, I dont really know what to do. I dont wanna offend her so I dont want to just assume she wants sex, plus i dont know how I would initiate that. What typically happens is that well just end up watching a movie and cuddling together. We typicallyl end up hanging out again a few more times but as usual, i dont really make any moves to kiss her.Im never too sure what to do with a girl, whether to kiss her,or how to initiate kissing, etc. Eventually, the girl will end up hanging out with some other guy and Im left in the dust. Im not sure whether my problem is that im not making a move quickly enough, or im overthinking it and should just take it slow.

[Raistlin]

You're overthinking it by miles.

 

The girl is inviting you over, and you end up cuddling when watching movies. I can't think of a more obvious sign that she wants you to kiss her, at least (well, if she's being flirty and making it obvious. I have cuddled with girls with no intention from either party of making a move).

 

If it seems like the moment is right, go for it. If she says no or puts a stop to it, at least you tried. And it's better to have tried to know than to sit here and wonder, right?

 

My favorite thing to do with a girl is wait for a sappy movie moment and look her dead in the eyes. If I feel like she's trying to send me a silent message, I go for it. It works (almost) every time.

[Mythical_Suicide]

You're only 20 so how do you figure you're on your way to being the 40 year old virgin?

 

 

If you're interested in kissing a girl, and yall are cuddling I can almost guarantee that if you went in to kiss her she wouldnt back away. So next time you're cuddling with a girl just go for it.

[arwen]

Wow, I was 20 when I first started having sex with my bf... I've never even thought about being on my way to the 40 year old virgin The average age I believe is around 17 (which I find kind of young actually), so that is 3 years ago. I wouldn't worry about the coming 20 years being without sex yet. Start worrying about that in about 15 years I'd say.

 

That being said, I think you need to be more direct in your approach. Ask a girl out, act interested, chase her! If you act like a cuddly friend, she will maybe not feel you are interested in more.

 

And just on a side note, maybe it's a generation thing so I will leave that for the girls your age to respond to... but don't refer to girls or women as chicks. For me at least it's a huge turn off.

[pianoguy]

Don't worry, country club- you've gotten past the hardest stage, which is getting girls to come to your house. You'll be fine.

 

Next time you're cuddling with a girl and you get the urge to kiss her, lean in and go for it. That's all there is to it. Or is it possible you haven't found a girl you're really excited about yet?

 

Also, once you turn 21 a little bit of alcohol does good stuff for your courage. Key words: a little bit. Drunken making out = no fun at all. Slightly buzzed making out = lots of fun.

 

Good luck! Keep us informed.

[epsilon2x]

Yea chances are if she invited you over to HER place and you are cuddling together, she wants you to kiss her. This has to be the easiest one ever. She wants it so bad it doesn't matter how you do it. Just don't think of some cheesy line and you'll be fine.

 

If you are spooning just tell her to turn around and face you. Caress her face a little bit, pull her face in, DO SOMETHING. If it doesn't work out who cares?

 

I'd personally rather take a rough rejection then take a friend zoning any day.

[ghost69]

^^^yeah, take the hints. make a move. don't sit there and hold her and do nothing.

[countyclub]

thanks to everyone who put down some advice.

[iwishiknew]

I am 30 and still a virgin. I am on the way to being the 40 year old virgin

[solacean]

I am 30 and still a virgin. I am on the way to being the 40 year old virgin

 

Oh yeah? I am 46. The 40 year old virgin is (or was) on his way to being ME.

[Clarity]

Oh yeah? I am 46. The 40 year old virgin is (or was) on his way to being ME.

 

Haha, not to laugh at your situation, but this comment made me smile - it's great that you can have such a humorous viewpoint on the situation.

 

And yeah, to the OP, saying you're well on your way to being the 40-year-old virgin at 20 years old is frankly insulting to us older virgins who have put in a lot more time and hard work into getting where we are

[solacean]

Haha, not to laugh at your situation, but this comment made me smile - it's great that you can have such a humorous viewpoint on the situation.

 

And yeah, to the OP, saying you're well on your way to being the 40-year-old virgin at 20 years old is frankly insulting to us older virgins who have put in a lot more time and hard work into getting where we are

 

I laughed aloud at your last sentence too. Really, why are we putting so much time and hard work into reaching this goal? It doesn't seem too smart of us, does it?

[MyheartorHis]

What's wrong with being a 20 year old Virgin? I think it's a great thing!

[iwishiknew]

Just wait till your a 30 year old virgin, and it won't be a great feeling to have.