another night of talking to the back of his head..

[amber77]

so....to update from my previous thread. I decided to have a talk with my husband tonight concerning all that's been going on...his checking up on me, holding me liable FOREVER for mistakes made, etc. I hardly got any response. I told him that if he feels the need to check my phone records and email to make himself feel better about my loyalty to him, so be it...check it all he wants because he will never find anything, bit I pointed out the fact that I am not the only guilty party in our marriage..that yes, I did hurt him by talking to an ex casually on the phone a year ago..BEFORE we even got married, but the hurt he caused me is as fresh as a month old by him telling me the only reason he married me was to "get me off his back" and talking about divorce after being married only two months. I expressed to him that if ANY one had reason to be feeling insecure at the moment, that person is ME. Am I wrong here? I truly don't care that he checks my phone records and email..I have nothing to hide from him...but if I bring up the fact that he has NO trust for me because feels the need to check it, he gets upset saying that I'm mad because he checks it...THAT'S NOT THE POINT! I don't care that he looks at it...I just want him to see my side as well...

[thejigsup]

He most likely never will. Are you willing to live with that the rest of your life?

[real_life_101]

Small price to pay for being stupid...

[coolgirl]

Ask yourself this, do you want to live like this for the rest of your life? Are you willing to put up with this kind of behavior ? if so then so be it if not and not getting anywhere with this then you should start thinking about what you decide to do. Because in marriage you have to compromise and if he's not slightly concered as to what you have to say for yourself then I would start making important decsions in your life.

[waveseer]

If you want to go to any length to save your marriage, tell him that you need to go to marriage counseling together. If he's still uncooperative then you have no obligation to stay with him.