Boyfirend doesnt want to cum anymore

[RealBrookeI]

Is it weird if he no longer wants to cum anymore?

 

He still wants to have sex because we both really like it but he says that for him the worse part of sex is when he finishes and that he would much rather just not cum and redirect the energy rather than cumming and feeling all spent.

 

Does anyone else have this kind of experience?

[grymoire]

Is it weird if he no longer wants to cum anymore?

 

He still wants to have sex because we both really like it but he says that for him the worse part of sex is when he finishes and that he would much rather just not cum and redirect the energy rather than cumming and feeling all spent.

 

Does anyone else have this kind of experience?

 

If cumming makes him feel spent and tired he is in trouble already. Sorry to say but I am sure about this.

 

A normal healthy man can ejaculate once every single day and still not feel tired or spent.

[RealBrookeI]

If cumming makes him feel spent and tired he is in trouble already. Sorry to say but I am sure about this.

 

A normal healthy man can ejaculate once every single day and still not feel tired or spent.

 

Perhaps spent and tired is the wrong phrasing, he says that he feels better when the desire to still have sex is still there rather than orgasming and being done with it.

 

Trust me he is pretty healthy as before he "decided" to stop cumming we would go at three or four times a night where now we go for just as long if not longer but I feel disappointed in myself in not making my man cum.

Guess I kind of got off on that.

[littlestar]

Hmmm....Interesting!

 

I know cumming can take the energy out of a guy but cant he take something afterwards like Berroca or something to get him back to where he was or take a short nap?

[RealBrookeI]

Hmmm....Interesting!

 

I know cumming can take the energy out of a guy but cant he take something afterwards like Berroca or something to get him back to where he was or take a short nap?

 

That just it, he says that he feels different when he cums as we go to sleep afterwards so his energy is being drained .

 

also I dont know if this has anything to do with it but he is really involved with Yoga and has been reading a lot of books on "Energy" and a few of them have said that a man shouldnt cum more than once or twice a week so that is also part of the reasoning for him.

[Imprecision]

Many religious and spiritual traditions discourage men from too much sex, because energy should be redirected toward noble goals.

 

Many ancient medical traditions (including Traditional Chinese Medicine and Ayurveda) also say this. They also offer techniques to prolong sex without finishing. Modern medicine, however, dispute this - according to modern medicine, sex should have no permanent effect on a man's energy level.

 

Personally, I can see where your bf is coming from. Don't worry about it. As long as you two are still having sex, then it's all good.

[waveseer]

He is a prime candidate for learning to orasm without ejaculating. It is possible, I'd suggest discussing it with him.

[mellybelly]

I could understand how that would make you feel a little dissappointed! BUT, I say just be supportive and go with it for awhile. As long as he still likes having sex with you, like imprecision said, all is good! Just continue to be communicative about it.

[ghost69]

this is extremely weird that he doesn't want to finish.

[madmarten]

Ok here is my take on this. Ok I am a guy and I love coming. I mean I love the feeling of ejaculating, I mean every guy does. But, thing is, it is very physically draining for me. I mean producing 3-5 million sperm takes alot of energy. Sometimes, especially after I have come once, I have less interest/need/desire to come again. And I may be more interested in just having sex/making love and pleasing my partner at that point.

[KG]

Sometimes it is a bit draining, othertimes it's an energy bounce!