Why...

[mijo]

Do people play games?

 

My bf broke up with me around 3 weeks ago after a silly argument that spiralled and we said we'd try and stay friends. We text for the first week or so - just friendly and normal, and then one evening I text him and told him that I had seen a letter he had written me and it made me realise how much I miss him etc. I didn't hear back so I went NC and didn't speak to him for a week as he was away. When he got back he started texting me again, just normally, asking how I'd been... Then on Monday he sent me 4 texts in 1 day, none of which I replied to. One of the texts really frustrated me, I thought maybe he had sent it to everyone but my housemate (who I met him through, they've been friends for a few years) never received it, so he was obviously selective over who he sent it to.

 

"Write me a letter. Dear _____, You have a cute ____, You make me ____, You should be _____, You and me should ______, I'd get your name tattooed on my _____, You are so ______, I think you're ______, I _____ you, Love from ______. P.S. Send it on and back to me and the replies might make you smile"

 

It annoyed me on 2 counts - 1. It is the kind of thing I'd expect my 15 year old cousin to send to girls in his class at school, not what I'd expect from a 27 year old man and 2. It is obviously suggesting you send a flirty message back so why send it to me when he finished things and KNOWS I still have feelings for him.

 

I managed to ignore all those messages on Monday, and then last night on facebook I got an IM just saying "hey", I deliberated and ended up replying "Hey, how are you?". He went straight offline and I am convinced he only did it to check up that I was talking to him after ignoring him on Monday...stupid games. I was so annoyed with myself for breaking NC, but I think it may have actually helped me as I think I am better than these games he is playing, and he should respect me enough not to contact me when he knows I still have feelings.

 

Has anyone else had it when someone keeps playing silly games with them even though they ended it?

[Broken_Toe]

Yes. I have recently split up with someone and they have been playing games with me since, even though it was their decision to end it. Initially after the break up I appeared to be completely 100% fine and happy (even though I wasn't just put an act on). I don't think they liked this and it brusied their ego so the txts started and the Facebooking began.

 

We appear to be at the stage now where she is putting things as her Facebook status for my intention. The latest one was in the early hours of this morning saying; "X has got herself into a bit of a pickle!". Although I could be completely wrong and none of this has anything to do with me??!! Who knows?? We shouldn't care, its over, yet we can't help it, it hurts and we don't know why??!!

 

C'est la vie I suppose!!

[mijo]

Yes. I have recently split up with someone and they have been playing games with me since, even though it was their decision to end it. Initially after the break up I appeared to be completely 100% fine and happy (even though I wasn't just put an act on). I don't think they liked this and it brusied their ego so the txts started and the Facebooking began.

 

We appear to be at the stage now where she is putting things as her Facebook status for my intention. The latest one was in the early hours of this morning saying; "X has got herself into a bit of a pickle!". Although I could be completely wrong and none of this has anything to do with me??!! Who knows?? We shouldn't care, its over, yet we can't help it, it hurts and we don't know why??!!

 

C'est la vie I suppose!!

 

I agree re. Facebook. My ex always clears everything off his wall and he hadn't been online for a couple of days so some things were up there, then yday after IM-ing me I went to look at his profile and he had removed everything except for a wall post from this girl, who I suppose looked quite hot in her profile pic saying "Hey Mr K, Thanks for the message, how are you?x". I would bet any money that half the reason he IM-ed me was to get me to look at his page and see that. It all just seems ridiculous when they were the ones to end it. Who knows, maybe they get some kick out of it, or maybe they expected us to beg them to take them back?

How long ago did you break up? Have you spoken since?

[Broken_Toe]

We split up just over a month ago. we have spoken since. She made out she wanted me back only to do a complete 180 the next day!! That hurt. Unfortunately we have the same friends so I have to see her. That really sucks! I spend most of the time dreading it in case she says or does something that will hurt me or upset me. I also worry one of our mutual friends will find out something bad and tell me so its hard being around them too.

 

When I see her now I just ignore her but it makes things really awkward and horrible and I hate it but its easier than having to talk to her. She says she really wants to be friends but she has made a huge fool of me and I'm just too angry to that that and plus I don't see why she should have her cake and eat it too. Hopefully time passing will help all of this and you too.

 

Good luck and happy healing!!

 

(P.S See this thread of mine it may answer more of your questions: )