Wow. My boyfriend is sweet.

[midnightrambler]

i shop alone with nobody else..

[JadedStar]

i shop alone with nobody else..

 

I try to do the same. LOL

[midnightrambler]

that way no one tells me to "shut up"

[alcide]

lol, how sweet all the best.

[Crazyaboutdogs]

i shop alone with nobody else..

 

You just reminded me of the George Thoroughgood song..."I drink alone"

I drink alone, yeah, with nobody else.

I drink alone, yeah, with nobody else.

Yeah, you know when I drink alone, I prefer to be by myself.

 

I agree with Jaded...everyone is allowed to weigh in on how they see the situation as long as it is done in a respectful manner. One of the things about passive aggressive behaviour patterns is that it is so insidious it fools a lot of people...each incident in itself can be considered trivial and not serious...but over time these incidences add up and slowly erodes the self-esteem of the person dealing with the fallout. Reading just how far the boyfriend went to placate and cater to Rose had me cringing because this, to me, is a man who has lost sight of his own dignity and is way too wrapped up in someone else to see the damage it is causing to himself.

[lady00]

I understand what you are saying. I have read many other threads by Rose as well and have seen some patterns that she and her bf could work on. IMO, they both have done things that they need to work on. I think as they grow and mature, they will make those adjustments.

 

She said in her first post that she apologized for the sarcasm. So she realized, if not immediately, then soon after that it was not the right thing to say. So, she knows this is an issue. I guess that's why I didn't pick up on that, cause she already caught herself.

 

As far as him feeling bad that he did not get her sarcasm, my take on that is that he needs to learn to realize when things are not his fault and just be OK with that.

[melrich]

One of the things about passive aggressive behaviour patterns is that it is so insidious it fools a lot of people

It does, doesn't it. I think the OP has had all points made and remade and then justified enough now.