shy2cool Posted December 17, 2008 Share Posted December 17, 2008 I don't mean that they are like this all the time, but some of the time. Link to comment
waveseer Posted December 17, 2008 Share Posted December 17, 2008 That depends on how deep their introversion goes. Link to comment
livinginsbi Posted December 17, 2008 Share Posted December 17, 2008 Well... the one shy and awkward guy I know is super cute, but it does require some patience at times. Link to comment
IphigeniaSaysHi Posted December 17, 2008 Share Posted December 17, 2008 Some girls think so. I do. It depends on the girl and the situation. Link to comment
shy2cool Posted December 17, 2008 Author Share Posted December 17, 2008 ie. I kinda fumble my words sometimes. Is that a bad thing? Link to comment
Raiden Posted December 17, 2008 Share Posted December 17, 2008 I don't think this is a "one size fits all" question. In short, it depends on where and when you are like this and who the recipient is. Some girls may overlook it. Some may warm to it. Some may find it unattractive. There's no point saying "being shy an fumbling your words occasionally is not a good thing" because you could be the most outgoing, extroverted of socialites and still end up with a mixed reception. If it's something that bothers you, work on it. If not, accept it as part of who you are. Link to comment
bulletproof Posted December 17, 2008 Share Posted December 17, 2008 To me, they are not attractive. Maybe in high school I would have found it okay, but as adults I think that when we have the resources and the awareness to improve ourselves, we should do so. But as someone pointed out, attractiveness is relative and there may well be people who do find this appealing. The problem you may run into, though, is that like attracts like, and you may find yourself in a relationship with someone similar to yourself, which could be frustrating in terms of interacting with each other. Link to comment
Clementine orange Posted December 17, 2008 Share Posted December 17, 2008 If your cute already then yes, it makes you cuter. If your not then it makes it worse. I always think of one of the characters from the video "hey ya" - I think it's the keyboardist, with his bashfulness/shyness - it works for Andre, but it don't work for everyone. Link to comment
laisla Posted December 17, 2008 Share Posted December 17, 2008 shy, yes. awkward? it depends how awkward. if it's just stumbling your words, i don't mind. i do too once in a while, because english isn't my first language. noone says anything about it. but if it's those really socially awkward guys, then no. it's not cute. Link to comment
savignon Posted December 17, 2008 Share Posted December 17, 2008 Describe how you are 'shy and awkward' ....besides fumbling words, which I think everyone does when they're nervous.... My fiancee was shy and nervous when we first met and it wasn't what I was used to so I didn't even really notice him. Now I think he is the cutest, most adorable, sweetest guy in the world. So, hang in there...it just takes a fumble towards the right girl and then...SCORE! Link to comment
Bartok Posted December 19, 2008 Share Posted December 19, 2008 That depends on how deep their introversion goes. Introverted and shy/awkward are NOT the same thing. Little pet peeve of mine. And as a dude, I honestly wouldn't know. Shy/awkward women are not any cuter for being that way, though. Link to comment
steve33 Posted December 19, 2008 Share Posted December 19, 2008 Introverted and shy/awkward are NOT the same thing. Little pet peeve of mine. And as a dude, I honestly wouldn't know. Shy/awkward women are not any cuter for being that way, though. I find shyness in a woman to be an attractive trait, because it means they aren't as comfortable with attention and approval seeking. There's NOTHING worse than being with a woman that wants every guy to desire her. It's a recipe for getting cheated on left and right. Link to comment
LightbulbSun Posted December 19, 2008 Share Posted December 19, 2008 Not according to 95% of the female population. Link to comment
waveseer Posted December 19, 2008 Share Posted December 19, 2008 Introverted and shy/awkward are NOT the same thing. Little pet peeve of mine. And as a dude, I honestly wouldn't know. Shy/awkward women are not any cuter for being that way, though. Maybe I misunderstood the question. In my mind shyness is a direct result of being self-conscious which is caused by thinking about oneself rather than the other person. I consider this a form of introversion. Link to comment
somethngwrng Posted December 19, 2008 Share Posted December 19, 2008 I find shyness in a woman to be an attractive trait, because it means they aren't as comfortable with attention and approval seeking. There's NOTHING worse than being with a woman that wants every guy to desire her. It's a recipe for getting cheated on left and right. Uhuh, tell me about it. I know a few shy women (who are also quite attractive and motivated) and it is a very cute trait. Women who flaunt themselves (especially pretentious women) generally turn me off. Link to comment
Mguy92 Posted December 19, 2008 Share Posted December 19, 2008 Not according to 95% of the female population. That's because women are not willing to give shy people a chance. They're all too focused on the arrogant jerk extrovert to even notice us. It's a shame really...women just need to do the approaching to save us the trouble of humiliating ourselves. It's EASIER that way, and it may even give some of us hints to make the move next time. Unfortunately, for whatever reason, women do not do this, and it pisses me off. I'd rather not be lonely forever, but I wouldn't be surprised if I am if things do not change immediately... Link to comment
hmm1 Posted December 20, 2008 Share Posted December 20, 2008 I also find shy women to be very cute/attractive, unfortunately where I live there's no such thing as a shy woman... Link to comment
Siriana Posted December 20, 2008 Share Posted December 20, 2008 That's because women are not willing to give shy people a chance. They're all too focused on the arrogant jerk extrovert to even notice us. It's a shame really...women just need to do the approaching to save us the trouble of humiliating ourselves. It's EASIER that way, and it may even give some of us hints to make the move next time. Unfortunately, for whatever reason, women do not do this, and it pisses me off. I'd rather not be lonely forever, but I wouldn't be surprised if I am if things do not change immediately... So instead you changing it should be women changing their ways so you could get what you want? Link to comment
steve33 Posted December 20, 2008 Share Posted December 20, 2008 That's because women are not willing to give shy people a chance. They're all too focused on the arrogant jerk extrovert to even notice us. It's a shame really...women just need to do the approaching to save us the trouble of humiliating ourselves. It's EASIER that way, and it may even give some of us hints to make the move next time. Unfortunately, for whatever reason, women do not do this, and it pisses me off. I'd rather not be lonely forever, but I wouldn't be surprised if I am if things do not change immediately... Honestly, if you were getting hit on 10x a day, would you make any effort in approaching someone? Women don't really approach men because they don't have to. Women want the guys that come to them, they don't want to have to do the work and risk rejection if they don't have to. Link to comment
steve33 Posted December 20, 2008 Share Posted December 20, 2008 So instead you changing it should be women changing their ways so you could get what you want? Yeah, that's simply not going to happen. It's like when I wish that men would stop kissing up to women and spoiling them, it makes life harder for everyone, but guys want to get laid, so they will always do that. WE have to adjust to the world, it's not going to adjust to accommodate us. Link to comment
Siriana Posted December 20, 2008 Share Posted December 20, 2008 Yeah, that's simply not going to happen. It's like when I wish that men would stop kissing up to women and spoiling them, it makes life harder for everyone, but guys want to get laid, so they will always do that. WE have to adjust to the world, it's not going to adjust to accommodate us. Yeah! ......................... Link to comment
Mguy92 Posted December 20, 2008 Share Posted December 20, 2008 Honestly, if you were getting hit on 10x a day, would you make any effort in approaching someone? OF COURSE I WOULD, because then I would know women are interested in me. Has that ever happened? Of course it hasn't. Link to comment
Bartok Posted December 21, 2008 Share Posted December 21, 2008 Maybe I misunderstood the question. In my mind shyness is a direct result of being self-conscious which is caused by thinking about oneself rather than the other person. I consider this a form of introversion. This is off-topic, but I'll keep at it. You must be an extravert. Introverts often prefer to be alone or in small groups, but are more than capable of being around others in large groups. They are frequently alone but almost never lonely. Shy people desperately want to reach out to others, but are held back by fear, and can be either introverts or extraverts. They are lonely a great deal of the time. Personally, I'd wager that there are more shy extraverts than shy introverts, but I don't know of any studies done to test this, or if it's even possible due to the nature of shyness. Often, the two can be confused - usually by extraverts - because they perceive a quiet individual as a shy individual. A lot of the time, this is not the case. There was an internet article I read a few months ago that described it very well, let me see if I can find it... EDIT: Well, that didn't take long. link removed Link to comment
HighwayStar Posted December 21, 2008 Share Posted December 21, 2008 Well, I think it depends on the person, really. I think shyness is really cute, personally. Link to comment
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