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Friend/co-worker's Xmas gift over gf gift

Hope143

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Hope143

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Hello,

I'm gonna make it short. It just kind of bothers me that my boyfriend will return the wallet that I bought for him (we went shopping together) because a friend/coworker got him a wallet also (the same brand but her gift has a zipper and the one he picked out with me didn’t have) and I guess it’s nicer(I didn’t see it yet and he just told me on the phone) but it’s just kind of bothers me that he preferred her gift than mine (i mean that wasn't my only gift but still it was part of my gifts to him for xmas). My question is, Am I over reacting and being irrational? Lol I’m a little jealous I mean whatever makes him happy I guess but it just bothers a bit. =P

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jengh Experienced

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I'm not surprised you feel that way - he should have kept yours regardless.

 

Why did a co-worker of his give him the SAME gift that you and he shopped for together anyway?? doesn't make sense. How come his co-worker knew that that was what he wanted??

 

While I understand why you feel this way (it would hurt mine as well), I don't agree with ally's bolded. Wouldn't you rather he have a gift he's happy with than one that's just so-so?

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redhearts Apprentice

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I be upset like crazyness. That is something he will have for a long time, always on him, when he looks or pulls out the wallet WHO WILL IT REMIND HIM OF? Thing is they are friends right? So he would of said that he went and picked one out with you. Now what does she do? TRIES TO MAKE YOURS LOOK BAD AND HERS LOOK GOOD. I think there is more to it.

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Hope - what are you going to do?

 

It might be worth explaining to him what redhearts has just said. He may not consider a wallet as being anything special, however, whenever he takes it out of his pocket to pay for something when the two of you are together you'll always be thinking - I wish he had kept mine and not hers, and I wonder if he thinks of her etc.

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blue69 Rookie

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Paranoid group here. It was nice that his co-worker bought him a gift. You two went shopping together for the one. You didn't buy it on your own and wrap it and surprise him. Quite honestly I think there is a wee bit of over-reacting and speculating going on.

 

Tell him that you want to return the wallet you bought together and pick something out "together" again.

 

Dont allow insecurity to creep into a relationship and grab control. Yikes!!

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Quite honestly I think there is a wee bit of over-reacting and speculating going on.

 

lol agreed. What's with you people overreacting?

 

Maybe it wasn't a "coincidence", maybe the other woman saw his wallet really didn't look good anymore or in a conversation he casually mentioned that his wallet was old and he really needed a new one.

 

and lol people stop trying to play detectives saying ohh there's more to it. OH MY GOD HE LIKED THE OTHER WALLET BETTER, THAT MEANS SOMETHING FISHY IS GOING ON! haha, don't you realize how ridiculous that is?

 

He just liked the other wallet better, it has nothing to do with that woman or his gf, and redhearts I don't think everytime he will pull out his wallet he's gonna think of that female friend of his I mean I still own and use lots of things that people have given me for birthdays, christmas etc but certainly those items don't remind me of these people everytime I look at them... lol

 

Just chill.. he probably just liked the other one's design better, thought it was handier because of the zipper etc..

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alli Collaborator

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Don't read into it so much. Maybe he didn't consider the zipper factor when shopping with you, but now he realizes it would be nice to not worry about his money falling out of his wallet. But, I've heard guys don't like the zipper sometimes because it makes it bulky & uncomfortable to sit on. Bring up that point to him & have him see how comfortable it is to sit in it.

 

If he still likes the zipper better, return it together & pick out a new gift together. Unless you have reason to believe him & his coworker are too close, stop considering this as him choosing her over you & take it for what it is.. a wallet preference. He won't think of her every time he pulls out his money. He will be thinking "dang, do I have enough $ on me?"

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loveistough Apprentice

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Paranoid group here. It was nice that his co-worker bought him a gift. You two went shopping together for the one. You didn't buy it on your own and wrap it and surprise him. Quite honestly I think there is a wee bit of over-reacting and speculating going on.

 

Tell him that you want to return the wallet you bought together and pick something out "together" again.

 

Dont allow insecurity to creep into a relationship and grab control. Yikes!!

 

Reading thru here I was starting to wonder if I was the only one that felt she was over-reacting. It's not like you told her you were getting him a wallet and she went behind your back and got him a better one. I doubt it had anything to do with the wallet coming from her. It probably was just nicer than what you guys looked at.

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savignon Collaborator

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I think wallets, watches and cologne are 'gilfriendy' gifts, but maybe I'm just not a good shopper and can't think of anything else...?

It would probably bother me initially but to put myself in his shoes, if the zipper or whatever made that wallet more suitable for his needs....I wouldn't think it was a big deal to return the other one. I totally see your point but don't let it ruin the relationship or anything...talk to him about it and then drop it.

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