Would it be a bad idea to ask for her phone number?

[heatspreader]

I have been talking to a girl through email and it seems like its going good to me. I asked her if she wanted to talk on instant messenger and she said sure but shes hardly ever on and didn't give me her screen name. Should I ask for her phone number instead?

[Shyguy24]

I dont see why not its always good to follow your instincts and be positive , i mean whats the worst that can happen right, but forget that and think how nice if you guys really hit it off

[heatspreader]

I dont see why not its always good to follow your instincts and be positive , i mean whats the worst that can happen right, but forget that and think how nice if you guys really hit it off

 

Thanks for the response. I just don't wanna do anything to make me seem weird or anything. From what I have learned of her so far it seems like we have lots in common and I would like to get to know her more.

[heatspreader]

Is this a girl you met online?

 

Yes it is.

[KarateKate]

Did you meet her online, or in real life? I only ask because I met my boyfriend online, and since I hadn't met him in person, I didn't feel comfortable giving him my phone number. Instead, he gave me his, and he left up to me. I really appreciated that.

[heatspreader]

I met her online but I already sent an email. I didn't ask for her phone number, I just said perhaps we could chat on the phone sometime, if you would like to. Did I screw up?

[Mutley]

I met her online but I already sent an email. I didn't ask for her phone number, I just said perhaps we could chat on the phone sometime, if you would like to. Did I screw up?

 

Nah...ask for her number. If she's not comfortable ask her out to a public place. If she gives you her number....call her and ask her to meet.

[LE DHUY NHUT]

It's a very good idea to ask for her phone number.Avoid the whole MSN messenger thing.

[Mutley]

It's a very good idea to ask for her phone number.Avoid the whole MSN messenger thing.

 

Yea, I find IM-ing a waste of time.

[shemo]

Did you meet her online, or in real life? I only ask because I met my boyfriend online, and since I hadn't met him in person, I didn't feel comfortable giving him my phone number. Instead, he gave me his, and he left up to me. I really appreciated that.

 

 

i think this is a good idea. give her your number first... if she's comfortable she might reciprocate and give you hers. or she might wait until she's ready to call you.

[ghost69]

if you get the number, use it.

[MattW]

Take it from me, you want to get this possible relationship offline as quick as you can. IMing, and stuff like MySpace/ Facebook, and all that, just makes it harder to really get things off the ground. That's not to say meeting people online is "bad", but the longer you wait to bring things into the "real" world, the harder it'll be. So, yeah, I'd shoot for a phone number, first; how you want to go about doing that, though, I'm not entirely sure.

[Aviatormy]

Put her on your top 8 friends on Myspace. She will be eating out of the palm of your hand before you know it! lol. JK.

 

Yeah ask for the number but do it in a way that does not come off weak.

 

Say something like "Hey I will not be onlive for a few days because of..... Give me your number and I will text you".

 

If she does not reply, then dont talk to her for a few days and then offer your number to her.

 

I never ask for a number from a girl because that gives them an easy option to say no. When I say "give me your number" while I pull a pen or my cell phone out, they will give it to me 90% of the time.