has any one ever stopped drinking while in a relationship?

[hiphop3]

i'm starting to consider doing so, or at least not getting nearly as drunk as i usually do when i go out. i can get flirty and when i try to make casual conversation with guys and they end up hitting on me, im totally oblivious. my bf has gotten mad at me before for continuing to talk to guys who are trying to make a move on me, which i understand. but the next day after flirting with some one i feel really guilty. i don't know..has any one quit drinking for this purpose?

[lady00]

I haven't but I don't usually do anything like that when I drink. I may do more of the harmless flirting, but that's with male friends that I know and that know I am taken and just joking around.

 

No need to stop altogether. Maybe just drink less though.

[COtuner]

Why do you feel the need to drink that much to begin with? That's more the question to ask yourself. I'm not asking that from an AA sort of thing, but from a "do you need to drink a lot to have a good time" point of view.

[Lionel Hutz]

Id say moderate, and stop being such a loosey goosey. Be nice, but don't fall into the "Hes giving me attention trap." Your b/f wont last long, especially at this age. If you have a boyfriend like me who likes to fist fight, it would be sparks alot of the time.

[hiphop3]

i do find it to be harmless flirting but i don't know, it still bothers me that i do it. i would never cheat on my bf, we had had our one year last night and i love him like craazy.

i don't get so drunk that i can't walk or any thing, but that's just what we do in this town, go to university, and go out on weekends to party.

[itsallgrand]

Yeah, I did at one point. Back in the day lol when I was say, 21 or so.

 

I didn't particularly like myself when I got drunk anyhow, and it wasn't really a sacrifice. But it was real ugly once there was actually someone I cared about in the picture - lots of drink and me just don't mix.

 

I did it for myself, but the relationship helped get me there a little faster.

[Cognitive_Canine]

Id say moderate, and stop being such a loosey goosey. Be nice, but don't fall into the "Hes giving me attention trap." Your b/f wont last long, especially at this age. If you have a boyfriend like me who likes to fist fight, it would be sparks alot of the time.

 

Yep, I agree.

 

You sound like my guy. He's quick to get angry and protective, especially while drunk.

 

I still drink the same but I never really was that much of a drinker.

[lana111]

i dont know anyone who has stopped, but many have def decided not to have more than a few for those exact reasons.

[ghost69]

i used to drink every night. i had an ex help me quell that to once a week.

[hiphop3]

i used to drink every night. i had an ex help me quell that to once a week.

 

but would your behavior when drunk have the potential to compromise your relationship?

[ghost69]

but would your behavior when drunk have the potential to compromise your relationship?

 

no, not at all. i'm the life of the party type.

[allypally]

I'm not much of a drinker anyway, however my ex-fiance is.

 

I know how uncomfortable I feel when they 'forget' you are there beside them and are focused on having conversations with other women.

 

Don't like the whole drinking culture.

[blue69]

Some of my dumbest decisions were done with the help of alcohol.

[hiphop3]

ya i dunno..i think i seriously have to cut back. while in a relationship i shouldnt be drinking as much as i would if i were single. i think my drunken behavior is disrespectful to him. ugghh i'm so annoyed that i'm such an idiot when i drink.

[JeckyllNHyde]

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I can relate 100%.

Been with my bf 1 yr now. And before him I used to go out, etc and drinking was no big deal. But I tend to also get flirty. I seriously cannot help smiling and being flirty. It's like the alcohol takes over.

 

I haven't QUIT. But I do drink way less. Plus who needs alcohol when you're having fun just spending time with the bf? (That's just my opinion of course). We do other stuff on weekends like go to movies, eat out, and anything else. We drink but usually when together or when I drink and I'm with other friends/people I make sure I don't have too much. If I know I'm in a club I have to keep an eye on how many drinks I'm having, etc.

 

If you feel you can't handle 2 drinks or more, then yes, maybe try quitting if you don't want to lose the bf.