C6Z06 Posted December 15, 2008 Share Posted December 15, 2008 I think I might have ruined any chance I had of getting back with my Ex... I saw her again this weekend and the club again.... I saw her at the beginning at the beginning of night and told her that she looked beautiful and to enjoy her night... I didn't say anything to her for awhile, because I went off and hung with my friends that were there. About 2 hours later, I run into her on the patio of the club and we started talking. i told her that I some questions to ask her and she said ok... I ask if she thought I was attracted to her and she said yes, I then asked if she was still attracted to me and she said no. I then asked her if she thought a guy who didn't give his girl enough space could ever get her to comeback, and she said yes. I then asked her how could I get her to come back to me and she said to give it time and let things happen. That wasn't the answer I was looking for, so I told her we couldn't be friends because it would hurt to imagine her with someone else. She stormed off pissed off..... I said F it..I went into the club and found me another girl. As i was leaving the club she saw me with the new girl and she came up to me and said that it looked liked I found a winner. I replied, telling her that it looked like she lost one. And she began to cry. I then told her good luck to finding another one, because It won't get any better than me and I walked off..... The next day I apologized to her for acting like that and told her that nothing happened between me and that girl and she said she didn't care..... I think I might have runied any chances of getting back with my Ex....](*,)](*,) Link to comment
MyheartorHis Posted December 15, 2008 Share Posted December 15, 2008 Maybe. You apologized and sometimes it takes knowing you lost someone to realize exactly what you had. I would try NC for awhile, and see if you calls or tries to talk to you. If she doesn't give it a few months and then very friendly text her or something and say "Hey, I just wanted to say that I hope things are going great!". I've done that and by the next few weeks my ex started talking to me again. But, after we began "talking" I realized that I remembered all the good things and not the bad so I let him go because I wasn't as happy as I thought I'd be with him. So you never really know how things will work out, just follow your heart. Link to comment
valmont77 Posted December 15, 2008 Share Posted December 15, 2008 cheer up, I don't think you ruined a thing. As least you know she still cares. You know what they say, the opposite of love isn't hatred, but indifference. She broke up with you, so she really has no right to get upset seeing you with another girl. She got jealous and she's the one feeling confused right now. I wish my ex saw me with another woman. I would be over the moon. Link to comment
thejigsup Posted December 15, 2008 Share Posted December 15, 2008 I would be done with you. Thank God she's not me. That was very juvenile and most females want a grown man. Make yourself scarce and if she wants you,l she'll find you. Link to comment
25thfloor Posted December 15, 2008 Share Posted December 15, 2008 I don't think you did such an awful thing. You're both going through a tough emotional time. Things get said and done we don't mean. Let it rest for awhile...i go out of the way not to be in the same place as my ex (when the break up is rough)...it's just too hard. You'll be ok. give it some time. Link to comment
C6Z06 Posted December 15, 2008 Author Share Posted December 15, 2008 I don't think you did such an awful thing. You're both going through a tough emotional time. Things get said and done we don't mean. Let it rest for awhile...i go out of the way not to be in the same place as my ex (when the break up is rough)...it's just too hard. You'll be ok. give it some time. Yes, I did....But I sent her a text today saying that I only pulled that stunt to make her angry and that I hoped she was having a great day and that I'll talk to her later. she text'd back, "k"......So hopefully everything is good. Link to comment
25thfloor Posted December 15, 2008 Share Posted December 15, 2008 Yes, I did....But I sent her a text today saying that I only pulled that stunt to make her angry and that I hoped she was having a great day and that I'll talk to her later. she text'd back, "k"......So hopefully everything is good. yes, and that's why i said it wasn't so awful. it was emotional and stupid...but that's what break ups do to folks. when i got divorced, we said some really awful things to each other....but after everything cooled down, we laughed about how silly we were! for example, i took a few of his cds so he held some of my stuff hostage in is car. it was ridiculous...but pretty funny after enough time had past. Link to comment
C6Z06 Posted December 15, 2008 Author Share Posted December 15, 2008 yes, and that's why i said it wasn't so awful. it was emotional and stupid...but that's what break ups do to folks. when i got divorced, we said some really awful things to each other....but after everything cooled down, we laughed about how silly we were! for example, i took a few of his cds so he held some of my stuff hostage in is car. it was ridiculous...but pretty funny after enough time had past. She was the one that broke up with me because she said she needed some space...I found it quite interesting for her to cry because I said she lost me... Link to comment
C6Z06 Posted December 17, 2008 Author Share Posted December 17, 2008 Women, what would you do if you were in my Ex's shoes? would chances of getting back together be ruined? Link to comment
Grace Posted December 17, 2008 Share Posted December 17, 2008 I like to think I would call it quits after that, but depending how in love I was or how much I missed you, It would still be a possibility. I don't always heed my pride alas. I will say that although hurtful and mayhaps immature, it was a pretty snappy comeback, the kind one always wants to say and rarely gets the chance to... Link to comment
yankeefan74 Posted December 17, 2008 Share Posted December 17, 2008 ...I found it quite interesting for her to cry because I said she lost me... Perhaps she was crying because she never saw that side of you and she was hurt. You have to understand that even if someone breaks up with you...unless they are a robot, they didnt' just switch off all feelings. I'm sure that she still cares for you, and to see that from you...well...it probably hurt. I've seen far, far, far worse than what happened here...but i had an inkling that when you asked in the other thread what "give it time let things happen" meant...you were referring to a situation like this. And it is exactly what I suggested - it's similar to my ex saying "Who knows what the future holds." Link to comment
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