Letters, Do they work in getting her back??

[Maverick212]

My friend and I are going through very different situations, but believe me the pain and sorrow is the same. We were discussing letters and if they work. My girl dumped my 3 months ago, and since we live accross the hall from each other, well you can imagine how difficult it is for me. We are at the point where it does not matter to her if we are friends or not. Winter break is coming, and I am wondering if writing out a huge, honest, mature, heart felt letter, non depsperate letter would make her come around at all. I should point out that i have done this once before and it made her consider the possibility of getting back together with me. However, things went sour about a week later. What do you guys think? Has anyone ever got their ex back, or took their ex back from a letter?

[veneratio]

I got my ex to talk to me after writing her a letter, and only because she knew what she did was screwed up. If they don't feel anything toward you, or feel a bitterness when it comes to you, I don't think letters help.

[littlestar]

I am a big letter writer and i find i express my emotions better in writing.

 

If my ex wrote my a long heart felt letter it would sure trigger the thought of a reunion.

 

I think writing her a letter is a nice thing to do.

[keefy1972]

Letters usually only invoke pitty. Do you want her back because she feels sorry for you?

[Maverick212]

i started writing last night and i just couldn't stop. I wrote forever. It is a nice letter, very heart felt. There is no negativity in the letter, just honesty, and truth. I mean my ex says she doesn't love me, but i have a difficult time believeing her when she says it. It's been 3 months since the break up and i have been through one hell of an emotional roller coaster. I love her, i want her back, but she avoids me to make it easier on herself. When i approach her in person it never goes well, that's why i write. I dont know, I miss the girl so much

[Puckdog27]

I dont mean to sound cold and unfeeling here but if its been 3 months you should probably listen to her when she says she doesnt love you. Its your head telling you not to believe her, but 3 months is a long time, and her actions speak louder than your head. I wouldnt send any letters. I wouldnt call, I would do nothing. If I am wrong and she does love you, its only when she sees your gone that she will reach out. Otherwise, you should believe what she says and try to heal and move on.

[Puckdog27]

Has she told you she avoids you to make it easier on her? Have you considered she avoids you to make it easier on you?