Maverick212 Posted December 15, 2008 Share Posted December 15, 2008 This may sound wrong but i am out of options. Tell me if i am wrong. If your girl broke up with you and says she has no more feelings for you after you have dated and were madly in love for a year and half, is being seen with another girl, to create jealousy a good way to find out her true feelings for you, and hopefully get her to come back? Link to comment
SRufus Posted December 15, 2008 Share Posted December 15, 2008 It may or may not work on the one you want.......but it will hurt the one you don't want. Link to comment
thejigsup Posted December 15, 2008 Share Posted December 15, 2008 Speaking from a female perspective (I've been that girl) if she truly doesn't love you anymore, this will make her happy. If she still does love you, she will think you are through with her, never loved her, or are trying to make her jealous. Anyone of those is not good if you want her back. Link to comment
waveseer Posted December 15, 2008 Share Posted December 15, 2008 ^^^^^^^^^^^^ I agree with this 199%. Link to comment
Maverick212 Posted December 15, 2008 Author Share Posted December 15, 2008 i dont know if she doesn't love me or not or even cares. I say this because she has said that she doesn't love me anymore. However, everytime we talk she asks if i'm over her and have moved on. I dont know why she always asks that, when she knows i'm not. My full story is here it may clarify it more, i mean i know she has not been with anyone else, she gets rattled when she even gets close. I figure doing this may make her come to me. I know hearing her talk about other guys made me want to talk to her more. I'm thinking it may reveal how she really feels about me, even if she doesn't tell me Link to comment
thejigsup Posted December 15, 2008 Share Posted December 15, 2008 Don't date another girl! Link to comment
littlestar Posted December 15, 2008 Share Posted December 15, 2008 Jealousy is never the way to go. It's childish and immature and doesnt achieve much! Link to comment
Sn0man Posted December 15, 2008 Share Posted December 15, 2008 This may sound wrong but i am out of options. Tell me if i am wrong. If your girl broke up with you and says she has no more feelings for you after you have dated and were madly in love for a year and half, is being seen with another girl, to create jealousy a good way to find out her true feelings for you, and hopefully get her to come back? That's going to about the quickest way to get rid of her for good! Link to comment
Maverick212 Posted December 15, 2008 Author Share Posted December 15, 2008 i'm not going to date this other girl. I know my ex feels she can do whatever she wants. And i have told her that there is no other girl after her. I just want to hang out with this other girl, and have my ex find out and wonder, and possibly get her to think and come to me Link to comment
waveseer Posted December 15, 2008 Share Posted December 15, 2008 What if she really does care about you and just wants you to be happy? If she thinks you are happy with someone else wouldn't that give her reason to stay away? Link to comment
alli Posted December 15, 2008 Share Posted December 15, 2008 It might work for a while but not for the right reasons. Plus look at it from the perspective of the girl that you would be- for all intents & purposes- using. That isn't fair for her or anyone else involved in this; you are just messing with people. It would probably make her jealous & she might come back to you for a while, but whatever reasons caused the breakup are still there. Link to comment
keefy1972 Posted December 15, 2008 Share Posted December 15, 2008 Do you really want to be with someone that only comes back to you because she doesn't want to see you happy with anyone else? Think about that. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted December 15, 2008 Share Posted December 15, 2008 It may work if you consider work manipulating them to come back. If they are meant to be with you, they won't need you to persuade them by making them jealous. Link to comment
shemo Posted December 15, 2008 Share Posted December 15, 2008 i think it could go either way. when my bf thought he was losing me to a guy i went on a date with while we were broken up, he was devastated and realized how much he wanted me and started coming around again and being all in my business. i played it too well and he thought he had lost me for good and ended up sleeping with another girl because he was miserable and lonely (so he says). we are together now.. but anyways, i would suggest just not playing the mind games. Link to comment
Maverick212 Posted December 15, 2008 Author Share Posted December 15, 2008 would you suggest i confess my feelings for her again and get shot down again? doing the right thing has not gotten me anywhere. i want to do this because she is Link to comment
shemo Posted December 15, 2008 Share Posted December 15, 2008 i would not suggest telling her how you feel again. i am positive that she knows you are still in love with her, no need to reiterate and make her feel like you are constantly on her back. i would suggest just giving her some space and disappearing for a while. ppl don't often realize what they have until it is gone. when you stop giving her the attention that she is use to, it will make her wonder what happened and she will probably be the one to contact you. Link to comment
Maverick212 Posted December 15, 2008 Author Share Posted December 15, 2008 I understand what all of you are saying, and i do appreciate all the input. But have you ever loved someone or something so much that you would go to any lenghts to achieve it even it didnt seem right. That's where i am, all the right things have not worked, i would do anything at this point Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted December 15, 2008 Share Posted December 15, 2008 I understand what all of you are saying, and i do appreciate all the input. But have you ever loved someone or something so much that you would go to any lenghts to achieve it even it didnt seem right. That's where i am, all the right things have not worked, i would do anything at this point Yes, I have. However, you must also learn to love yourself and consider self preservation. Do you really want to love someone who leaves you? Are they the one for you? If they are, they come back without your influence. Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted December 15, 2008 Share Posted December 15, 2008 I think it would backfire, and make you feel worse in the long run. Link to comment
Smoothie58 Posted December 15, 2008 Share Posted December 15, 2008 i know if i was in the situation, and i saw an ex boyfriend with another girl it would definitely not want to make me jealous to the point of wanting to get back with him, it would definitely make me want to stay away. I don't think jealousy will work. Link to comment
manup7228 Posted December 15, 2008 Share Posted December 15, 2008 I would like to say that I think No Contact in general might get the job done for you man. You'll show her what life is without you, but at the same time, you won't screw everything up by being with another girl.. just a thought.... Link to comment
shemo Posted December 15, 2008 Share Posted December 15, 2008 I understand what all of you are saying, and i do appreciate all the input. But have you ever loved someone or something so much that you would go to any lenghts to achieve it even it didnt seem right. That's where i am, all the right things have not worked, i would do anything at this point Yes I have. But I don't think i'll go into details. haha With that said, even if you did everything you could possibly think of to win her back, there is no guarantee that she will come back. If you absolutely feel the need to play games, then by all means, please do. None of us can stop you from doing what you want. But be prepared for disappointment if it doesn't work out. Link to comment
JeckyllNHyde Posted December 15, 2008 Share Posted December 15, 2008 This may sound wrong but i am out of options. Tell me if i am wrong. If your girl broke up with you and says she has no more feelings for you after you have dated and were madly in love for a year and half, is being seen with another girl, to create jealousy a good way to find out her true feelings for you, and hopefully get her to come back? It may work, but it just doesn't seem like a good way to get someone back. What happens when you get them back and after a while AGAIN they don't want to be with you? Link to comment
littlestar Posted December 15, 2008 Share Posted December 15, 2008 I think it would backfire, and make you feel worse in the long run. So very true! Link to comment
Maverick212 Posted December 15, 2008 Author Share Posted December 15, 2008 i understand why the relationship ended and why it should have. I've written down every problem me and her encountered and even told her when we had a really long talk about everything, and that alone made her consider the idea of being together again. I certaintly cant do that again, cuz it's been done already, she is too stubbron and proud to ever come to me on her own. I need to do something shocking to spark something in her, even if it's just a lil bit Link to comment
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