Facebook status

[StrcPrstSkrzKrk1903]

Has anyone here had the experience of knowing someone in a relationship who puts his/her relationship status on Facebook as "single"? Not just leaving it blank, but actually as single?

[Samedy]

Yes. I've also had people put their status as "In a relationship" when the other person doesn't actually think they are in a relationship..that can lead to an awkward wall conversation.

 

I've also known people to have their status as "it's complicated", until their SO joins Facebook, then they are back in a relationship.

[mags_7531]

my ex bf had his status to single after dating for over a year and i would bug him asking him why he wouldnt change it and he would always say "cause it doesnt matter, i never change it, even when im married i wont change it..."

[lady00]

Yes, lots of people do this apparently. I have mine as "in a relationship" but I know people who put single when they are in a relationship because they are technically single, as in unmarried. Only way to know for sure if someone is in a relationship is to get to know them offline. Facebook is unreliable in that regard.

[Stormcrow]

Silly stuff like this is why i hate facebook.

[alli]

Facebook is helpful in a lot of ways in that it's easy to get ahold of anyone you've ever met & "friended". On the other hand it makes personal lives public & confusing. Kind of amazing that one website has had such an influence on the lives of so many people.

 

I met my bf a year before we started dating. We were friends on facebook after meeting the first time.. about a year later he offered to help me with something that I posted a question about on facebook, which is how we started hanging out. So overall I'm in favor of the site!

[Sn0man]

Silly stuff like this is why i hate facebook.

hahaa I so agree. One reason why I never add anyone i'm currently seeing to my friends list. That way they can't spy on you - because if you do add them, they will!

 

Facebook is bad, bad, bad for relationships.

[Teresa24]

does it really matter? My fb status is "single",at the same time,my ex and I were trying to fix our relationship,and he posts our pics on my wall,but I dont think we are back in a relationship now so I didnt change my status.

I just think most people there dont care about the status,and people who care will ask you directly.

[alli]

To actually address the original poster, I don't know of anyone who does that. I do know a guy that set his as "single" when he is actually divorced, but I'm not sure if divorced is an option.

 

That would be funny if it was.. so instead of saying "Jane in a relationship with John" it would say "Jackie divorced from James". Well, maybe it was funnier in my head...

[lady00]

To actually address the original poster, I don't know of anyone who does that. I do know a guy that set his as "single" when he is actually divorced, but I'm not sure if divorced is an option.

 

That would be funny if it was.. so instead of saying "Jane in a relationship with John" it would say "Jackie divorced from James". Well, maybe it was funnier in my head...

 

No, divorced is not an option on facebook. But yeah, I know people who put single when they are in a relationship. It doesn't matter to them because everyone who matters knows they are in a relationship.

 

There are ENA members who are in serious relationships who put "single." So, it happens. Not sure how frequently, but def. happens.

 

Jennifer Hudson's fiance used to have single on his myspace even after they got engaged but obviously everyone knows he's not single. I am assuming he just didn't get around to changing it for a while.

[forever1130]

me and my boyfriend starting dating a little over a year ago and when we started dating we were just coworkers, so no big deal. then he got a promotion and now he's technically my boss, for this reason we decided it was best to keep our myspace status's at single cuase we didnt want other people from work knowing that we're dating.

at first it bothered me, but now i dont really care. I know he loves me and so theres no reason to advertise that he's taken. it just seems silly!

thats my input!

[glegend]

When I was together with my ex, I always had my status as "in a relationship". When we broke up it, I put single then after a little while of seeing my own status being single I got sick of it and removed it. I've recently put it back to single, maybe a girl from my past might be interested in getting to know me and something might come of it.

 

I really do wish I never listed myself as single again, cause my cousin started up with wise jokes commenting on my status asking me who the girl I'm seeing is. Like its not enough that I'm dealing with this break up, eventhough its been over approximatley months now, but I also have a crap load of things that are buggine me as well. This kid wouldnt drop it, even after posting "haha very funny bro" and stuff like that he still went at it.

 

That cashier that I used to work with always had her status hidden. The only way you were to know if she was in a relationship was if she were to have to you so. On a side not two friends of mine from work were telling me that a girl at there school is dating one of their friends, who also goes to the same school, and they are currently going through some sort of break up and she has her status listed as single.

[alli]

I removed my status for a couple years because I was always single & saying so on my profile made me feel like a loser!

[glegend]

I removed my status for a couple years because I was always single & saying so on my profile made me feel like a loser!

 

Thats why I had removed mine. Thats also how it made me feel.

[Cognitive_Canine]

Mine was single for a long time. Then he changed the relationship status and I felt it would be horrible if I didn't accept it. LOL.

 

But, I don't find it weird at all.

 

What I find even weirder is when people write " (enter name) is in love =D" "(enter name) is with her boo!" "(enter name) can't believe how great of a guy he is!"

 

I typically find that annoying and as a marker for an insecure person.

[lady00]

 

What I find even weirder is when people write " (enter name) is in love =D" "(enter name) is with her boo!" "(enter name) can't believe how great of a guy he is!"

 

I typically find that annoying and as a marker for an insecure person.

 

I totally do that sometimes

[Cognitive_Canine]

I totally do that sometimes

 

Well, I am one who hates PDA. I think it stems from that.

 

So, I come from a different perspective.

[alli]

 

What I find even weirder is when people write " (enter name) is in love =D" "(enter name) is with her boo!" "(enter name) can't believe how great of a guy he is!"

 

I typically find that annoying and as a marker for an insecure person.

 

I know a few people that do that. Coincidentally, they are the same people that bug the crap out of me.

[lady00]

Well, I am one who hates PDA. I think it stems from that.

 

So, I come from a different perspective.

 

Funny thing is, I don't do PDA, except for on FB. LOL.

[lady00]

I know a few people that do that. Coincidentally, they are the same people that bug the crap out of me.

 

LOL. Guess we wouldn't get along

[alli]

LOL. Guess we wouldn't get along

 

Haha, like I said, it might be a coincidence. I can only think of 2 people off the top of my head that say things like that. You would be hard-pressed to be like them! The girl I'm thinking of was just so fake & dramatic. And the guy was just trying to make his ex (the girl I referred to above) jealous of his new rebound.

[Mythical_Suicide]

I think my myspace status is still single and i'm engaged.. I don't pay enough attention to it to change it. Besides, my page is private and only people I know are on my friends list so to me it doesn't matter enough.

[StrcPrstSkrzKrk1903]

Wow, lot of responses!

 

Thanks for the input. Let me explain the situation.

 

I met a girl recently who I was SURE was in a relationship. Whenever I saw her, she was joined at the hip to this guy. Anyway, she recently added me on Facebook and to my surprise she had listed herself as single. She started messaging me and asking me to go out for drinks with her some time. I was very confused.

 

Still am a little confused, but I don't think it really matters. In light of the comments on this thread and the observations I made of this girl yesterday, I don't care what she put on Facebook. She's dating him. I'm not going to waste my time on her.

[Mythical_Suicide]

Wow, lot of responses!

 

Thanks for the input. Let me explain the situation.

 

I met a girl recently who I was SURE was in a relationship. Whenever I saw her, she was joined at the hip to this guy. Anyway, she recently added me on Facebook and to my surprise she had listed herself as single. She started messaging me and asking me to go out for drinks with her some time. I was very confused.

 

Still am a little confused, but I don't think it really matters. In light of the comments on this thread and the observations I made of this girl yesterday, I don't care what she put on Facebook. She's dating him. I'm not going to waste my time on her.

 

Do you know for sure that she is dating this guy and they aren't just really close friends? Has she actually said she was in a relationship with him or are you just assuming? and if they are dating you say she just asked you to go out with her for drinks sometime, I take it you are interested in her more than just being friends? Otherwise what would it hurt just grabbing a drink with her?

[LE DHUY NHUT]

The above poster knows my stance on this topic.....simply put what your status really is or else leave it blank.Otherwise putting 'single' when you're in a relationship is just being less than truthful and can lead to misunderstandings.These Social networking sites are a hotbed of drama....if you allow them to be.