For all the broken hearts out here....

[coolgurl]

Hi All,

 

My 4 yr. long relaiontship ended up few months back, I lost a person who I thought was "the one", cried about it, begged to him, go insulted and all of that....lived a depressing life for about a month..then GOT OVER IT!! We did had one or two on and off's in b/w, but whatever. We had a wedding date as well, still he broke up with me. I kept thinking about this over and over again, and became a mess!! a complete mess!! who will not eat on time, will not dress up nicely, will not smile, take breaks at work and cry in the restrooms, and what not.....One day, I looked at myself in the mirror, and realised how different am I looking....that is not me, not at all, then the next thought that came to my mind was that after how many weeks have I looked at myself so closely, what is gone is gone...and I promised myself that no matter what I don't ever want to look this way. I am smart, independent, intelligent youg women...I have not done anything to be unhappy, and this is just the bad phase of life. I quickly turned to my closet, threw away e'thing that I bought with my ex fiancee, threw away all the gifts, cards, deleted all the pics (it was hard, but I care about myself, I don't want to cry everyday, or every week for a guy who never loved me, or was not in love with me anymore).

You know I live by myself, my family is in a different country, I have my friends here, but still, it is hard to stand up and be ready for life again!! But I am alone now, I am doing everything that makes me happy, I have completely re-defined myself, and I always remind myself, that "hey!! be happy with what you have today, ppl dont even have that much, stop complaining, and start living your life with e;thing that you have"...I am not crying, I am really happy, I enjoy myself, and I am OVER MY PAST!!

 

So, to all the ENA guys and gals, live your life!! Nobosy gives a crap to what you do with your life, except you!! Move on...you are stopping yourself from being happy, go out and be happy, and enjoy life!! Always remember that if you are happy with your life, then the chances of you meeting the "one" are so much better.

PS: I deleted all my old sad posts, helped me alot!!

 

REDEFINE YOUR LIFE..TAKE A STEP FORWARD TODAY!!!

[waveseer]

What you are doing is a great favor to yourself. You are loveable and you deserve to be happy. It feels good to finally be living in the solution, doesn't it?

[coolgurl]

What you are doing is a great favor to yourself. You are loveable and you deserve to be happy. It feels good to finally be living in the solution, doesn't it?

 

I love my life, and I am happy!!!

[Ideal]

I love this post! makes me feel a bit more strong

[faithful_1]

Thanks for the post. My boyfriend just broke up with me a few days ago. Gave me the old cliche line "It's not you, it's me." But I know in time, I will definitely move on.

[JohnDoe123]

Hey!

 

I don't think we really have a choice at first. The crying, neglecting ourselves, etc is all a normal part of it I think. A depression of sorts. Eventually, though, we should be able to do as you did and "snap out of it".

 

We each have our own timetable on when that will happen. Right now I am only a few days out so I'm feeling pretty badly but I know that down the road I'll feel a lot better. Thinking back on other breakups in the past there ame a day when I realized that I was over it because I hadn't given the ex any thought whatsoever.

 

Man I can't wait for THAT day to come this time lol!

 

I'm really glad you are doing so well and I wish nothing but great things for you!

 

Rock ON! Woo hoo!!!!!!!!

 

 

Peace,

 

JD123

[pace of ace]

Coolgirl

 

You are cool... girl

[millionaire1]

I am smart, independent, intelligent youg women...I have not done anything to be unhappy, and this is just the bad phase of life. I quickly turned to my closet, threw away e'thing that I bought with my ex fiancee, threw away all the gifts, cards, deleted all the pics (it was hard, but I care about myself, I don't want to cry everyday, or every week for a guy who never loved me, or was not in love with me anymore).

 

But I am alone now, I am doing everything that makes me happy, I have completely re-defined myself, and I always remind myself, that "hey!! be happy with what you have today, ppl dont even have that much, stop complaining, and start living your life with e;thing that you have"...

 

Wow!!! So good for you! This is what I need to tell myself and embed it in my thinking!!! I need to STOP feeling sorry for myself and wishing and hoping and hoping and wishing and waiting and waiting, . . . . .AGHH!!! I need to get Moving! Move on with My Life. It's my life and not his. He doesn't own it so why am I waiting on him to "fulfill it".

 

Thanks for this encouraging post. I'm not where you're at yet but I will get there.

[john4321]

thanks for your post, it has been 2 years for me after a 20 plus year relationship, and still cannot put it behind me. good post, maybe someday for me

[coolgurl]

Hi Guys......I really really hope that we all get over our past...and in this beautiful time of the year, around the christmas time, when every corner is decorated...lighted up, let us light up our lives "ourselves". God made us, gave us this beutiful life, to enjoy it ..right!! There are ups & downs...we'l be sad, we'll have phases, but let us promise we will stand up and be ready to live again!!

 

Happy Holidays to all & Merry Christmas!!

LOVE ENA -- it helped me to help myself