paranoia

[chick08]

I recently split with my partner 5 weeks ago. Icouldnt trust him i was getting very paranoid and i also feared him because he can be aggressive. I did try and to talk to him about my problems for months but he wouldnt listen to what i say and would not take the blame for anything. He used to flirt with girls on net and phone as a single man and eye up women in front of me i just couldnt take the way he was with me anymore. If i talk to him about anything he would say im talking * * * * and im just paranoid he would get fed up at me going on bout past stuff and things that he did to upset me and would often get angry with threats and aggression. Since we have split hes been emailing me trying to get back in there .We start off the convo ok then end up blaming each other. Today he said we should meet up and talk but i said to him we cant talk he doesnt listen i said after everything we have been through i cant seeing things changing he said things would be better if i gave him the chance. Then he said that i had a problem with paranoia and the breakup has been all me and i said but why am i paranoid and he said to ask myself and when i said it was him that caused me to feel the way i do he said it was absouloutly rubbish and when i gave him the examples he hung up on me. I would like to sort it out with him but he thinks that all i want to do is cause arguments and he goes on bout the times he has lent me money and done things for me and he says i do alot for u but all u can do is go on bout this * * * * but i tell him its not about buying things and going out its about the person and how they are but he doesnt see it like that what do u think i should do about all this. If u have read any of my past posts you will see what i have been through with him and why im very paranoid and he wont take the blame for anything.

[keefy1972]

If you could edit this, using punctuation and paragraphs, I'd be happy to offer some advice.

[Stormcrow]

Honestly you cannot have a relationship when you live in fear of your partners reactions and are continually noticing poor behavior in him. He calls it paranoia but the way things have gone since the split seem to indicate that paranoia had nothing to do with it. No contact and don't bother with him full stop. When you are ready go out and find someone who you can trust and don't have to fear.

[Shyguy24]

Why are you even talking to him. Look at the facts, he wasant listning to you , flirting with other girls ..infront of you !!!.

 

Also he is aggressive and you are still talking to him . The classic part is he is calling you PARANOID..i mean anyone would be with a guy like this.

 

Forget him and move on ...he sounds like bad news.