Popularity.

[robinhood]

Hey =]

 

This question really doesn't concern me but I'm just curious and would like some feedback/opinions from what girls think about popularity. I know there are exceptions to every rule, but in general, do girls only go for guys that have an equal/higher social status? And just for simplicity, you do not know the guy very well.

 

Thanks for any input. Cheers =]

[waveseer]

After high school popularity doesn't count for much unless you're going into sales or politics.

[COtuner]

And office politics....

[BusyNAbroad]

Well, I used to be the high school jock in my final years at school, and even at college I am quite popular...

 

It makes women come to me as if I'm a magnet... but honestly I don't think it helps getting the "right" woman.

 

A new theory in information economics says that too much information confuses you about what you really want.

 

Now imagine that 40 girls say they love you, send you romantic messages, and all kinds of stuff. How the hell do you know which one is the "right one", if there is any?

 

My conclusion is: unless you have other reasons to become popular, try instead focusing on the real needs of the women you like.

 

All women like popular people. Any woman would die to spend a night with Justin Timberlake or Orlando Bloom. But that's not love. It's putting someone on a pedestal and creating numerous expectations of them.

 

I believe I have deceived some people recently, who put too many expectations in me...

[lost1607307474]

Popularity has never played any part in any of my friendships or relationships. I like people for who they are, not for how popular you are.

 

And I agree in that after highschool, popularity becomes completely irrelevant.

[rub3n_]

thats what i think about expectations... if im popular and well respected and carry myself well with confidence does a women set higher expectations for me than i can match? like an almost perfect standard? all i know is how to be myself.

[COtuner]

rub3n, I don't think they set higher expectations. At least I don't. As long as you are being yourself, and aren't arrogant about it, I'd say you're fine.

[robinhood]

That's quite interesting xD from my point of view (and BusyNdizzy's) popularity does play a big part because it attracts girls for us. Most of the responses say that it plays a minor part after high school. I guess it's the way a guy carries himself when he's popular that attracts the girls =]

[trincitee]

Hey =]

 

This question really doesn't concern me but I'm just curious and would like some feedback/opinions from what girls think about popularity. I know there are exceptions to every rule, but in general, do girls only go for guys that have an equal/higher social status? And just for simplicity, you do not know the guy very well.

 

Thanks for any input. Cheers =]

 

popularity means little in the grand scheme. in teenage years, maybe it does. But I find adults don't care about popularity as much as teens do, or at least not in the same sense. Most adults I know value having a few close friends and that's it. But i don't know any adults who go out of their way to befriend as many people as possible or think that they pwn others for having more friends.

 

a bad person could be well liked, since he/she has social skills, charm, charisma, etc. A good person could be socially inept and for this have few friends, so in that sense popularity is of no bearing IMO.

 

I don't think many women going up from high school would care if you don't have plenty of friends. as long as they respect you for you, that's all that matters.

[MyheartorHis]

For me, I don't call it popularity. But if I like a guy and he is well known and has a good reputation that really helps. It's not that he is "popular" but it's the fact that he is obviously friendly, and other people have respect for him. (There's a lot more to it than that, but you get the jist of things.) I won't like a guy who doesn't have any friends because he has a bad reputation, though. He must have done something that his old friends didn't approve of or something like that and I don't want that in my life.

 

But I guess that IS a form of popularity... *shrugs*

[Imprecision]

Women pay more attention to you when you're popular. You're on their radar more often. They also feel like they kinda know you (even if you've never spoken to them, or if you can't remember their name).

 

(Lol, to indulge in a bit of narcissism - this happens to me all the time. Women come up to me and say, "You're Imprecision, right?" And I'm like, "Uh...do I know you?")

 

However - respect is more important. If you're respected by other guys, then women will value you highly, at least initially. You begin from an advantageous position - from then on, you must know how to play your cards right. Many highly-respected guys who can't make a half-assed move on a girl hitting on them.

 

How to be popular

 

You should be daring and talented.

 

The most important thing, however, is this - focus on your friends! When you're at a party, don't talk to the girls. Instead, when you see a guy standing by himself at the corner, with no one to talk to, trying to have fun but not really - go talk to him. Talk to him in terms of his interests. Show appreciation. Then introduce him to your friends. It'll make a big difference for him.

 

Always say good things about your friends, in their presense or otherwise. Think about your friends. Meditate on their good qualities. Listen to their stories - and be sympathetic. When you visit someone's house, bring a small gift.

 

You can do this even in coffee-shops or libraries. If you see a guy by himself, start a conversation with him. Talk about his interests and make him feel important.

 

If you do this consistently, then your friends will love you. Your reputation will begin to precede you. Then you'll be popular.

 

The other golden rules of popularity are: (1) Don't complain, criticise, or condemn. (2) Always be optimistic. Most people don't believe in themselves. They desperately want to escape their own negativity. If you are positive, independent, self-confident, and sincere - then people will gravitate toward you.

[poloplayer]

At your age (18 ), yes, it makes a world of a difference. Popular rules the roost. It begins to carry less weight after your early 20s.

 

25 is when the transformation began for me, and it's around that age that it happens for many, give or take 1-2 years.

 

I was still a boy before 25. But I still see many boys (and girls) that are older than 25. I'm talking about maturity.

[Cognitive_Canine]

Well, matters what your definition of popular is.

 

For me, it is someone who gets along well with a lot of people and is outgoing and well liked among a large group of his peers. So....yes, I do like popular guys.

[Truth317]

Even with popularity comes tradegy.

 

The sad tradegy that it's difficult to find whom you can take serious. For some women, status is TOO important.