bf leaves the bed - what do u think?

[emma34]

what do you think of this?

lately my boyfriend has a tendency to leave the bed in the middle of the night. he will come to bed with me, i will fall asleep, and then he will leave and go sleep on the couch. sometimes i'l feel him gone and go check on him, other times i just wake up in the morning to notice he's gone.

 

he says he can't sleep, so he goes to "dink around" on the computer until he can fall asleep or that he just wasn't tired (than why go to bed in the first place?)

 

maybe its nothing but i can't but feel offended that he doesn't want to lay with me all night or that he can't sleep with me. i asked if there was anything wrong, but he just said 'don't worry about it - i just couldn't sleep'..but it makes me feel distant from him..

 

am i just over analyzing?

[xmrth]

I think it depends on what he's doing on the computer!

Either that or he really just can't sleep..

[lady00]

I don't know. There is a theory out there that it's a bad sign--in the book "he's just not that into you" they make a big deal about a guy leaving the bed after sex and going to sleep on the couch (I think...haven't read it in a while). Now, I know this is not exactly your situation and I actually don't understand why they make such a big deal out of it. But they do.

[Samedy]

Do you snore? Are you a leg kicker or sheet hog?

[emma34]

no im a good sleeper.

[DN]

He may suffer from insomnia or sleep apnea and have to get up so he doesn't just lie there tossing and turning. link removed

 

Or it could be the bed is uncomfortable.

[metrogirl]

He may suffer from insomnia or sleep apnea and have to get up so he doesn't just lie there tossing and turning. link removed

 

Or it could be the bed is uncomfortable.

 

I was thinking the same thing about the insomnia thing. I suffer from severe insomnia and there are nights that I just can't sleep even with the sleeping pill I take. I don't want to just lie there so I get up and do something.

[DN]

I was thinking the same thing about the insomnia thing. I suffer from severe insomnia and there are nights that I just can't sleep even with the sleeping pill I take. I don't want to just lie there so I get up and do something.

Yep - me too. That is why I am often on here at weird hours of the night. I also have restless legs syndrome which makes things even worse.

[metrogirl]

See, OP it's probably nothing. Do you have reason to think that something isn't quite right here?

[m tandy]

See, OP it's probably nothing. Do you have reason to think that something isn't quite right here?

 

Mhm, if there are some other signs that he's having doubts about you two, then perhaps there's reason to be concerned, but there are so many reasons for him just not getting good rest that it shouldn't be a sign on its own! It says a lot to me that he tries to sleep next to you all the time even if he knows he won't be able to go to sleep. If he wasn't into you he probably wouldn't bother!

 

Do I suspect my friend hates sushi just because she can't use chopsticks? No, she probably just can't use chopsticks. Especially since she comes out for sushi all the time! See what I'm saying?

[Mindy1607307824]

Maybe your bed isn't big enough? I don't know, my boyfriend and I have two beds and I tell him to go sleep on the other one sometimes because I need my space (the bed is meant for 1 person and it gets hot and uncomfortable at night..)

 

Is this the only thing you've noticed? Do you have a reason not to trust him?

[babii doll]

I don't know. There is a theory out there that it's a bad sign--in the book "he's just not that into you" they make a big deal about a guy leaving the bed after sex and going to sleep on the couch (I think...haven't read it in a while). Now, I know this is not exactly your situation and I actually don't understand why they make such a big deal out of it. But they do.

 

this was my take on it, i recall someone posting here before who said her bf would leave the bed at night, she didnt snore no sleeping problems or anything of that nature.. a week later she posted they broke up because he said he didnt feel the same way about her anymore..

 

hope that isnt the OPs case, could be some of the reasons mentioned here.

[redhearts]

If he can't sleep I don't see why he wouldn't just end up sleeping on the bed later? Why does he have to go to the couch? Does he leave the house? Doesn't want you to notice? What is going on?

[Kimber038]

If you want to know, then check the history on your computer and then you will know why he is leaving the bed to go to computer and all. It sounds fishy to me.

[JadedStar]

How long have you lived together? Did he live alone for a good while? Sometimes people who lived alone have a hard time adapting to sleeping with another person. I got married young and never really lived alone for a good long time and to me it was commonplace to just share a bed all night. My SO lived alone for a long time and it took him some time to adjust. Not to mention he suffers from restless leg syndrome. Have you talked to your b/f about this? Maybe there is a logical explanation.

[ghost69]

how do you feel distant from him? you are asleep. it is kind of odd behavior on his part. i know i'm a terrible sleeper and wake up at weird times. i don't fully get up like he does, but some people just cannot sleep right.