Why masturbation isn't bad, when porn is?!

[rackyranger]

I am asking this question , from psychology and physiology professionals' view point.

They say, masturbation is a completely safe and healthy activity, which lets us relaease our sexual tension.

But at that the same time porn watching is mostly disapproved of, for obvious reasons.

If porn is bad, then how could masturbation be good; when in latter we do fantasize about someone instead of a real relationship, and that also with any dirty image in our mind?!

[Botched]

Great question. In fact, my question is about infidelity. Does fantasizing outside of the relationship equate actual infidelity and if so why isn't there more discussion of it.

 

I think that focussing energy outside of a commited relationship can and does cause problems. It signifies some sort of wall between the two lovers and indicates that there is some discomfort in thier relations, it seems.

 

As for your question...masterbation itself isn't neccessarily about a third party. It also isn't neccessarily about graphic sexual images. For some it is actually a phyiscal release more than a fantasy. It ranges.

 

I believe that it can be unhealthy. I also believe that it can be a form of infidelity, if not as wounding or sacred, it serves many of the same purposes. All depends on how dependant on the fantasies one becomes. Also, it may contribute to a desexualization in marriages as people struggle with seeing thier spouse as the annonymouse sexual fantasies they have contrived. It would seem degrading, and leads to a shut down...IMO. I am no doctor...LOL

 

Great post

[bulletproof]

Because some people believe that the porn industry exploits people, particularly women. And perhaps because porn sometimes showcases certain behavior that is objectionable to some (homosexuality, group sex, fetishes).

 

Masturbation is just you and you alone. I'm not saying I agree with other people's opposition to porn, just offering reasons why that might be the case.

[Kalika]

I didn't realize porn was bad ..??

[Timebandit]

I don't who "they" you refer to are? Obviously, both porn and masturbation can be addictive. As such, they can both be damaging (I don't know if you can be addicted to porn without being addicted to masturbation - but probably...).

 

Besides addiction, I think there are two main problems with porn: (from a male perspective)

a) Porn sometimes gives men unrealistic views on women and what is a healthy sex-life (porn has become more and more extreme)

b) Porn sometimes result in male feelings of inferiority (stamina, penis size etc.)

[Joshua1977]

I dont know if porn is something that should be looked at as worse than masturbation. But in my opinion porn is somewhat disgraceful. Sex is meant to be something that 2 people share when they are in love. Seeing someone in a porn acting like a piece of meat doing anything and everything , makes me feel sorry for those that are apart of it.

So I dont know if its wrong, but it really does seem worse than masturbation.

[Botched]

"Sex is meant to be something that 2 people share when they are in love."

Where is this intent evident in any way? It is not for you or me to say what sex is meant to be for any number of people.

 

Sex is a need, in love or not. And it stays that way even in a loving relationship. Sex must be sex and saying that the sex seen in porn is bad sex is a silly perspective. I haven't conducted a study, but porn is about sex, a natural thing. It is not neccessarily violent or abusive. It can be both violent and abusive, and I'm sure it often is. But to say that certain specific sexual acts are bad and make a person a piece of meat is really going overboard.

[yeawutever]

That's a good question there, this gonna take me a while, I'm thinking....... yes maturbating is a way to realease sexual tension, esp. when you're either single or in a LDR.

Porn on the other way can become into an addiction if you overdo it that is. Then you see how many girls actually think their men are cheating just because they catch them watching porn. The problem is that men probably know how they are going to react else they would not be hiding it, instead do it in front in their face.

 

That's wrong with fantaszing about someone else while in you're still with your SO?? Normal

[RLW]

hey, porn is awesome

[auburnslp]

I kinda think the two go "hand" in "hand", so to speak

[yeawutever]

hey, porn is awesome

 

True, unfortunately too many closed-minded girls.

[auburnslp]

OK that was a really bad one-sorry...

[Botched]

Save the junk for your buddies guys. This was a pretty good topic. I see why it is uncommon though. Grow up.

[Timebandit]

I kinda think the two go "hand" in "hand", so to speak

 

OK that was a really bad one-sorry...

 

This too shall pass

[yeawutever]

Seeing someone in a porn acting like a piece of meat doing anything and everything , makes me feel sorry for those that are apart of it.

 

Can be an activity you do for fun, some people get more turn-on than others.

[auburnslp]

I was just kidding-didn't mean to offend. But here's what I think in a more serious tone-I believe that masturbation is a healthy release. I believe that porn can be an addiction, and thus, a bad thing for some people. So can drugs, alcohol, gambling, even shopping. Drugs bad? Yeah-all the time in my opinion. Just my opinion. But the other things-not inherently bad in and of themselves. Only bad when they become an addiction and rule one's life and lead to destructive behaviors.

 

So is porn bad? Depends on each of our outlooks, personal beliefs. In my opinion, bad when it negatively impacts your life, whether due to addiction, or even if your wife or girlfriend or husband or boyfriend gets hurt by your viewing it. In my opinion, that is when porn becomes a negative.

 

Was that grown up enough?

[rose2summer]

I used to be really bothered by a men viewing porn but not by masturbation.

 

I talked it through with some female friends and came to the conclusion that it was insecurity.

 

I felt as though I wasn't as beautiful, big-breasted, etc, as the porn stars.

 

That's when I really understood there are always more beautiful women, but men want the WHOLE package (looks, personality, intelligence, values), not just the stunning porn star looks, so it no longer bothers me.

 

They may have incredible bodies, but they don't have it all, and it's just a fun release for men.

 

Hugs, Rose

[yeawutever]

I believe that porn can be an addiction, and thus, a bad thing for some people. So can drugs, alcohol, gambling, even shopping.

 

So is porn bad? Depends on each of our outlooks, personal beliefs. In my opinion, bad when it negatively impacts your life, whether due to addiction, or even if your wife or girlfriend or husband or boyfriend gets hurt by your viewing it. In my opinion, that is when porn becomes a negative.

 

Was that grown up enough?

 

Yup, that's good enough. Reminds me of food when eaten to exceed, even an apple can be bad if you were to eat 10-20 a day. With water, if you drink to the point of overdoing it, that can jeopardize your health too, to the point of actually killing you. This is where an old saying says that ''Everything done/taken in excess is bad.''

 

it's just a fun release for men.

 

Some women can fantazise too.

[Luke Skywalker]

In my current moral view, I see porn as bad, and have a neutral attitude towards masturbating and in fact own an FL. The type of porn I may cheat myself to viewing is soft-core porn involving exotic women in various stages of undress. Or, soft-core escort pics. I avoid any hardcore stuff like the plague and am quite rigid. I strike myself out whenever I do that (

 

I just see them as two distinct things. When you are masturbating, without the influence of porn, then you are either doing it while you are sleeping and need to release tension, maybe you want to express a fantasy, or just feel very, very horney and need to have a release. Usually you have some sort of 'seed' that was already planted before, or that happened to be there that is causing the masturbation, where it has to be released. Since masturbating is better than getting involved with the wrong person, or doing something stupid, I don't see it as a problem further than a self-control and self-discipline issue.

 

It seems more of a higher-treshhold to self-control masturbation -- but when you are dealing with porn, you have to actively search for it or get your mind into it. You are deliberately planting bad seeds in your mind.

[yeawutever]

I avoid any hardcore stuff like the plague and am quite rigid. I strike myself out whenever I do that (

 

Wow you, re being too hard on myself. If you get turn-on go for it, afterall it all comes down to basic human instinct.

 

but when you are dealing with porn, you have to actively search for it or get your mind into it. You are deliberately planting bad seeds in your mind.

 

True but like you stated about masturbating, the actual fantasy was already implanted in your mind so by watching porn, you are only adding a bit more into the original recipe.

[trincitee]

I am asking this question , from psychology and physiology professionals' view point.

They say, masturbation is a completely safe and healthy activity, which lets us relaease our sexual tension.

But at that the same time porn watching is mostly disapproved of, for obvious reasons.

If porn is bad, then how could masturbation be good; when in latter we do fantasize about someone instead of a real relationship, and that also with any dirty image in our mind?!

 

which psychological research says that porn is bad?

 

I think it depends on one's own morals and values, so it's a relative thing. Personally i don't think porn is bad per se, but it should be taken with a pinch of salt. It's purpose is for entertainment and isn't a tutorial, and i think a good number of people see pornography as representative of real life sex. But as entertainment in itself, it's pretty harmless, IMO.

[yeawutever]

But as entertainment in itself, it's pretty harmless, IMO.

 

True but I bet if our parents were to walk in on us watching porn then BOY would they be already freaking out thinking you're some perverts, even worst if you're a woman.

[Taomagicdragon]

I don't see either practice as inherently bad, just useless and a touch pathetic in my personal estimation (not that I'm calling anyone here useless or pathetic, I just find porn and masturbation to be).

[Mutley]

I don't see either practice as inherently bad, just useless and a touch pathetic in my personal estimation (not that I'm calling anyone here useless or pathetic, I just find porn and masturbation to be).

 

I respectively disagree. I've found masturbation to be very helpful when I'm single.

 

Porn is a different story...one which I will pass on.

[Taomagicdragon]

I didn't pose it as a fact, it's an opinion so agreeing or disagreeing is useless. Now if I posted it as a fact....