Good way to ask her out?

[ignue121]

Ok, so there is a girl I've been hanging out with on and off for the last month and a half. I've gotten some signals that she likes me, other signals that she she may not be interested. I figure that it is time for me to find out for sure. We've hung out 1:1 in the past, but nothing like an official "date"

 

I have a gift certificate for a free dinner at this really expensive restaurant. I am going to be around this girl and her best friend (who has a bf) tomorrow. I was thinking of asking the girl I like out like this:

 

Me: Hey (with the girl I like in obvious earshot) did you know I have this gift certificate to a really fancy restaurant to use by the end of the year? Id really like to take a nice girl out there on a date, Id ask you but I know you have a bf. Do you know anyone I could take there?

 

 

This girl is shy, but I do get signals that she likes me.

 

Any suggestions?

[Ammy]

No I wouldn't do that, if I were the girl and overheard you asking my best friend a question like that, I'd be like, "oh he obviously doesn't like me, he's looking for someone else to take"...

 

So instead just be brave and ask her directly if she'd like to go! You can be casual about it.. Just say, "Hey I have this gift certificate for this amazing restaurant, would you be interested in coming with me?"

 

Ammy

[ignue121]

i plan on asking it in such a way that it would be fairly obvious that I was implying that id like to take the girl i like out...if that makes sense

[Ammy]

i plan on asking it in such a way that it would be fairly obvious that I was implying that id like to take the girl i like out...if that makes sense

 

I still think the direct approach would be better. I don't know though, I guess you know this girl best, so you have to do what you think is appropriate.

 

Ammy

[psychoanalytical]

Think of something realistic and fun that both of u guys can do together - eg. choosing a present for your brother etc, and then ask her.

 

Doesn't have to be ingeneous, the point is if she's vaguely interested she may agree. If not, you've probably ruled out the possiblity.

 

I guess my approach is that of a diagnosis by exclusion - assuming she doesn't like you, but you need to rule out the possibility she does to be safe.

[ignue121]

Think of something realistic and fun that both of u guys can do together - eg. choosing a present for your brother etc, and then ask her.

 

Doesn't have to be ingeneous, the point is if she's vaguely interested she may agree. If not, you've probably ruled out the possiblity.

 

I guess my approach is that of a diagnosis by exclusion - assuming she doesn't like you, but you need to rule out the possibility she does to be safe.

 

We've done stuff 1:1 a few times before. IE she has asked me to go with her to a reunion event, last week I asked her what she was doing one night and she responded that she had errands to do, but would like me to come along. So I believe she is atleast somewhat interested. What I am looking to do is take it from the "we are just hanging out as totally just friends level" to a potential dating level, if that makes sense.

[addictedblue]

If you said that and I was the girl with the boyfriend's friend I'd assume you liked her better and were taking me just since that girl had a boyfriend. I don't think you should ask like that.

[Dubb]

Just walk up to her and say "ok" and when she asked ok what? Say sure I will take you out to expensive restaurant. Assuming you know her and she has a good feel for your personality.