lily_billy Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 im just feeling really low at the moment heres why: im 20 , at university, made lots of friends, BUT i've never been kissed or even had a boyfriend! sometimes i feel kinda proud that i've not had sex and regreted it like some of my friends but its christmas time and all that i seem to see are couples and people in relationships....... i was wondering if there was any advice that i could get on a guys point of view....am i a freak? Link to comment
Lionel Hutz Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 No you are not a freak. You are the complete opposite by Rick James's definition. Some are late bloomers, and thats a very good thing. You can have a better idea of what you want. From a guys point of view, inexperience can be a bad thing when it comes to sex, but everything else most are willing to work with AND PRACTICE. Dont let it bother you at all. Its worse for the people who are thinking "why dont I get any anymore, I used too." If you are at a University, you will end up hooking up with someone most likely. Just relax. Link to comment
ProtestTheHero Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 im just feeling really low at the moment heres why: im 20 , at university, made lots of friends, BUT i've never been kissed or even had a boyfriend! sometimes i feel kinda proud that i've not had sex and regreted it like some of my friends but its christmas time and all that i seem to see are couples and people in relationships....... i was wondering if there was any advice that i could get on a guys point of view....am i a freak? No you are not a freak. Kissing is something pretty basic and it doesn't take very long to get good at it. Naturally, the holidays bring out all the cheesy hand-in-hand, "every kiss begins with Kay" crap so the pressure and desire escalates, but it certainly wouldn't put me off if you were up for learning, lol. Link to comment
Bunney Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 I don't think you are a freak! But maybe you should ask yourself what could be the reason you have never been intimate with any guys. Do you think it has to do with your appearance? Are you too shy? Overbearing? Arrogant? You might not actually be any of those but it could appear that way to others. I'm just saying. Maybe ask a close friend of yours - I'm sure they can give you honest, helpful advice about it and give you constructive, well-meant criticism! It'll happen sooner than you think. I totally understand about christmas and such. I don't really have anybody at the moment also, and I wish during winter, the most romantic time of the year, I could have a sweet guy to go to the christmas markets with and when we get home, cuddle up in in the warm blankets and watch a movie or something while it is snowing outside! haha sorry for rambling All best to ya girl! Link to comment
Bunney Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 No you are not a freak. You are the complete opposite by Rick James's definition. Some are late bloomers, and thats a very good thing. You can have a better idea of what you want. From a guys point of view, inexperience can be a bad thing when it comes to sex, but everything else most are willing to work with AND PRACTICE. Dont let it bother you at all. Its worse for the people who are thinking "why dont I get any anymore, I used too." If you are at a University, you will end up hooking up with someone most likely. Just relax. I completely agree with this Link to comment
lily_billy Posted December 5, 2008 Author Share Posted December 5, 2008 thanx for the advice so far.... Link to comment
smiley1979 Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 This is very embarrassing but I'm 29 and I've never been kissed or ever had a boyfriend, I haven't even been on a date. I'm now ALWAYS noticing couples EVERYWHERE all the time. At my age everyone is getting married. I feel like crying because I haven't dated anyone to get close to yet. This is so sad. I am also very shy so it is extremely difficult to find someone. Link to comment
dev22 Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 You are only 20, you are so young!!!! It WILL happen. DOnt put so much pressure on yourself and just enjoy being single and in college, its the last time in your life before you have to be a real grown up, so take advantage. If you are confident in yourself and not desperate or trying to hard, it will happen. I promise. Confidence is key. Nothing is sexier than confidence in both men & women (not to be confused with cocky though, there is a big difference) Link to comment
lily_billy Posted December 5, 2008 Author Share Posted December 5, 2008 "u up for learning?....lol"......thanx tht for tht comment..made me blush though..lol Link to comment
floating_away Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 There's nothing wrong with you. I'm sure there are some people that would think it was weird, but you've saved yourself a lot of drama and hassle by not being in a relationship. Some guy will come along and make you glad that you waited. I think that guys are looked at more strangely if they haven't had a relationship later in life, but even then there's nothing wrong with that. I only had my first relationship last year (24) and I wasn't careful. Now I wish I hadn't had it at all. Please guard yourself, and you'll find someone great. Link to comment
Bunney Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 I assume that's you in your avatar, and I think you're really gorgeous and cute! And I don't say this unless I mean it. It will happen, trust me. Link to comment
Raistlin Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 I'm 21 and I've only had 1 relationship. It was a bad one, and I suffered greatly. I don't regret having it, but I regret spending so much energy on a failing prospect and not respecting myself first and foremost. You are not a freak. You are a normal person and have nothing to worry about (especially if that's your pic as your avatar). You will meet someone great for you, and you'll be glad that you waited, and feel silly that you ever worried. Someone like me, on the other hand... well, I'm young and decent looking, but I've got a long way to go before I'll even be ready to consider another relationship. Link to comment
iwishiknew Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 im just feeling really low at the moment heres why: im 20 , at university, made lots of friends, BUT i've never been kissed or even had a boyfriend! sometimes i feel kinda proud that i've not had sex and regreted it like some of my friends but its christmas time and all that i seem to see are couples and people in relationships....... i was wondering if there was any advice that i could get on a guys point of view....am i a freak? Your not alone, I am 30 and I never had a gf or kissed a girl yet. I can't believe I am already 30 and have not experience kissing or dating Link to comment
lily_billy Posted December 5, 2008 Author Share Posted December 5, 2008 thanx for the messages....(yes that is me in my avatar lol)....u guys are really boosting my confidence....the thing is that at my university all the girls dress in skimpy clothing so i kinda blend into the backgroud... Link to comment
redhearts Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 Congratulations. That is you in the avatar? Oh my God, you know how many guys go crazy over big lips? LOL. Your very pretty! I think you respect yourself and value yourself a lot, good job! Link to comment
Raistlin Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 thanx for the messages....(yes that is me in my avatar lol)....u guys are really boosting my confidence....the thing is that at my university all the girls dress in skimpy clothing so i kinda blend into the backgroud... Trust me, you don't want a guy that only notices girls for this reason. I am never attracted to a person until I know their personality. Sure, I may have a desire because of their physical features, but if they have the personality of a rock, I'd want nothing to do with them any way. You seem to be an intelligent person, and you are very pretty. You have nothing to worry about - at all. You just might need to be a little more social. And just remember: the only way to blend in with the crowd is to choose not to stand out. Link to comment
sns256 Posted December 5, 2008 Share Posted December 5, 2008 I wouldn’t worry about too much. You have many good qualities that any man would like. Being an inexperienced woman is not as awkward as being an inexperienced male, and you are still very young. Just remember to think clearly and don’t be in a rush to jump into the first relationship that comes your way. Think about what is best for you. I have yet to kiss a girl too, but I will someday hopefully. You are certainly not a freak. Please don’t start wearing skimpy clothing. You are not going to attract someone that is right for you. Just be more social, someone will come around. Link to comment
lily_billy Posted December 5, 2008 Author Share Posted December 5, 2008 Please don’t start wearing skimpy clothing. You are not going to attract someone that is right for you. Just be more social, someone will come around. dont worry i wud neva lower myself in that way! i was just saying that i dont seem to get any guys attention / interest because there are always other girls (in skimpy clothing)....but your right i just might need to start socialisng more... Link to comment
iwishiknew Posted December 6, 2008 Share Posted December 6, 2008 This is very embarrassing but I'm 29 and I've never been kissed or ever had a boyfriend, I haven't even been on a date. I'm now ALWAYS noticing couples EVERYWHERE all the time. At my age everyone is getting married. I feel like crying because I haven't dated anyone to get close to yet. This is so sad. I am also very shy so it is extremely difficult to find someone. I know how you feel! I am in the same boat as you. Link to comment
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