Shmily_04 Posted November 28, 2008 Share Posted November 28, 2008 Ok so long story short: my ex and I broke up about a year ago. Since then we haven't really talked at all after a serious three year relationship. Well all of a sudden like 2 months ago, he has started calling me again! Mostly the conversations consist of his new girlfriend, which really break my heart, but I try to be there for him. Yesterday he calls me up and meets me somewhere. I was freaking out bc I haven't seen him in a year. We talk and he tells me he lost his job that day and he has no one to turn to. Also his new girlfriend isn't happy and he thinks she may leave him. So he asks me for advice and asks if I can loan him some money. Now I don't know what to do because I feel really bad for him because he is one of those guys who just can't get a break, but at the same time I feel like maybe it's a lesson for him to learn that I was always there for him, and he should regret our break up. What should I do???? I still care about him but I don't want to help him out with her. Link to comment
waveseer Posted November 28, 2008 Share Posted November 28, 2008 I strongly advise you not to loan him money. Very strongly. He only wanted to see you so he could ask for it in person to make it harder for you to say no. Link to comment
jennamajig Posted November 28, 2008 Share Posted November 28, 2008 I strongly advise you not to loan him money. Very strongly. He only wanted to see you so he could ask for it in person to make it harder for you to say no. Much word to this. Do not loan him any money. Link to comment
Shmily_04 Posted November 28, 2008 Author Share Posted November 28, 2008 I strongly advise you not to loan him money. Very strongly. He only wanted to see you so he could ask for it in person to make it harder for you to say no. Thank you, sadly I thought that to..... He claims he asked me because I'm the only person he has. Link to comment
Teamjim1bamf Posted November 28, 2008 Share Posted November 28, 2008 depends on how much money and what it means to you. The only way I would give the person the money is with no expectation of anything in return. As long as you don't mind that he may completely disappear again after you give him money then go ahead and do it as a selfless act. One step closer to heaven r' something like that. From the sound of it though he is using you one way or another Link to comment
waveseer Posted November 28, 2008 Share Posted November 28, 2008 Thank you, sadly I thought that to..... He claims he asked me because I'm the only person he has. I'm sorry you had to find out he wasn't who you wish he was. Link to comment
waveseer Posted November 28, 2008 Share Posted November 28, 2008 depends on how much money and what it means to you. The only way I would give the person the money is with no expectation of anything in return. As long as you don't mind that he may completely disappear again after you give him money then go ahead and do it as a selfless act. One step closer to heaven r' something like that. From the sound of it though he is using you one way or another It doesn't work that way with this type. If you give them money once they will come back for more over and over and over and.... It really is better not to start the vicious cycle. Link to comment
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