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Mixed Signals while reconciling


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Is it normal to go through a period of a man going "hot" when trying to work things out with ex-boyfriend, then have him go to "cold"? For example, saying "Baby, I love you" consistently, then not saying it all all the past few days?

 

Would the mixed signals be a moment of doubt on his part? Or is it something normal people go through during the reconciling process?

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To add more info: A few days ago, I had informed him that his cousin's ex-girlfriend had been in contact with me, fabricated lies about prior actions of his that never happened, such as dating other women, and that he was a horrible person. After he yelled at her, his cousins said to not call me anymore, which she still did. I told my ex about this, which really set him off. And moments prior to me telling him, he was "I'm so excited to see you, I can't wait, I love you."

 

I wonder if his coldness is from him questioning me or he's just sorting through a few things. The cousin's girlfriend and I were never that chummy, and it was strange how she always tried to bring up things from the past even when I didn't want to talk about the relationship at all.

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To add more info: A few days ago, I had informed him that his cousin's ex-girlfriend had been in contact with me, fabricated lies about prior actions of his that never happened, such as dating other women, and that he was a horrible person. After he yelled at her, his cousins said to not call me anymore, which she still did. I told my ex about this, which really set him off. And moments prior to me telling him, he was "I'm so excited to see you, I can't wait, I love you."

 

I wonder if his coldness is from him questioning me or he's just sorting through a few things. The cousin's girlfriend and I were never that chummy, and it was strange how she always tried to bring up things from the past even when I didn't want to talk about the relationship at all.

 

So, he was in a good mood and told you how he loved you, then, you brought up a negative and dramatic situation which portrayed him as a not so good person. No guy wants to deal with drama. You totally killed his mojo.

Poor timing and communication.

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Yeah...ugh...I really want to call up the cousin's girlfriend and clean up what's been going on...I really don't want bad blood between anyone. The ex has requested that I don't. Though, strangely, she tried calling me at 2:30 in the morning over the weekend...why, who knows, didn't answer.

 

We have a date for tonight...I'm nervous...while before, no nervousness. Guess I will have to gage things in person. I was framing with that I wanted to be open and honest with things, and I guess telling him about what she said was a dumb idea.

 

While the coldness I'm feeling has only been a few days...I still wish it's just me overreacting.

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Actually, he said, "i think that we should make sure everything is cool with us, before worrying about her."

 

I agreed with him, "okay." But at the same time, it's burning inside me to ask him to elaborate on that statement. I want to appear calm, cool, and collected, but I wonder if I should see that statement as nothing more than we're working things out slowly or if I should further investigate...need advice.

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