Had a realization

[redrose85]

My problem can't be my relationship. We have had an amazing last few days, and all it took was him pitching in. He did laundry on the weekend, a load of dishes, and made dinner (real food too, not instant) last night. When he pitches in, I feel so much better towards him, not bitter... and there's a marked difference in my attitude towards him. It feels like a partnership, which is how it should be. I realized just now that even when we were just beginning to date and fall in love, I still got hit by bouts of depression sometimes, pretty much the same as what I am feeling now. The difference is that he would deny that anything was wrong, and I would just try to forget about it. He has helped me find free counselling on campus, so I am on the road to recovery and hopefully these episodes will stop or be few and far between, eventually.

 

I really want to thank everyone who has responded to my threads about wondering if I should leave or not, and for encouraging me to stay and work it out, because you're right- he's done nothing wrong, and these little things are not worth breaking up an otherwise wonderful relationship for. I almost made a terrible mistake. Ah! Just needed to get that out.

[DN]

Good luck - I hope everything works out for you and that the counselling helps.

[girl68]

Good stuff. Only thing to add is make sure he keeps it up! Don't let him fall into his old habits. As for you, make sure you tell him how you appricate it

[Seraphim]

That is the thing when there is mutual respect life goes so well! Both of you keep up the good work!